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7 reasons why you don't get calls after your first date
7 reasons why you don't get calls after your first date

This does not mean that you did something wrong.

7 reasons why you don't get calls after your first date
7 reasons why you don't get calls after your first date

It seems to you that the meeting went well and a spark has definitely flashed between you. But the day passes, the second, the third, and the person does not call, does not write and does not manifest himself in any way. There are several reasons why this is happening.

1. A person has a very busy life

A deadline at work, health problems, a long trip - but you never know what else takes the time of your new acquaintance (or acquaintance). If a person has a favorite business, hobbies, family and friends, it can be difficult for him to find time and energy for correspondence or meeting. And this is not always a bad thing: people who live a busy life are less inclined to make a cult out of relationships, arrange dramas and become dependent on a partner.

2. He / she does not want to intrude

For example, the person decided that the date was not going well and that you are not interested in continuing the relationship. This can happen if, for example:

  • You behaved stiffly, distracted, did not keep up the conversation.
  • The person has low self-esteem, and it seems to him that no one likes him at all.
  • He is afraid of being rejected (and for good reason: scientists believe that our brain perceives social rejection almost as real physical pain).

And the person may also think that you should take the first step. Especially when it comes to a woman. Our mothers and grandmothers (with the support of romantic comedies and glossy magazines) have been telling us for many years that a man should take the initiative, and it is unreasonable for a woman to write to him first, at best, and completely indecent at worst.

But, fortunately, times are changing, and all these old and useless attitudes are becoming a thing of the past: only half of the Russians surveyed believe that a man should take the first step in a relationship.

3. He / she doesn't need a relationship

Not everyone dreams of a family or a long-term partner. Someone goes on dates to find a passion for one time or just while away Friday night in pleasant company. And there are also those who are excited by flirting in itself, and everything that can follow it is not so interesting anymore. If a new passion does not write and does not call you after the meeting, perhaps she really does not want a relationship at all.

4. The person was just being polite

It only seems to you that the date went well and there was a "chemistry" between you and your acquaintance. From his own bell tower, everything is not so rosy: perhaps he simply skillfully “held his face” and was afraid to show what he felt so as not to offend you. After all, in fact, he did not really like you.

But if you’re sure you didn’t do or say anything hurtful, don’t even think to blame yourself for the other person’s behavior. People can easily disagree in their sympathies, and this is normal.

5. He / she needs time to think

Some people find it easy to sort out their feelings, while others need time for the impressions of the meeting to “settle down”. Perhaps your new partner falls into the second category. Sometimes this is even good: the person approaches the relationship responsibly, is afraid to give you false hope and wants to be sure that he is interested in you.

6. You don't suit each other

At first everything was peaceful, but during the meeting it suddenly became clear that you have fundamentally different political views. Or attitude towards family and children. Or even eating habits - say, one of you is an implacable vegan, while the other considers it a whim and thinks that lunch without meat is not lunch at all.

In a word, it turned out that you categorically do not agree on some important issues for you. And this can be a serious hindrance to the relationship. Take, for example, political orientation: an American study showed that 11% of respondents broke off relations due to the fact that they voted for different parties with their partner.

7. The person has lost your contacts

In the modern world, this is almost impossible. But if you did not meet on the Internet and exchanged only phone numbers, there is a small chance that the person has lost this number. Let's say you crashed your phone or accidentally erased your call history.

Whatever the reason for the silence, you will not lose anything if you get in touch yourself. If a person is not in the mood to communicate with you, you will quickly understand this. And if he actually lost your contacts, he will be grateful for the first step.