What if my parents and I have different views on life?

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What if I have a different outlook on life with my parents?

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Hello! Lifehacker has a place where we tell you how to deal with your parents if you have a disagreement. Here are some tips from it.

• Focus on what you love about your loved ones. If you want to make a scandal because your mother said that you need to get married as soon as possible, then remember how she supported you when you decided to change your job. This does not mean that your position does not need to be defended. It's just that this approach will help to see in a loved one not an enemy, but an ally.
• Consider whether to stir up the conflict. For example, parents think that it is worth voting for another candidate in an election. Or they say that complementary foods should be introduced to an infant from four months. And you follow the WHO Complementary Food recommendations and prefer to wait until he is six. These are not contradictions that should be brought to a quarrel. Just try not to touch on painful topics, to divert the conversation, or to gently laugh it off.
• Remember that your goal is to extinguish the conflict. And also to protect their borders and prevent new disputes in the future - but not in any way humiliate opponents and not defend their innocence at any cost. It is useless to argue to the point of hoarseness whether there is a God and whether it is worthwhile to allow LGBT people to marry. It is more important to come to the conclusion that the other side speaks correctly, recognizes your point of view and does not impose its own on you.

And follow the link above for even more tips to help you move your disagreements with your parents into a peaceful course.