How to raise a child to be successful

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

All parents, sending a spoonful of porridge to the baby's cheek, dream that the child will grow up successful. But in order to achieve something in life, a child needs some skills. Which ones, the expert Daria Loginova will tell.

Successful - as moms and dads often think - is one who has a good job, a big house, and a car, and a summer residence … so that the diary is full of fives. Are you not like that? It's fine!

What is success? Happiness, health, self-realization. If you feel the same way and want your child to do well in life, you will have to teach him useful things.

1. Work with information

Our world is oversaturated with news, advertisements, information, messages … Those who know how to work with information will be successful in the modern world. Knows how to separate the important from the unimportant, the necessary from the unnecessary. The one who learns to apply his knowledge will be successful.

What is needed for this? Don't just ask for A's! Explain why the child needs this or that knowledge. Physics? Show it in practice, in life. Biology? She is around us. The Russian language is literacy, the ability to convey your thoughts to others. A foreign language is an opportunity to communicate with the whole world and understand what Justin Timberlake is singing about.

2. Search and find

Everyone has the Internet. But does everyone know how to use it for its intended purpose? Teach your child to find the information he needs.

3. Plan

Children up to 9-10 years old are poor at planning. But this is a very important skill. Teach your child to write to-do lists, think in advance about your day, your weekends, and holidays. And also teach you how to plan your work.

• When you come home from school, you sit down for your lessons.
• If you are very tired, rest, then start.
• Start with difficult, finish with simple tasks.
• Do not leave lessons for Sunday: do it on Friday and walk for two days with a clear conscience.

4. Perform duties

Anyone who only does what he wants to do becomes spoiled. Sadly, this is the law of life. It will be difficult for a spoiled person to force himself to get up early and work hard. It will be difficult for him to overcome himself, to make a leap, to conquer Everest. But very often, in order to achieve something significant, you need to make an effort on yourself and go against lazy comfort.

Every child should have responsibilities. Get up at the alarm and put away the crib, put the toys in the evening, wash your plate. Small responsibilities, but they must always be performed. And the task of the parents is to keep track of this. Motivate not with threats and shouts, but with praise and common sense: “Well, you helped mom wash the dishes, now mom has time to play with you. What a fine fellow you are!"

5. Go in for sports

Sport is a great workout for a successful person. Here there is responsibility, and playing in a team, and the obligation to practice regardless of mood and desire. In sports, the child will feel the taste of victory, learn what success and achievements are. His, only his personal achievements!

But it is very important that sports are liked. There must be both desire and ability so that the child can win, and not only lose, and always feel like a failure.

6. Follow through

I started to draw a picture - finish it. Opened the book - read it. I started swimming - learn how to do it. Until the age of 12, a child does not have strong attachments, his interests often change, hobbies jump. Still, try to agree that the section that the child likes will not be abandoned due to a moment's bad mood. Began - go at least to the ninth grade.

7. Try

To be successful, a child must not be afraid to try. And here a lot depends on the parents."You're doing the wrong thing." "Let me tie your laces myself." "You can not". "Well, is it possible?" Unfortunately, we often do not notice how we discourage the child from trying and taking risks.

“I still won't succeed,” the kid decides and waits for his mother to tie his shoelaces (and then get him a job at an institute, find a job and, possibly, even a bride-groom).

The best advice from psychologists: don't slap your child on the hands. Let him try, let him make mistakes, let him spill, drop, ruin the drawing, turn jeans into shorts, be late … And you - support, be nearby.

"Did not work out? Nothing, it happens! "," You will definitely cope, you will succeed! " - that's what parents said to the most successful people in childhood.

8. Love books

Notice that all successful people read. A child who appreciates books will always be interesting, smart, lively. He will find a common language with any company, he will be able to surprise, he will be able to find information. In addition, the reading person will speak beautifully (thanks to a rich vocabulary), he will write correctly (visual memory will help).

How to teach to love books? This is the task of the parents. Instill in your baby a love of reading from birth. For a start, give your child such a book that will interest him, hook. Not according to the school curriculum, but according to interests.

And of course, read it yourself. If you play tanks or watch TV series shouting "Read!" Over your shoulder, you will not be able to convince of the importance and necessity of books.

9. Do not be afraid of criticism

Praising with or without reason means ruining adequate self-esteem. A successful person is not afraid to hear comments. A successful person knows when he is being scolded for a cause. Moreover, he is sometimes grateful to critics, because they help him become more successful.

Did the child draw a beautiful horse? Praise with all your might. Did the child draw with his left foot, badly, not trying at all? Say, “Try again because you can do much better. Do you remember how you painted beautifully last time?"

10. Be able to act according to the rules

Games with prescribed rules will help you. You need to be able to follow important rules at all times. But in life, the ability to act according to the situation and sometimes violate the instructions is also useful, if you understand that it is necessary. The line is very thin, so be careful.