Table of contents:
- 1. Imagine life without what you love
- 2. Realize your mortality
- 3. Don't try to keep everything under control
- 4. Give up the usual comfort sometimes
2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Surprisingly, thinking about death will help you become happier, but a comfortable life will not.
1. Imagine life without what you love
Negative visualization is a representation of life without dear people and things. Not the most enjoyable thought experiment, but it is very beneficial.
For example, you live in a flood-prone area. Imagine that your house and all your belongings are flooded. This practice will help you look at life differently. You will understand that any day in which nothing bad happened is a gift and a happy event in itself.
You will become more relaxed about things that annoy you. Even the crying of a newborn baby and sleepless nights will become more pleasant, one has only to imagine that tomorrow the baby will be gone.
You will learn to live, love and enjoy right now. Enjoy every moment.
2. Realize your mortality
We are terribly afraid of death. But there is no point in being afraid of what will naturally and sooner or later overtake everyone. Surprisingly, in order to be happy now, it is important to understand that you are going to die. And benefit from it.
Imagine that a doctor has given you a disappointing diagnosis, and you have six months to live. It will cheer you up and help you understand where you are spending your life. Look at yourself, family, activities, and hobbies differently. Ask yourself, would you spend the last days of your life at your work, in your environment, doing your usual things? Consider whether your lifestyle brings happiness. If not, change it!
Thinking about your own death will change the way you think about life. Perhaps considering death as a real prospect, you will make new decisions. Do what you didn't have the courage to do. You will begin to really live, and not exist in the delusions that you still have a lot of time left.
3. Don't try to keep everything under control
The only thing we can really control is our actions. The rest is beyond our control. We only mistakenly believe that we are influencing the situation. It is important to realize this and get rid of unnecessary anxiety in order to become a happy person.
You cannot enjoy life, constantly worrying about things that do not even depend on you.
Keep this in mind when setting your next goal. Link the achievement of the goal only with what you can control - by your own efforts, and separate it from the final result beyond your control.
For example, instead of "I need this job," say to yourself, "I have to prepare well for the interview to get a job." Instead of "I need a girlfriend," say, "I have to be an interesting conversationalist, an attentive and caring man to be attractive."
4. Give up the usual comfort sometimes
The more comfortable life is, the more unhappy a person is. Good quickly becomes boring and ceases to please. To feel happy, you have to constantly increase the number of things that give this feeling. But there is a simpler and more efficient way.
Periodically limit yourself to simple things in order to understand how pleasant it is to have them in life.
For example, stop eating too much from time to time. After fasting days, you will gladly take on the usual dishes that a couple of days ago were considered boring.
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