"The question of the survival of the species." Pickup Session with Exposure

Secondly, you need to be free from the result. It's not scary if a girl doesn't want sex - a man will find another one. She is losing more. Less than 1% of guys are able to be free and liberated without alcohol and drugs. In fact, less than 1% of people are passionate about self-development, and not just reading theory and doing mental masturbation.

I work with emotions rather than logic of girls. It doesn't matter what you say to them. I can "open" a girl from any word. What matters is how you do it, not what.

This is not a vulnerability, but just a bug in human thinking. There is such a concept in behavioral economics - limited rationality: people make decisions on an emotional level, after which they justify them from the standpoint of logic. Sigmund Freud called this rationalizations. This is common for everyone, especially girls: when it comes to making decisions about sex, they are guided by emotions. They make the decision about a long-term relationship rather logically.

Male roles in relationships

A man in a relationship with a girl can act in two roles: a lover and a sponsor.

Guys usually follow the "sponsor" path, so they don't have many girls. More often they fail to establish a relationship at all - they end up in the friend zone. For everything to work out with a girl, you need to act like a lover. First, sleep with her, and then take a kind of step back - arrange romantic dates, start dating her. After a guy has slept with a girl more than three times, it clicks in her head - you are dating. If he follows the second path - flowers, 10 dates, and so on - most likely he will not sleep with her. And if he does not sleep, then he will not build any relationship.

First of all, a guy needs to learn a few things: get to know each other, build comfort, and generate attraction. The path of a sponsor is long and arduous. It runs through logic and investment (financial, time, emotional, social). It is very difficult to go from being a sponsor to being a lover. And from a lover to a sponsor - it's easy.

How girls think

Girls try to understand what kind of person you are and put them in one of two "boxes" - a sponsor or a lover. Being a lover means having no obligations, having sex and having fun. The girl chooses such a guy by instincts. At the biological level, her thinking is built like this: an active guy who has good children with her has good genes. The girl, on the other hand, chooses the sponsor consciously. He must have a promising job, he must please her parents and coincide with her in the interests. The more she learns about him, the higher the likelihood that, by some criteria, the guy will not pass the selection and will hang in the friend zone.

You need to influence the instincts bypassing the girl's consciousness. It is much easier to sleep with a girl and present her with a fact that she will rationalize: “So why did we have sex? I liked him. Nice guy - maybe it'll be cool to date him? " On the contrary with the sponsor: “Why didn't I sleep with him? He is too good a guy - he will suddenly think that I am a whore, since I went to bed with him. " The girl is looking for reasons not to sleep with him right now and put it off for later. And this "later" may not come at all.

While the guy is a completely newbie, I recommend not filtering girls and chatting with everyone - this way a man will learn to feel more free. In general, it is worth practicing on average and beautiful ones. Scary girls are not used to flirting. They may react inappropriately and perceive flirting as a mockery.

“I thought I liked you until you said it,” “At first I wasn’t sure of you, but now you’re starting to impress me” or “You looked strange, but now I’m starting to like you” - these the ugly and insecure girl will perceive phrases almost as a personal insult. A pretty girl or "hot" beauty will laugh in response and start asking for details, chasing you. Flirting with ugly little ones, you do not gain useful experience, but rather run into negativity.

As for a guy's self-esteem, which he can raise at the expense of ugly girls, there is a fine line. It is very important not to feed your ego - otherwise it will prevent you from being as effective as possible with girls.

Who is better to seduce

If a guy has a desire to build not just a sexual relationship, but something more, he should rely on four types of girls, distributed according to two criteria. The first criterion is self-esteem. The second is sexual drive. Low sex drive means the girl needs little sex. She's a virgin or has never masturbated. She has few fantasies, she is shy or generally asexual to some extent. A girl with a high sexual drive likes sex, she tends to embody her fantasies.

When a man chooses an object of seduction, of course, the girl should be liked externally, she should like her smell. The guy should be nice to talk to her. If the goal is to build relationships, then you also need to pay attention to self-esteem. I have criteria. Guided by them, one can say that the girl's self-esteem is low or high.

Relationships are best developed with girls who have high self-esteem and sexual drive. With them, a man can be liberated. Such girls know their worth and will not cheat. Low self-esteem and sexual drive mean it is very difficult to rock her. A guy can put a lot of effort and money into it, but no one will be interested.

Feminism and the meaning of a pickup truck

I have a twofold attitude to feminism. On the one hand, it is even easier, because the feminist believes that men and women are equal in rights. She can sleep with a man simply because she liked him. So there are fewer corrals and, indeed, life is easier. On the other hand, many feminists are so militant. My advice is not to listen to girls. I mean what they say based on their own logic. Attention must be paid to their actions. The female instincts work for several millennia. Templates change, but the deep essence remains the same.

Girls were brainwashed a lot by social programming, but they still make decisions based on their emotions.

A girl may be a feminist to the core, but when she meets a man with whom chemistry occurs, she will not be guided by social paradigms. Her instincts will prevail.

Humans are evolutionarily programmed to respond to leaders and social markers of success - values related to survival and reproduction. If you take an ordinary average girl, even if she is strongly influenced by feminism, she remains a girl, which means she will not react negatively. She wants to find a real man and will understand everything correctly.

Seduction is revealing your qualities and charisma. For some reason, many perceive this as a banal manipulation. I believe that you should not manipulate others - this makes you worse. Nevertheless, in the mass consciousness, the pickup looks like simply seducing girls.

It seems to me that picking up is already at the level of survival of our species. I understand how enslaved I was before, and I see what kind of guys are now. Fathers don't talk about it with us. We do not see the correct male behavior - how to meet girls. Nobody teaches us how to do this. There is no social institution to train a man to be a man. This role is played by trainings.

My trainings are not just for guys. A girl seduces another girl in the same way - by influencing her instincts. Research shows that all girls are bisexual. When they watch porn, they get turned on for all sorts of things - whether men have sex or women. In fact, FFM is a very desirable situation for any girl. Everyone wants to try threesome sex and, as a rule, remains in awe of it. Another thing is that not everyone admits it. Now I am teaching girls - these are my mistresses or those with whom I am interested in communicating. You can make your girlfriend or mistress a partner in order to teach her to seduce other girls - and she will bring them to you for FFM.

Types of girls

Low self-esteem and low sex drive - run away.
Low self-esteem and high sex drive - sex for one night, maximum - sex for friends. It is advised not to enter into a serious relationship. Such a girl can be made your partner for a pickup truck.
High self-esteem and low sexual drive are rare. Despite their low sexual drive, they can awaken sexuality.
High self-esteem and high sexual drive are worth leaving a place for her in your life. You can have a serious relationship with her or limit yourself to sex for one night.

Comments (1)

Katya, 21 years old

The categories Alexander uses sound unattractive. He himself claims: it is important how you say, not what. In this text, the chosen "how" looks completely unfortunate.

One gets the impression that Alexander is a person who thinks in a minimal set of categories. He is familiar with several mainstream theoretical constructs that describe human behavior. However, he underestimates their aesthetic orientations and the importance of personal space. For his own practice, these meager concepts may be enough. With a wide sample of girls and the ability to get to know them in a conveyor belt way, sooner or later there will be those for whom Alexander's algorithms will work - as in the theorem about infinite monkeys. I would not pass it off as an examination.

In his place, I would limit the range of recommendations to two really worthwhile ones, but it is difficult to get money for them: firstly, to work on your own emancipation and, secondly, not to manipulate the interlocutor.

These are skills that many people lack in any kind of communication. If everyone around them develops themselves in these two parameters, the pickup will die out. It will be nice, because the pickup truck supports the myth of the mandatory manifestation of masculinity on the part of guys, but in fact only makes it much more difficult to build relationships, especially sexual ones. The pickup stigmatizes the girl’s initiative, though not always explicitly. Judging by the paternalism towards girls, Alexander himself is a hostage of this myth.

Polina, 21 years old

It's hard for me to understand to whom Alexander can say such things. I literally can't imagine being told to some man: “You are either a sponsor or a lover. Better to be a lover. " And he replies, "Okay, I'll try to become a lover." Such words, probably, can only be perceived by people in a depressed state. And making money for those who need psychological help or just support is not good.

Apart from the obvious things like machismo and objectification, in this text I find it annoying to try to speak scientifically.

For example, mentions without reference to statistics or research - "less than 1% of people are passionate about self-development", "research shows that all girls are bisexual", references to Sigmund Freud (oh no!) Or the use of terms. Usually they do this to seem smarter and more truthful. In support groups or in classes where I went, the presenters never said that, although they were always people with a higher psychological education.

The only thing that slightly reduced my level of anxiety was Alexander's statement that a woman might not want sex. It seems to me that this is often not taken into account in similar trainings.