7 types of couples who find it difficult to maintain a relationship

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Difficulties can arise in both overly emotional people and overly restrained.

1. Drama Kings

Some personalities seem to perform on large stages. Such people do everything on such a grand scale that they can be heard and seen in the last row. If this is a delight, then it is overwhelming. If there is indignation, then a blast wave will rip everyone around from their place.

Alone, such people are often unbearable, but generally harmless. When two people like that meet, the drama gets out of hand. Italian passions boil between them. The couple quarrels violently and makes up just as violently. It would seem a continuous harmony.

The only problem is that the kings of drama need an audience. They will not become grateful spectators for each other. On the contrary, they will fight for the role of the leading artist. But living in constant battle is difficult. So sooner or later someone will leave dramatically. And there will be no second act.

2. Accountants

In any relationship, balance is important: partners take and give roughly equally so that there are no distortions. But some take it too literally. And the principle "you - me, I - you" develops into "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth."

Any offensive miscalculation is answered with a blow. Late is punishable by even greater lateness, a mistake is indicative of harm, flirting is punishable by treason. Formally, everything seems to be fair. In fact, the relationship resembles a minefield in which you can not stumble, otherwise you will get doubly. Few people like this kind of life.

3. Quiet

Some consider any conflict to be a threat to the relationship. Therefore, they prefer to avoid quarrels: it is better to give in, keep silent, do as the partner wants.

But conflicts are inevitable, because they help get feedback from a person. It is another matter that disputes take place in different ways - destructively or constructively. But with constant smoothing of sharp corners, relations cannot develop.

Negativity and discontent will not go anywhere. They will simply accumulate until the unsuspecting partner does what he doesn't like. And sooner or later this powder keg will explode. And the destruction will be much more serious than from a small conflict.

4. Mom's pies

Modern society is already aware that relationships can be more than just monogamous. Various forms of interaction are possible if all partners are aware and agree. But there is a love triangle that cannot be considered normal: when someone's mother is in one of its corners. Only the love square is worse when both parents are involved.

Calling on his mother for help, a person, as it were, transfers her an adult role in a relationship. Everything is like in childhood: the parent solves the conflicts of the child while he sits in the sandbox with a spatula.

An adult relationship is built between two partners. If one of them has not yet grown up, it is too early for him to enter into romantic relationships. Moreover, in the affairs of an adult child, a parent can have an advisory vote. But the second partner is not at all obliged to build life around the desires and opinions of, in general, a stranger. So don't be surprised when this love triangle falls apart.

5. Lovers of emotional attractions

Films and books show us that in a relationship, partners experience the most intense emotions. Because no one is interested in stories in which couples reasonably got out of conflicts and took care of each other's feelings.

As a result, people who start their own romantic relationships often expect the same thing to happen to them. If joy, then in every cell of the body. If the chagrin from the quarrel, then heartbreaking, like the last time.

In pursuit of thrills, a person often begins to swing an emotional swing himself. The stronger the negative experiences, the more vividly he will perceive the positive in contrast.

But the fact is that suffering will not be erased from memory. Most likely, they will gain a foothold there much more strongly than happy memories. As a result, you will perceive the relationship more as unhappy.

6. Selfish

Being selfish is not always a bad thing, so let's get the concept straight away. It's okay to think about yourself. It's not normal to think only of yourself.

If there are two people who care exclusively about their own well-being, such a couple is unlikely to last long. Too many reasons for collision arise from constant communication. And if no one is ready to give in, scandals and discontent will appear literally out of the blue.

In a relationship, one way or another, you have to think not only about your own benefit, but also about how it will be best for your partner. But not in an egoistic way - they say, I know better what you need. And really be interested in the desires and needs of another person and make decisions based on this. If a person uses a partner to achieve personal goals, he turns into a faceless tool. And sooner or later anyone will get tired of this situation.

7. Strongly different

The idea that opposites attract is appealing. Books and films are partly to blame for this again. Differences in age, social status and interests allow the plot to develop through conflict.

But people find it much easier to build harmonious relationships if they have common goals and views. At the same time, it will be difficult to get along with a supporter of evidence-based medicine and an anti-vaccine, an atheist and a religious fanatic, a liberal and a conservative - the list is endless.

By the way, subconsciously, we perfectly understand this. Scientists have analyzed the behavioral strategies of dating site visitors and found that users are looking for people like them, not opposites.