12 questions on which our relationships with others depend

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

"What do I expect from others?", "How do I show love?", "Can I be myself with friends?" - Questions like this will help determine where other people are in your life.

It is impossible to reduce success in relationships with people to one formula. Psychologists, philosophers and poets have spent hundreds of years trying to explain why relationships are so important in our lives. And in the answer of each of them, you can find a particle of truth.

In my opinion, a universal way to define the meaning of a relationship for ourselves is to ask ourselves questions that reflect the quality of our attachments. I have collected 12 such questions. Answer them to understand where you have already achieved success, and what still needs to be worked on.

1. Who do I love?

And it's not just about romantic love. You can love your friends, loved ones, even your boss, although this can be difficult. The main thing is to determine how much this feeling is present in your life.

2. What do I expect from others?

The quality of our relationship is determined by what we expect from others. Don't make false expectations. To do this, get to know each person better with whom life brings you.

3. Do I devote enough time to loved ones?

Time is one of the languages of love. Walks, conversations, meetings - even a few minutes spent with loved ones are worth much more than whole days next to those to whom we are indifferent. Spend time with those who appreciate it.

4. How do I respond to criticism?

In strong relationships, people are not afraid to tell each other the truth, even if the truth is bitter. Responsiveness to criticism and open discussion of issues are the most important skills in any relationship.

5. What in me can repel other people?

It is important to maintain your individuality in dealing with people. Yet knowing your weaknesses and how to deal with them helps to compensate for your weaknesses when you need them.

6. Who are my friends? Why are we together?

Often people become friends "by accident": they met at school, at university or at work. But the best way to choose friends is to look for shared values that bring you closer and mutually enrich you.

7. Am I afraid to be myself with friends?

In a healthy relationship, we are loved and appreciated for who we are, with all our strengths and weaknesses. Do not be afraid or hide them. You are sure to meet people who appreciate this unique combination.

8. How do I enrich the lives of others?

The best way to strengthen a relationship is to give your time, attention, or help to those you care about. The closest people bring something special into our life, and it is important to give something back.

9. What am I looking for in other people?

Decide for yourself what exactly attracts you to those around you, what traits, habits, personality traits are especially important to you. This will make your choice more conscious, and you will be able to appreciate the people around you more.

10. Do I often say yes when I want to say no?

Relationships involve honesty. This means the ability to refuse when necessary. If a loved one receives a refusal, he will be able to understand you, otherwise - this is simply not your person.

11. When people talk to me, do I really listen?

In communicating with loved ones, people dear to us, we literally dissolve in communication and do not notice how time flies. Try to maintain this level of attention in every conversation.

12. How do I show my love?

As already mentioned, love can be directed to any person and be not only romantic in nature. To express your feelings, use the five languages of love: words, gifts, touch, time, and help. Find out what the person values the most and share it with them.