8 skills every person should have at 18

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Checklist for everyone who has children (or not yet, but will).

Many parents are simply obsessed with safety and guardianship, so very often their children grow up sluggish, useless plants. It is to this problem that the book "" by Julie Lytcott-Haymes of Stanford University is devoted. The life hacker chose the key ideas of the work and accompanied them with his comments.

1. Talk to strangers

Safety-obsessed adults hammer the prohibition against communicating with strangers into their children’s heads so hard that it is imprinted in their brains for life. As a result, you can quite often meet hefty rosy-cheeked, and sometimes even bearded young people who are simply not able to ask for directions, place an order in a cafe, make an appointment with a doctor, and so on.

What to do for parents

Instead of a total ban on talking with strangers, one should learn to distinguish between good people and bad and safe from dangerous situations.

2. Don't get lost

You can only take a child by the hand and accompany him on all trips until a certain age. If you do not stop doing this in time, then you can get as a result of a programmed robot that can move only along routes known in advance and approved by the mother.

What to do for parents

Give more independence in movement. This is the only way to learn to understand the intricacies of public transport routes, get to the necessary places and never be afraid of getting lost.

3. Manage your assignments, plans and time

Parents are created in order to constantly pester about the need to do homework, go to workout, go to bed. This is what many teenagers think, and they have every reason to do so.

What to do for parents

Sooner or later, there comes a time when children need to be empowered to define and prioritize themselves, plan workloads, set deadlines, and keep track of them.

4. Do your homework

At a young age, you don't really want to do all these boring cleaning and washing. And parents are often sorry to "deprive children of their childhood." As a result, we get young people who are not even able to take care of themselves, let alone others.

What to do for parents

Ensure a smooth transition from shared household chores to full self-care. Including cleaning, washing, cooking and other prosaic skills that will always come in handy in life.

5. Solve interpersonal problems

If adults too often interfere in the personal life of their child and in his relationships in the team, then their child will never learn to independently resolve misunderstandings, experience setbacks and cope with conflicts.

What to do for parents

You should not rush at the first call to deal with offenders or settle problems in school. Give a chance to do it yourself and only if you really need help.

6. Cope with loads

Life is not at all like a straight and level road. Rather, it resembles a bumpy mountain track that climbs steeply up and down. Every young person should be psychologically prepared for tough competition, extreme stress and heartless bosses.

What to do for parents

Do not interfere if it is difficult for the child. Do not interfere, even if it is very difficult. Intervene only when impossible.

7. Earn and manage money

Whether we like it or not, we agree or argue, but money is the basis and blood of our life. The sooner we instill this thought in our growing children, the better. It is necessary to teach them from childhood that each thing has not only value, but also the price that must be paid for it.

What to do for parents

Give the child personal money with complete freedom to spend it. A strictly limited amount allocated once a week or a month, better than any lectures, teaches you to financial discipline, explains the need for savings, teaches savings and other common truths in dealing with money.

8. Make decisions

If parents get too used to the role of a driver and a shepherd for their offspring, then it is not surprising that children gradually turn into sheep. Yes, as a result, they become very easy to manage, but the sheep are completely helpless one by one, so they always try to stay in the middle of the flock. Do you really want it?

What to do for parents

Train the person to be human and to make decisions for themselves. Choose your own clothes, food, friends, music and dozens of other things that shape your personality. Having got used to making decisions in small things, a person will become independent in serious matters.