12 wake-up calls on a first date

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Sometimes the future of a relationship that has not yet begun is clear literally right away. You can ignore such calls and wait for them to turn into an alarm, but this is the road to nowhere. In general, read on and do not say that we did not warn you.

Call number 1

The guy takes you to his favorite sports bar, and during the date he pays more attention not to you, but to the guys running on the TV screen.

Potential threat

When you haven't completely grabbed a man's attention on the first date, you can assume that everything is clear with his priorities. If the game interests you exactly the same as his, then no problem. If this state of affairs makes you feel like a member of a knowingly losing team, consider whether you should give your relationship another chance and agree to overtime.

Call number 2

All evening, the companion tries to tell as much as possible about herself and her life, without bothering herself with trying to find out something about you.

Potential threat

Although it is believed that the main thing in a conversation is to impress the interlocutor, for a strong relationship the ability to be interested is much more important than to interest. When you feel that after a first date you know more about a young lady than she knows about you, this is a harbinger of serious problems in order to receive an acceptable amount of care from her. Simply put, you still have to put up with indifference to yourself, because narcissism is incurable.

Call number 3

You went to a classy restaurant famous for its burgers, sushi or falafel. Your companion orders a dish that is as far from the specialty of the establishment as possible, and then bothers that the chef is not overwhelmed.

Potential threat

Communicating with someone who prefers, shall we say, untrodden paths is quite fun, but only for the time being. When the path leads the wrong way, your gentleman will start looking for someone to blame. And how else, after all, everyone around him is to blame for his wrong decision, but not himself. In general, if you want to take on the role of the scapegoat at every opportunity, choose such a man.

Call number 4

You and a young lady come to a fashionable coffee shop, place an order, and she overpowers the barista with endless demands and comments as to what kind of coffee she needs. When all the wishes are satisfied, the girl begins to suffer from the fact that the foam is not thick enough, and the soy milk is too hot.

Potential threat

Beware of people rolling out a long list of requirements for a waiter. There is a great chance that the list of not yet voiced wishes to a partner will be just as long. Anyone who wants a steak to be cooked at exactly 60 degrees expects from a partner the same attention to their desires and desire to please. Let him wait further.

Call number 5

The man gently looks you in the eyes and laughs at your jokes, he is nice, empathic - in short, the perfect candidate to go on another date with him. And then he suddenly admits that he is going through a recent breakup with a girl. He calls himself a rather sensitive guy, but the full meaning of these words only opens up to you after a casual admission that the "recent" breakup happened 11 months ago. Finishes off the other person by admitting that your smile, hair or laughter reminds him of this fucking ex.

Potential threat

Everything is clear here - the guy clung to the past so much that he is simply not able to look into the future. If he seeks consolation in you so that he can forget about his feelings for the other, this is a complete failure. Trying to win your heart with genuine interest and care is one thing, but gaining sympathy by talking about your ex is another story.

Call number 6

On the first date, the girl begins to tell how she hates her mother, work, ex-boyfriend and everyone around.

Potential threat

People usually tell about themselves things that they think you should know about. When the young lady immediately embarks on revelations about her inability to build normal relationships, run as quickly and further as possible. Otherwise, everything will end with the fact that she will complain about the bitter fate of the next victim, mentioning your name in the list of failures.

Call number 7

He comes to pick you up, and your dog starts barking in response to the doorbell. You calm her down, but the young man demands to put on a muzzle on this beast. A feline hiss is enough for him to declare: "I hate cats."

Potential threat

Your puppy may be the cutest creature in the world, but it's impossible to re-educate someone who doesn't like dogs. If already at the stage of acquaintance a guy shows his disapproving attitude towards pets, you should not expect that the pet and the beloved will become friends.

Call number 8

A guy physically cannot concentrate on a conversation with you, food, a movie or music without checking his smartphone every two minutes. What's so interesting is a big question. Maybe he looks at the score with which the match of interest to him ended, studies the exchange rate or makes an appointment with other ladies.

Potential threat

A man's ability to focus on your potential relationship on a first date, when you’re just trying to establish communication, clearly shows how much he will be emotionally involved in them later.

Call number 9

During a date, your partner is constantly wondering if you are having fun, if it is too cold, if you like the restaurant, if your drink is tasty enough, would you like to go somewhere else … Volnushka is not a mushroom, this is such a person. He is so fixated on your feelings and sensations that he becomes uncomfortable.

Potential threat

It is clear that each of us wants to please others, but when a guy or girl tries too hard to please, there are serious problems with self-esteem. If you don't feel like spending your whole life arguing in vain that your lover is great, your relationship is excellent, and you just idolize him, consider whether it is worth going on a second date with someone who is overwhelmed by the desire to be good for everyone.

Call number 10

The girl talks about her views on politics, religion, human nature, money - whatever, and her opinions and beliefs are fundamentally different from yours.

Potential threat

Of course, not all disagreements are dangerous for a relationship, but if some of them cause an alarm in your head, you should trust your intuition. Remember that trying to change your partner is not the same as being with someone who is willing and ready to change.

Call number 11

He is rude. He is rude to your roommate, your mother, everyone you meet. You can do without rudeness, but no - even the restaurant administrator gets it, because this scoundrel dared to seat some couple at the table before you.

Potential threat

First dates are stressful enough, but if your boyfriend reacts to positive experiences in this way, what happens when something unpleasant happens?

Call number 12

She orders a third Whiskey Sour as soon as she finishes the second, or she does not drink emphatically, but keeps a close eye on every beer that the waiters carry to other tables. Alternatively, it constantly sticks to the smartphone, even during a conversation with you.

Potential threat

Hi-hi, this is an addiction! An unhealthy concern about an empty glass and envious glances at the drinking people around are signs of a confused relationship with alcohol. There are studies proving that the habit of checking every minute how things are going on social networks, whether there are new letters and sms, also refers to addictions. Coping with addictive behavior is very difficult, keep this in mind before the relationship gets serious.