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2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Tips for when you don't want to sound rude, but you need to end the conversation.
Vanessa Van Edwards, psychologist and author of The Science of Communication, shared tricks to help you stop someone else's speech. They are listed according to the degree of increase in aggressiveness.
1. Fish
Open your mouth a little - this will give a signal that you want to say something. The interlocutor will intuitively feel that he needs to stop. Even if you don't say anything, the gesture itself will make the other person finish their thought faster.
2. Bookmark
This will show that you want to add something. This gesture is similar to the stop signal. Match the fishy expression on your face to accurately grab attention.
3. Disciple
Raise your hand as you did in school. All over the years of study have become accustomed to this gesture and understand that the one who raised his hand wants to say something.
If the interlocutor is so deep in his monologue that he does not notice even this, it is time to move on to heavy artillery.
4. Touch
When you really need to end the conversation, touch the hand of the interlocutor and say that you were happy to talk to him. If he did not pay attention to your facial expressions and gestures, then touching will definitely make him stop. Even those who like to chat are silent for a moment after that. Take a moment to say goodbye.
5. Teacher
Raise your finger and look around. This is the most aggressive gesture, but works well for large groups. For example, when everyone is talking at the same time, and you don't feel like screaming.
This gesture signals "Wait" or "Shhhh" and the speakers are usually silent. Just keep in mind that you need to stand so that everyone can see you, otherwise there will be no effect.
Bonus
If you know in advance that the interlocutor will interrupt you and will not allow you to insert a word, warn before starting the conversation how much you want to say. For example, you are about to express three thoughts. Say so. The interlocutor will imagine how much time you are willing to spend on a conversation and will not indulge in unnecessary reasoning.
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