30 things I learned by the time I was 30

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Simple rules of life that many people forget.

A couple of days before my birthday, I decided to write a thread on Twitter so as not to forget my own rules that make me happier.

1. You can't stay where you feel bad

It's about people, about work, about cities, about everything. Staying where you feel uncomfortable is killing yourself, and there is absolutely nothing good about it. Many people believe that the only way to make yourself feel good is to leave the place where you feel bad.

2. Everyone cultivates their own garden

The author of this phrase understood it in a completely different way than I did. For me it means: "Pull your nose out of other people's affairs and lives and take care of yours." The effect is really amazing.

3. Your best friend today and forever is yourself

Everyone else - friends, husbands, wives, parents - will not be able to be with you forever, even if they want to (and not everyone wants to). If you learn to make yourself warm and good yourself, life will be easier.

4. One day a person will appear who is ready to pay you for your strange hobby

Yes, this is hard to believe. No, I do not know how it works and what kind of hobby.

5. The phrase "Nobody owes you anything" has a consequence

If no one owes you anything, then you shouldn't either. Especially large "nothing" you do not owe those from whom you hear this phrase.

6. Telling someone about your plans means dooming them to a big and epic failure

Let people be very surprised at the results, not far-reaching plans.

7. Done better than ideal

Better do it now, but badly than perfect and never.

8. You deserve the best

Especially if you already have this best. Yes, yes, I'm talking about expensive notebooks, in which it's a pity to write, good clothes, which are a pity to wear in everyday life, and that's all. Drinking tea from the service in the sideboard is possible, necessary and very cool in fact.

9. You need to forgive people

This frees up a lot of time, effort and energy. But forgiving is not the same as forgetting what the person has done to you and putting him on your neck.

10. People are not telepathic

No one will understand your sad looks, meaningful sighs, posts on a social network wall or complicated Stories. If you want productive communication, learn to speak with words through your mouth (yes, I am also very saddened by this fact).

11. Worrying about the bad, you deprive yourself of happy moments

Instead of thinking about how unpleasant people are, think about how to make yourself feel good. It won't always work, but …

12. People are divided not into right and left, not into naturals and unnaturals, but into good and not so

I do not exclude or deny other classifications, but this one remains the main one for me at the moment.

13. The best investment of capital is in yourself

Even if we are talking about an eclair. But with all sorts of things like health or education, it also works.

14. The environment should be inspiring

This applies to films, people, order in your corner, work - everything in general. And first, you need to get rid of the oppressor.

15. You have much less time than you think

What you are waiting for, or, conversely, what you are painfully trying to delay, will come faster than it seems. Be ready.

16. The perfect moment will never come

The moment when you know everything about the situation you are in will come right after the perfect moment. Get used to acting in conditions of partial uncertainty.

17. You need to define your boundaries

People will not respect your boundaries until you are ready to define them and, if necessary, protect them. See the point about telepathy: very few people around you know where these boundaries are. Try to tell them about it.

18. Nobody really cares about honors

Nobody cares about the school medal (in my case, the silver one) except the admissions committee.

19. One of the most precious things in the world is mental and physical health

Diplomas and certificates will not be useful for a person whose roof has gone, and you can be happy and successful without them.

20. Consanguinity sometimes means little less than nothing

Very often people who are genetically nobody to you will treat you better than those who lent you some part of the genome or have your family on the passport. It is better to allocate your resources with this fact in mind.

21. It is worth listening to your body

Remember to give him water, food, movement and sleep. And watch how it reacts to them. If you make friends, life will be easier: it will not let you down at the most crucial moments, and this is very important. Unfortunately, this does not insure against such things as wisdom teeth cutting in all directions and at the same time, but it can save you from many other troubles.

22. Loneliness is not a reason to be bored

It will be very cool if you become really interested in the company of yourself. In a state of loneliness, we spend most of our time, and may all this time be good for us.

23. You need to treat yourself the way you would treat a loved one

Or the way you would like your loved one to treat you.

24. It is necessary to protect loved ones while they are still around

This is about loved ones, friends, relatives whom you love, and your pets. The most precious thing you can give them is your time and attention. When they leave, you will regret not hugging them again. I'm sorry.

25. Don't be afraid to say no

Don't say yes if you want to say no. And don't say no if you want to say yes.

26. Someone else's opinion about your hobbies and lifestyle - three-layer toilet paper with peach scent

You can google the instructions for using 3-ply toilet paper, but I think you know everything yourself.

27. You cannot know everything or be right about everything

There are always people who understand something better than you, do not hesitate to ask their advice and opinions. How to distinguish them from the pseudo-experts who are divorced? Based on the results they achieved on their own.

28. It is advisable not to buy unnecessary

But if this particular thing will delight you every time your gaze falls on it, buy it. And may she make you a little happier every day.

29. It is important to live in the present

The past is over, the future has not yet come, but now you are sitting on Lifehacker, drinking delicious tea and warming your hands on your favorite mug. This moment is beautiful. Remember it, there will be no other like this.

30. We only have one life

And the best thing we can do with it is to live it the way we want, with whoever we want, and make ourselves as happy as possible.