6 exhausting attitudes that lead straight to burnout

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

These principles and stereotypes make us unhappy. It's time to give them up.

We are taught from childhood certain "truths" and rules of behavior, which we take for granted and continue to believe in them, even as adults. One part of these attitudes is really motivating, helps to work effectively and remain a good person. But the other only evokes a feeling of guilt, makes one consider oneself worthless and deprives one of strength. It’s worth reminding yourself more often that not all of the beliefs we’ve learned are true.

1. Work is work. It doesn't have to be light and pleasant

Our attitude to work as a hard labor and joyless occupation has long been formed and still cannot change. Work is needed so as not to starve to death, its most important result is money, and you need to rest and enjoy yourself on weekends. If, of course, strength and desire remain.

It is somehow not customary to expect satisfaction from work, interesting tasks, a comfortable atmosphere and a cool team, where everyone supports each other. Like, this is all from the evil one, and in general - for whom it is easy now.

According to a VTsIOM poll, Russians most often choose their profession because of the circumstances. Next on the list of the main reasons are their own hobbies and interests, pay and lack of choice. As a result, 13% of people are dissatisfied with their work, and one in five would stop working or move to another job if he had enough money for this.

In difficult times of crisis, when there are not so many options left, but you want to eat, you really have to choose a job from what you have and think first of all about making money. But in other periods, it is absolutely natural to look for an activity that will be interesting for you, and a place in which you will feel good. As well as leaving a company that you don't like.

Psychologists and HR professionals admit that monetary motivation is not the only thing that is important for effective work, and among the reasons for burnout there is no small salary, but there is overload, lack of recognition, opaque conditions and a low sense of satisfaction.

2. Every minute needs to be used wisely

In books on classic time management, you come across the idea that you need to be efficient and productive literally around the clock. You either work, or do self-development, or enrich yourself culturally, or sleep.

You can't just take the subway or fly in an airplane: you should definitely read professional literature, set goals for a week, or at worst listen to Mozart. In no case should you lie on the couch with a TV series after work. Why waste precious time on this when you can do a little more work or go to an organ concert.

This concept is not new. Some begin to suffer because of her in childhood, when they are taken to ten different circles so that the child does not mess around, is not left to herself and grows up as a successful and versatile personality.

In fact, such constant busyness and inability to relax can lead to sensory and information overload - a state when the brain gets so tired of the data flow that it starts to "slip". As a result, our productivity drops, and our mood goes with it.

Therefore, it is important to pause when required, and even sometimes get bored and idle. Ultimately, boredom develops 1.

2. creativity and helps to find new interesting solutions.

3. Never ask for anything. Do it yourself

If you need help, then you are weak and unable to cope. If you share tasks with someone else, it means that your work and its results become less significant and valuable, because you can be proud of yourself only when you pull the strap alone.

Approximately this logic is usually guided by the adherents of the idea “all by myself”. “She quickly got in shape after giving birth? Of course, it’s easy for her, she has a nanny, so anyone can.” “He opened his own business? It doesn't count, his parents gave him money."

This is a harmful and completely unconstructive attitude. If you need to delegate some of the tasks, why not ask for help? If it is possible to do the work not in two, but in four hands, why not do this? You will cope faster, and you will have more strength for the next achievements.

4. All cases must be brought to an end

Started playing guitar - keep playing until you become a professional guitarist. I started reading a book - in no case give up, even if it's boring. I chose a profession - work until the end of your life, until you make a career and get dozens of awards. Otherwise, you are inconsistent, frivolous and weak-willed.

Something really cannot be left in the middle, such as a course of treatment or activities on which the comfort and well-being of others depends. But if your goals and plans have changed, the task turned out to be unmanageable or radically at odds with your expectations, you can safely leave it at any time - and you will not become a bad person from this.

5. He did it - so you can

Losing weight, making a lot of money, moving to another country, having four children and making a career at the same time - someone has coped with it, so there is no reason why you cannot. And if you really can't do it, you probably aren't trying hard enough. Moreover, anyone can serve as a role model: from Mark Zuckerberg to the son of my mother's friend.

Only this ingenuous formula “he could do it, I can do it too,” as a rule, does not take into account a lot of input. The state of health and mental constitution, start-up capital, social stratum, family and environment, level of education, place of residence, participation of friends and family, fortunate coincidence, and so on.

Any other person is not you, and there is no point in blindly focusing on other people's successes, and then eating yourself up for the fact that you do not correspond to the ideal. Get inspired by people, learn from their mistakes, but do not forget to build on your realities and capabilities and move at your own pace.

6. To get results, you need to sacrifice something

Health, sleep, family, friendship, happiness and good mood, free time. It seems like there are no grandiose achievements without major sacrifices. Therefore, it is perfectly normal to push all your hobbies into the far corner while earning a living at home, or skip children's matinees in order to prove yourself well and get a promotion.

There are almost hopeless situations when victims cannot be avoided. But experts have long found that balancing career, personal life, family, and self-care improves job satisfaction and happiness.

And when we miss something that is interesting and important to us, such as a hobby or communication with loved ones, and focus only on work, we risk falling into a funnel of exhaustion and burnout.