6 most common mistakes women make in relationships

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Don't do this, and your chances of a happy future with your significant other will increase.

Mistake 1. A long game of hard-to-reach

On women's forums, you can often read that a man is by nature a hunter, and every self-respecting woman should be a little inaccessible all the time: quick prey is not so desirable and interesting. In turn, many men remind that they are not hunters, but ordinary people who also have complexes, fears and experiences. Sometimes it is not at all as easy for a young man to take the first step as it seems from the outside, and in general, in a relationship it is scary for everyone: both women and men.

How to avoid

For a man (especially at an early stage) it is extremely important to feel a reciprocal interest in his person. Few young people are ready to knock on closed doors for a long time and persistently wait until the object of their interest finally responds with at least some kind of reciprocity. Girls, if you really like someone - do not be afraid to show it, try to take the initiative yourself and, please, do not overdo it with playing hard to get. The main thing in any business is a sense of proportion.

Mistake 2. Lack of faith in your own beauty

I often meet beautiful, decent girls who are very insecure. Perhaps this is due to the fact that everyone is used to comparing themselves with photo models on the covers of gloss and friends from social networks, where it is customary to brag about achievements, and not advertise failures. At the same time, I often see very mediocre people who adore themselves so much that they make everyone around them believe in their own attractiveness. It works in a similar way in relationships with men.

How to avoid

People believe what you yourself are broadcasting. You cannot constantly engage in public self-flagellation and talk with men only about their shortcomings and complexes: sooner or later they will believe in it. It is not for nothing that psychologists always urge you to start with yourself.

Love yourself. Never speak or think badly of yourself.

Mistake 3. The desire to completely dissolve in a man

Some girls tend to plunge into relationships with real fanaticism. They are literally obsessed with their men and their interests. It is vital for such a girl to be together for 24 hours, and existence without a young man turns out to be completely unbearable.

It is curious that with such a model of behavior, girls inevitably fall into a trap. It would seem that men should be flattered by such attention. However, the absence of their own life, their own interests and friends of both the girl and the young man has a detrimental effect on any relationship.

How to avoid

People, regardless of gender, want to see an equal partner with their own opinion and attitude. You had some kind of life before meeting your companion? Don't forget about her: meet your friends and pursue your hobbies. And also men very much appreciate and welcome women's initiative in every possible way. Feel free to suggest.

Mistake 4. Obsession with yourself and your career

It seems that men make this mistake more often. However, as practice shows, girls who are not limited to the role of housewives and homemakers fall into this trap just as often. Career ambitions, a rich creative life, gatherings with girlfriends - there can be many excuses not to appear at home and not spend time with your loved one. Meanwhile, many men admit that they do not always feel needed, since their companions are quite normal without them.

How to avoid

We all want to be interested in us, to hear our desires, and to appreciate our presence in the life of another person. Of course, having a girl of her own is good (see the previous point). But here, too, a measure is needed: often a woman's obsession solely with her life and her own goals does not allow building healthy partnerships.

Think about more than what's important to you. Relationships are a story about "we", not about "me."

Mistake 5. Silence of grievances on the part of the girl

Any, even the most wonderful human relationship can be spoiled if there is no normal communication between people. Conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships are in some sense inevitable, this is a natural part of our life. Problems begin when girls practice long silence, do not voice their desires in any way (including in sex) and keep silent about their grievances.

How to avoid

As practice shows, it is better not to avoid conflicts, but to try to resolve them. The main thing is to give both sides an opportunity to speak out and be heard. Men do not always feel the semitones and understand the hints that women love so much, and they absolutely do not know how to read other people's thoughts (no one can). Therefore, dear girls, if you do not like something, tell me about it. If you like it - also tell me, men will be grateful.

Mistake 6. Tales of past relationships

Sometimes girls start talking about their past relationships not for the sake of any comparison with current men, but people are so arranged: we inevitably begin to try everything on ourselves. At the same time, awkwardness cannot be avoided in both cases: when former young people are greatly praised and when they are scolded. Disrespectful reviews of past relationships make men wonder why these relationships even took place in the life of their beloved. Enthusiastic responses, on the contrary, raise suspicions that the girl's heart is still occupied by the past man.

How to avoid

The recipe is simple: Don't talk too much about your ex. The less you know the better you sleep. Live in the present, not the past.