7 letters you need to manage to write in your life

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

It is foolish to deny the dignity of electronic communications. But they have one significant drawback: they can never convey the warmth that we feel, and the joy that we experience when we write a real letter.

Of course, traditional mail should not replace our online communication. Old-fashioned letters should become a pleasant hobby.

Think how great it is when you have one or even a few pen pals to whom you can write a real letter. Imagine: you open your mailbox and find the message you've been waiting for. What a joyful feeling it is!

In addition to friendly correspondence, there are seven types of letters that I suggest everyone write at least once in my life. Correspondence is a win-win lottery, you will win in it in any case: both as an author and as a recipient. The author learns to express his feelings in words, the recipient receives moral support.

Writing at least one letter from each category is a minimum task. The habit of writing letters regularly throughout your life will bring you significant benefits. Well, go ahead!

1. Congratulatory letter

We are proud of ourselves when we achieve our goals. But when others acknowledge our accomplishments, it undeniably makes our victory so much sweeter. We want people to see in us the potential that we see in ourselves.

Greeting letters are a good tool for strengthening both personal and professional contacts. A great idea is to regularly send such letters to colleagues and loved ones, congratulating them on pleasant events in their lives. However, if someone next to you reaches great heights, does something that you can admire, then this is an excellent reason to write them not just a small congratulation, but a full-fledged congratulatory letter. Maybe your brother just became a Marine, and your friend broke all records in the dash. Or your daughter became a college graduate, the first in your family, by the way.

Let the people around you see that you know about their victories. And be proud of them.

2. A letter to your father

The father is an important figure in the life of any person. Good or bad, but in any case, fathers are the first standard of masculinity for a child.

Every boy in the future wants to become an "ideal dad". Our fathers are sometimes so far removed from this model that we get very upset when we realize how much better they could be. And sometimes the exact opposite happens: they are close to the ideal, and we are worried that we will not be able to follow their example.

One way or another, our relationship with our father shapes our personality in many ways. Sometimes our feelings for the parent are so deep and complex that we ourselves cannot fully understand them.

Most of us have never taken the time to thank our fathers for everything they have done for us. The opposite situation is also possible: sometimes we cannot forgive them for the pain they once caused us. However, if we are not aware of our feelings for our fathers, we will never be able to understand how they influenced us, and to some extent we will not be able to fully understand ourselves.

Writing a letter to your dad is a great way to reflect on all of these questions. You do not have to send this letter if you have no desire - you do it for yourself. The goal is to better understand your own feelings.

3. Letter of condolences

Of all the letters you have to write, the condolence letter will be the hardest. At such a moment, it is very difficult to find the right words. We are afraid to say something wrong, we feel embarrassed. For these reasons, we very rarely write condolences. We assure ourselves that people already know about our sympathy and support, and words are unnecessary here.

Yes, they probably realize that you empathize with them. But they all want to hear it from you. People need to be reminded that you think about them the minute they are having a hard time. Let it not be long, but your words will make them a little easier. It really means a lot when someone takes the time to tell you, "I know how hard it is for you, and it hurts that you are suffering."

4. A letter to your future

Someday in your life there will definitely come a moment when you will feel that you have changed: you look at many things differently, make different decisions. To feel this is rather strange, in fact. This does not mean that you begin to forget your past or categorically abandon your "young self". It's just that your previous life is left behind, and it seems to you that "you before" and "you now" are two completely different people.

This "borderline" state between the past and the present gives us an excellent opportunity to reflect on who we are now. Think about what the child you were would say to the adult you now see in the mirror?

Now write a letter to yourself in the future. You won't be printing this letter for years or even decades. Describe the hopes you have in the person you will be when you reread this letter a second time. How do you see your career? Are you married / are you married? Do you have any children? Are you true to your favorite habits? What are your goals? What ideals have stayed with you over the years?

When you read this letter many years later, you may find that your previous goals and ideals have changed dramatically, but you, in fact, do not mind: you have those that suit you much more. Your youthful maximalism and naivety can make you smile and even laugh a little:) Or, on the contrary, facing your old dreams again, you can realize how much you wanted to achieve and how little you have achieved in fact.

Such time travel will help you remember your youthful dreams and aspirations, inspire you to new achievements, and if now everything is not going the way you once wanted, then there is always a chance to fix it.

5. Love letter

It's not always easy to express your emotions towards other people. Men are much more willing to express their feelings with actions rather than words. But women are known to love with their ears. They want words behind which actions will stand.

The difficulty lies not only in finding beautiful words, but also in saying them out loud. When we prepare a beautiful love speech in our mind, very often we do not consider the environment in which we will "expose" our feelings. The most embarrassing situation is when you are sitting next to a person and desperately trying to remember exactly what words you were going to say to him. To avoid all these incidents, we begin to write a love letter.

We often associate love letters with the past century. Men from the front wrote letters to their wives and brides, saying how much they lacked their warmth, and the girls, in turn, wrote that they loved and were waiting. Such letters went on for months, and came only a few times a year.

In the biographies of great people, there are very often wonderful love confessions that they wrote to their wives and mistresses.

Again about my love. About the notorious activity. Is love exhausting everything for me? Everything, but only differently. Love is life, this is the main thing. Poems, deeds, and everything else unfold from her. Love is the heart of everything. If it stops working, everything else dies off, becomes superfluous, unnecessary. But if the heart works, it cannot but manifest itself in this in everything.

From a letter by Vladimir Mayakovsky to Lilya Brik

However, your beloved does not have to be far away for you to decide to write her a love letter. You can even address it to the girl you sleep with every night. It will be more original and enjoyable than the standard love confessions we make every day.

Romantic letters are evidence of your love story. Which, perhaps, your grandchildren will read later.

6. Encouraging letter

In everyone's life there have been such moments when they had to struggle with doubts and fears, or moments in which they wanted to give up everything and retreat. If you are lucky, then a person appeared in your life during this unhappy time who could cheer you up, convince you that everything will be fine, in other words, raise your self-esteem and help you move on.

Such support always has a positive effect on a person, especially if the words are supported by encouraging actions (patting on the shoulder, for example). Although there are times when a letter is the best option in order to provide support. And not only because you physically cannot always be present with those whom you want to cheer up. The letter stays with the recipient for a long time, he can return to it and reread it at any time. When we listen to a fiery motivational speech, we listen to every word and believe that everything will pass and all problems can be solved. But as soon as we remain alone after a while, all our fears and doubts overtake us again.

An encouraging letter tells the recipient that you believe in him and his abilities, that he will cope with all the difficulties. Maybe your niece recently went to college and is feeling uncomfortable, and even considering dropping out. If you have a similar experience, you can help her with advice, encourage her. Perhaps your son broke up with his first love and thinks that this is the end of the world. Let him know that everything is exactly the opposite and this is not the end, but only the beginning.

7. Letter of thanks

Gratitude is one of the brightest feelings. Nothing else can support our personal and professional relationships as much as it does. Appreciation can instantly melt the ice between two people.

We all understand very well how we need the kindness and help of others. You are very fortunate if you have people in your life that you can thank.

For many, a single kind word helped to become a man again, and gold turned out to be powerless.

Erich Maria Remarque "Shelter of Dreams"

You should write thank-you notes as often as possible. Of course, it's much easier to send a thank you note by email (and it's certainly better than nothing). But just imagine how touching it is to receive a real handwritten letter. For example, if you have an employee in your office who is diligently and successfully doing their job, you can leave a small note for them to indicate how much you value their efforts.

We hope that, in addition to such small news, at least once in your life you will write full-fledged letters of thanks to the most important people in your life: mom, wife (husband), beloved school teacher, best friend.

Think about everything they have done for you and the changes they have brought to your life. Remember that nothing in the world is dearer than simple human gratitude.