Happinnes exists. This is the shortest path to it

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Each person has his own definition of happiness and his own method of finding it. In this article we are sharing one of them, and who knows, maybe it will suit you?

Let's talk about happiness.

- this is generally a strange thing. Everyone strives for it, although no one knows what it is. Everyone is looking for it, although no one has seen what it looks like. And the most terrible secret that everyone is trying to solve: how to find a simple and one hundred percent working way to find happiness.

However, there are still some developments in this area. For example, it has long been observed that one of the surest ways to feel happy is to make another person happy. It works like this:

Stop!

It turns out that we become happier only when we receive something in return? We are made happy by return gifts or?

No, it should be a little different. Like this:

I am giving a gift or doing a good deed just to make the person happy. If he is happy, that also makes me happy.

It sounds just fine. I do good deeds without expecting anything in return. That's what normal people do, right?

But no! We still expect and depend on our friend's reaction. He liked the gift - we are happy, and if not, then we are sad. It turns out that, regardless of our actions and achievements, our happiness is completely dependent on other people?

Yes. This is where the trap lies.

We expect reciprocity from a loved one. We are waiting for a reward from the boss. We strive for gratitude in return for ours. We cherish the rave glances celebrating the results of our workouts.

We are waiting for approval from the outside to feel happy.

Let's go back to the previous picture. It consists of three blocks, the middle of which is the determining criterion in our feeling of happiness. Let's try to fix it!

This scheme is much more concise and simpler. She tells us that we should not wait for the result of our actions - we should receive satisfaction simply from the process of performing them. There is no external reason in this scheme that influences your happiness. There is only you and your actions, and your feelings depend only on them. Now it is you who are responsible for your happiness.

I believe this change in your perception of happiness is the best trick you can do to make your life better. If you learn to synthesize and feel happiness within yourself, and not receive it from the outside, then you will never be sad, you will never be disappointed, you will never get depressed.

See how easy it is to apply it in life.

• I practice. I'm getting slimmer. Everyone admires and praises me. I'm happy.
• I practice. I'm getting slimmer. I'm happy.
• I practice. I'm happy.
• I'm studying. I am gaining knowledge. I'm getting good grades. I'm happy.
• I'm studying. I am gaining knowledge. I'm happy.
• I'm studying. I'm happy.
• I am programming. I created a project. People use it. I'm happy.
• I am programming. I created a project. I'm happy.
• I am programming. I'm happy.

But our path to happiness does not end there. You may have noticed that we have two bubbles left in the picture. Shall we try to cut it a little more?

Can you not make any effort at all and still be happy? Can happiness be synthesized out of nothing?

Yes it is possible. It is this state that most of all corresponds to the word "nirvana" and is the highest goal of many religious and mystical teachings. But you won't be able to achieve it without going step by step along the entire chain described in this article. Of course, this is only one of the many paths that lead us to happiness, but this is already better than wandering chaotically in the dark.

Let's try this method?