Table of contents:
- 1. Wrong choice of a photo of a personal page
- 2. Blank page
- 3. Banal first messages
- 4. Spelling and punctuation errors
- 5. Procrastination or haste with a real acquaintance
- 6. Cheating on a personal page
- 7. Harassing a user who didn't answer you
- 8. Interrogation of the interlocutor
2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
These things are definitely not worth doing on a dating site if you really want to find a soul mate.
On average, it takes a dating site user four months to:
- find a couple and start a relationship already in reality;
- give up and come to the conclusion that dating sites are definitely not for him;
- decide to stay on the site and spend another couple of years on it.
How do you get one of those lucky people who have found a couple? Try not to make the mistakes that we have listed below.
1. Wrong choice of a photo of a personal page
“They are greeted according to their clothes, but they are seen off according to their minds” - this proverb fits perfectly with the choice of a photo on a dating site. Think about what kind of impression you want to make.
The successful man in the photo will be more likely in a business suit than in beach shorts and with a naked torso. You still have time to show all the advantages of your figure, do not get ahead of the events.
The same goes for women. If you want to avoid dirty offers and inappropriate compliments, don't post photos in a swimsuit or revealing outfit.
According to statistics, most often they respond to users whose faces are clearly visible on their photos. Accounts where it is covered with a cap or dark glasses are treated with suspicion: if a person does not want to show himself, most likely, he is hiding something.
Don't post studio photos. In ordinary life, people do not look the same as in a professional photo shoot with skillfully made makeup.
If this does not concern you and you are always like a magazine cover, skip this tip.
For the rest, we recommend publishing their usual photos or professional ones, but taken not in the studio, but at some event.
2. Blank page
Who will you write to: someone with an empty account or someone who is in the interests of your favorite rock band? People tend to look for a partner with similar preferences. Increase your chances - fill in information about yourself. It is much appreciated if you list what you would like from a partner or relationship. However, you should not make a list of prohibitions out of this.
Don't write a detailed biography, leave a little intrigue. It is enough to list your hobbies and interests, favorite films and music preferences, and indicate if you have children.
3. Banal first messages
"Hi beauty! Let's get acquainted!" - every girl receives a dozen of such messages every day. As a rule, there is neither desire nor time to answer them.
The solution is simple: pay attention to what the person wrote on the personal page. People spend hours filling out their information, so do a favor: at least read it. This will help you save time and not waste it on knowingly inappropriate partners, and at the same time prepare the first message. Many are looking for partners with common interests and hobbies - play on this.
4. Spelling and punctuation errors
Girls, of course, love bad guys, but not knowing the grammar will not add points to you. If you are not sure about the written word, use special verification tools.
In addition, do not get carried away with punctuation marks: a large number of dots and exclamation marks in a row is annoying. They are usually abused by a nervous, agitated person or someone who is insecure and uses expressive punctuation to appear more convincing.
Hey!!!!! How about to get acquainted ……… call !!!!! maybe we'll like each other))))))”, - what can you think of the person who sent this?
5. Procrastination or haste with a real acquaintance
It's not a good idea to ask someone out on a date right away. If you like the person you are talking to, ask for his phone number and ask him out on a date, but only after a few days of regular online communication. Do not exchange messages for months or even weeks.
Finding the perfect partner will take a long time, don't waste it with the wrong people.
6. Cheating on a personal page
Most dating site users lie about themselves in their account. For example, someone wants to appear younger and slimmer and therefore uses photographs from ten years ago.
If you plan to continue communicating in reality, write only the truth. The deception will still be revealed, and the impression and reputation will be damaged.
7. Harassing a user who didn't answer you
If your message has not been reacted in any way, humble yourself and continue searching. Nobody is obliged to answer you. Don't bombard the user with messages or, even worse, insults. This is a sure way to get blacklisted.
8. Interrogation of the interlocutor
If you want to know as much as possible about a person, that's good, but action is important. When communication is more like a job interview, it's time to change something.
Not sure how to keep the conversation going? Prepare a list of topics, or better read information about the person.
Ask the other person for their opinion on a new movie, book, or event in the city. Men love to talk about hobbies, sports, politics, history, success at work. Women are more likely to talk about children, pets, activities, and their feelings.
These are the eight most common mistakes users make on dating sites. Pay attention to them and avoid them if possible, so as not to earn yourself a reputation as an unpleasant interlocutor.
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