20 things you need to let go of to be happy

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Life will be easier and more enjoyable if you don't focus on it.

1. The approval of others

What difference does it make what people think of you? If you are happy with the decisions you made, then you made the right choice, no matter what others say. Imagine how much effort you spend trying to read other people's thoughts, and you still can't guess.

Listen to advice - please, but do not let others decide how you live.

2. Anger and resentment

Anger destroys from the inside out, so learn to put up with annoying people. This does not mean that you can let others take advantage of you, just not to lead to a scandal. You just need to deal with the hatred, resentment and pain that remains inside. Remember, the one who makes you angry controls you.

Some relish their grievances like a gourmet meal, and this does not lead to anything good. Such feelings only harm you, not those to whom they are directed.

3. Ideal body image

How often do you fall for the beauty industry trends, the opinions of your relatives and friends? The body is the little that really belongs to you. Who, if not you, decides how it should look? It only matters how you feel. The rest is ashes.

4. Dreams of a perfect partner

Everyone has a set of qualities in their heads that an ideal partner should have. But life usually spits on these lists.

To be happy, you must love a person with all your heart, feel easy and comfortable around him, and he must accept you as you are. At least the first two points coincided - great, you found what you need.

5. Ideal life

Just as there is no perfect partner, there is no perfect destiny. Life is what you put into it, so if you’re not willing to work hard and put in the effort, then you’ve decided to be unhappy.

You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.

6. Wealth as an end in itself

Many people live with the idea of becoming a millionaire. This is not a bad goal, but it will take a lot of work to achieve it.

Don't get hung up on large amounts. The main thing is to find a business that will be your passion, and to fulfill yourself, then the money will come.

7. Hope for good luck

Don't wait until you're lucky. Appreciate your life and be grateful for what you already have.

8. Excuses

Excuses are your attempts not to feel like shit when you don't do something that should have been done for a long time.

9. Thoughts on the ex

You broke up for a reason. Remembering your former love, think not about the person, but about the lessons that life has taught you. Don't get hung up on feelings for someone who will never be with you. It will only ruin the new relationship and make you suffer.

10. Stubbornness

It's hard to admit that you were wrong about something. It's just that other people had more knowledge or ability to do something right. So stop resisting, just take it for granted. The less stubbornness you have, the more open you are to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel if you try to understand and accept someone's opinion other than your own.

11. Procrastination

Stop postponing tasks for tomorrow, live today. If you are constantly putting off a task, think about whether it is worth taking on it at all? Maybe you don't need it? And if you need to, tackle it now: constant procrastination creates feelings of guilt and stress. Is it worth it to suffer like this?

12. Baggage of memories

You shouldn't carry your baggage of memories with you, especially about past relationships. If you loved someone very much or thought you loved, then subconsciously you will compare him with a new person who is not guilty of anything.

When starting new relationships, get rid of old ones. Not only in life, but also in your head.

This is true for falling in love, and for all relationships in general: with friends, acquaintances, colleagues.

13. Negative

Thoughts and words materialize. So change your attitude to "everything will be fine." Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.

14. Condemnation

Since the world is a projection of our thoughts, we know for sure that everyone is gossiping about us (because they do it themselves). Vicious circle: you cannot follow tip # 1, that is, not think about other people's opinions, if you yourself do not stop criticizing other people.

Just remember: you were not in their shoes, even if you think you were. Everyone has their own cockroaches in their heads, and in life - their own circumstances, so tie it up.

15. Envy

Social media makes people unhappy. We look at our former classmates, classmates and acquaintances and turn green with envy, feeling insignificant.

The next time you catch yourself feeling this way, think about this: "Would I like to be the person I envy?" Probably not, you love yourself (even if somewhere very deep inside).

You are looking at someone else's life that you do not know. You have no idea what this person is thinking. Maybe when he dives into the pool of his private home, he hates himself or is wildly afraid of something? Maybe you, walking through the forest on a sunny day, feel much more pleasure than he, basking on the white sand in the Maldives?

Stop looking at others. If you feel good now, then everything is correct. If not, make it good.

16. Uncertainty

Happy people tend to have self-esteem (just don't confuse it with bloated egos). They are happy with themselves and exude confidence.

There is no reason to doubt yourself. If you have traits that you hate, there are two ways: accept them or change them. Every person has everything at once: a libertine, and a puritan, and a lying bastard, and a gentleman. You choose who you are.

17. Dependence on others

No one will fill the void within you. Nobody will make you positive and self-sufficient if you are unhappy with fate. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first become happy yourself. So don't even hope that your success is in the wrong hands. Only in yours.

18. Past

To live in the past is to bury your present. There were mistakes - okay, who didn't have them? Arrange a magnificent funeral for your memories, remember only the lessons and live on.

19. Total control

Sometimes you just need to relax and let life take its course. You cannot control everything, and you have to come to terms with it. Otherwise, you will be constantly nervous, but in the end you still won't change anything. There are simply things that are out of your control. They must be accepted as they are.

20. Expectations

People think that others should live up to their expectations. That's bullshit. Nobody owes you anything, just like you owe nothing. Nobody should be polite, attentive, neat, honest, pleasant to talk to, clean in the end. Nothing should be perfect, delicious, unforgettable, but it can be. If it will be - great, if not - you will not be upset. Be ready to accept everything that life sends you, and you will find happiness.