7 things your other half should never ask for

1. Ignore outbursts of anger and physical violence

A partner has no right to ask you to ignore, deny or take the blame for his aggression towards you. As family therapist Carrie Krawiec points out, in this way he shifts responsibility for his behavior onto you.

Carrie Kravets Family Therapist

In a healthy relationship, each person is responsible for their actions, thoughts, and feelings.

2. Isolate from family and friends

The decision about who you communicate with, how much and when should always be yours. If your partner is trying to isolate you from your loved ones, it's a sign of emotional abuse, says relationship coach Shula Melamed.

Shula Melamed Coach

The only thing your partner may ask of you is to spend more time with family and friends in order to strengthen the bond with them. It is not the same when he restricts your communication.

3. Downplay your progress

Your partner's normal reaction to your accomplishments is pride. Irritation or threats indicate his insecurity.

If you feel guilty or frustrated when something good happens to you, if you cannot share it, then your personal boundaries are violated.

4. Give up financial independence or quit

By allowing your partner to control your wallet, you make yourself potentially vulnerable and dependent on it, says Kravets. If you cannot manage the family budget on equal terms, then mutual respect in a couple is questionable.

5. Accept unacceptable behavior from family and friends

Does your partner's friends disrespect your privacy or are his parents being rude to you? He shouldn't expect you to just accept it. Otherwise, the passion either prefers to avoid confrontation with their loved ones, or the relationship with them is more important for her than with you. That is, again, there is no talk of mutual respect.

6. Change radically

If a partner demands that you give up your beliefs, beliefs or values, this is a very dangerous signal, warns Shula Melamed. Hence, he does not accept your identity.

7. Become a mediator

A passion has no right to ask you to become a carrier pigeon for someone, such as her parents.

Frances Walfish psychotherapist

It happens that the partner says: "Tell my mother …", which makes you a mediator in their relationship and frees him from responsibility for his words.