7 unpleasant situations that will make you stronger

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

About the troubles that can happen to anyone, and what they can teach us.

Life often throws up nasty surprises. Sometimes it seems that this is a complete finish, it cannot be worse. You are angry at the universal injustice, and then you give up.

But most of the problems are just kicks of fate to get out of your comfort zone. Life is much easier if you perceive the tin as an opportunity.

Only death is irreparable. The rest is within your power.

1. Minor accident

One wrong move, and the bumper to smithereens - not you, but in you. It’s good if it’s done with the European protocol. Worse, if you need to call the traffic police, seek compensation for compulsory motor third party liability insurance or prove the case in court. All these chores take a lot of time and effort, and car repairs can cost a pretty penny. But there are also pluses.

What lessons can be learned?

• Any traffic accident - call "Be more attentive!". Why did this happen? Maybe you don't have enough practice and need more driving lessons? Or maybe you were on the phone at the time of the accident and it's time to get a wireless headset?
• Having plunged into the procedure for registration of an accident and compensation for damage, you will probably re-read tons of thematic articles and posts on the forums. You will learn how to properly photograph a car and draw a diagram, learn the nuances of car insurance and become a much more confident driver.

2. Breaking up the relationship

Someone disperses quietly, and someone breaks the dishes and throws things from the balcony. And it always hurts. Even if the initiative comes from you. Haunted by a feeling of loneliness and frustration from unfulfilled dreams.

What lessons can be learned?

1. Remember the moments of happiness that the person gave you and say thank you. Gratitude will help iron out grievances and truly remain friends.
2. Both are always to blame for the breakup. Think about what traits or habits you have might have contributed to this. Work on yourself to make the next relationship stronger.

3. Missed train or plane

You paid the taxi driver twice as much, but still did not have time: the train left, the steamer sailed away, and the plane flew away without you. Catastrophe! Of course, you can buy a ticket for the next flight at an exorbitant price, but the time is still lost. What's more annoying: losing a couple of vacation days or missing an important work conference?

What lessons can be learned?

• Any delay is a reason to ask yourself, "Am I managing my time efficiently?" To get organized, arm yourself with some kind of time management system and install a scheduler on your phone. Going on a trip, calculate the travel time, taking into account traffic jams and be sure to set yourself reminders: "Check the date and time of departure", "It's time to get out - check if the electrical appliances are turned off!" etc.
• Being late should teach you to read the conditions of the carriers. For example, money for a train ticket can be refunded if you go to the ticket office within 12 hours after the train leaves. For cheap flights, compensation is usually not provided (ticket is non-refundable in case of no-show), but some can be exchanged for other numbers.

4. Failure in an exam or performance

Some are overtaken by a fiasco due to poor preparation, others are simply unlucky. But in any case, the feeling of shame and despair covers. How can you be so mediocre? And the more at stake, the more you blame yourself. Well, or everyone around. The world is full of fools, isn't it?

What lessons can be learned?

• "Failure" in the exam is a reason to reconsider your approach to preparation. Some people remember information when they write spurs, for others, only cramming works. Understand how your brain perceives information and help it with it.
• Public failure proves the importance of being able to stand in front of an audience. And the most important thing here is practice. Step over fear and dare!

5. Flooding neighbors

It happens that you left for a couple of days, you come back, and you are greeted by a wet cat. Wet because there is a flood in the house. One small hole in the pipe can do a lot of trouble and ruin the laminate, furniture and relations with neighbors. From just the thought of how much the repair will result in and how much blood the neighbors will drink, it becomes sickening.

What lessons can be learned?

• By settling the situation, you will learn a lot of useful legal information. First of all, what is civil liability, how is the damage estimated and compensated. It is also a great opportunity to get used to communicating with utilities. All this will allow you to pump your homeowner skill.
• How long have you done repairs? A pipe break will help you remember the long-forgotten skills of wallpapering walls and laying linoleum, or teach you how to do it. In other words, you will have a few more useful skills.

6. Dismissal

It doesn't matter if you screwed up yourself or just got cut. Firing is always at the wrong time. The feeling of "professional unsuitability" hits pride, and the lack of financial stability causes panic: "What will I say to my wife / husband?", "How to pay for the mortgage?"

What lessons can be learned?

• One of the commandments of personal finance says: "Keep an emergency reserve of at least 10 thousand rubles for a rainy day." No matter how deficient the family budget may be, accustom yourself to putting aside a part of your salary in a box. Better yet, make a deposit or get a savings bank card. A financial safety cushion will help out in case of job loss and other force majeure.
• Whatever the reason, getting fired should spur you on to development. Improve your qualifications: read books, attend courses, communicate with other professionals. New knowledge is multiplied by experience and will help you easily pass the interview.

7. Loss of phone or laptop

Not finding a smartphone in their pocket, people grab their heads: "My whole life is there!" Children of the XXI century are so addicted to gadgets that their loss causes terrible discomfort: if you don't post pictures and like for more than two hours, everyone will decide that I'm dead! And where can I get money for a new phone or laptop …

What lessons can be learned?

• You can live without gadgets. It is much more difficult to recover the information that is stored in them. Therefore, make backups regularly, use cloud depositories and password stores.
• Carefully study the instructions of Lifehacker "": use a screen lock and install applications that will help you find the loss.

In what epic situations have you found yourself? Tell us what lessons you learned from them.