10 things happy couples shouldn't do

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Happiness in a relationship doesn't depend on luck and chance. This is a daily job. If you don't do these things, you can maintain a strong relationship for a long time.

1. Complaining about your partner to friends and family

Washing dirty linen in public is not only unhealthy, but also completely useless. Tomorrow you will reconcile and change your mind, and the impression of your companion or companion will be spoiled for a long time. Instead of complaining to friends, talk to each other, ask questions that are troubling to you. Friends are needed for the soul, joy and relaxation. As for those close to you, they will be on your side anyway.

2. Compare yourself with other couples

Love each other for who you are. Comparing yourself and your partner to others is unwise and dishonest. It is even more unwise to voice your thoughts and comparisons out loud. You won't get anything good. On someone else's lawn, the grass will always appear greener, even if in fact the lawn there has dried up long ago.

The other extreme is comparing yourself to famous couples. Many stars only pretend to be happily married. For them, this is business and nothing personal. Live your life and don't compare yourself to your stairwell neighbors or Instagram stars.

3. Play the victim

Adults enter into relationships and take a certain position in a couple consciously. If no one forcibly pulled you to the registry office or forced you to meet with him, do not play the victim and do not blame your partner for the problems. Look for solutions and deal with difficulties instead of blaming your partner for the situation.

4. Be too serious

A happy family life is not a test of strength, not a matter of life and death. Loving people can laugh at each other and accept with a smile the difficulties that life sometimes throws up. In the end, they have each other, which means they have the strength to cope with any troubles.

5. Criticize

Each has good and bad. Happy couples know that criticism destroys relationships and kills love. If you don't like something, be gentle with your feelings and explain what exactly and why you are unpleasant.

6. Ignore the money topic

Money can ruin the strongest relationships. Happy couples are financially open-minded, they understand their needs, see goals and discuss the future together. There should be no hesitation about monetary topics. This is your money and your future. It is in your best interest to make him secure.

7. Play clairvoyants

Happy couples know that communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. To be happy, you don't need a magic ball and the ability to read minds. It is enough to speak openly and without riddles about your feelings, experiences, worries and hopes. Yes, if in a relationship you do not have enough attention or affection - just say so.

8. Bend the stick

Sharing emotions and experiences is good. But dumping all the negativity and stress on your partner is not worth it. It will become easier for you, but your partner will not, especially if he was not mentally prepared for the release of emotions. Want to talk? Ask if the moment is right. If not, look for other forms of self-expression and removal of negativity, such as writing letters.

9. Cling to roles

On your first date, you said you love to cook, and have not left the kitchen since then, because you have been assigned the role of a chef? Happy couples are flexible minded and don't cling to specific roles. The one who is free prepares dinner, and the one who returns from work earlier enters the store. At the same time, no offense, irritation and negativity. It's a matter of everyday life.

10. Find fault with the little things

A happy relationship is primarily about moral support and participation. Life is already full of stress and negativity. If the other half of the problem, for example, temporarily out of work, do not find fault, do not nag, but try to inspire with love. Your faith motivates more than anything else.