10 mistakes that kill relationships in the bud

1. You don't take good care of yourself

This includes bad breath, body stench, and other signs of poor hygiene - in general, anything that immediately turns other people away from you.

Terri Orbuch is a relationship writer known as The Love Doctor for her media appearances.

If you don’t practice good hygiene, others will draw far-reaching conclusions about your relationship habits. After all, if you don't have the time, energy, or inclination to take care of yourself, then why would you care about another?

2. You criticize or try to control

People don't like being told what to do, especially at the beginning of a relationship. It looks too presumptuous.

Terry Orbuch: “In general, the negative and criticism at the beginning is not at all what attracts people. They like the opposite: positivity and compliments!"

3. You are emotionally in need

Hal Runkel is a marriage and family therapist.

People do not like to constantly support those who cannot support them.

4. You are overly emotional

Also, people don't like to constantly think that you can be inadvertently hurt, says Runkel.

5. You are illiterate

Based on Singles in the Dating Scene Want Nice Teeth, Suave Hair & Proper Grammar [Survey]. conducted in 2013 among 5 thousand people, knowledge of grammar is one of the first things people pay attention to when choosing a pair.

Helen Fisher is an anthropologist and chief scientific advisor to dating site Match.com.

Poor grammar indicates that a potential partner has poor education or does not consider it necessary at all.

6. You are not sure of yourself

The same survey showed that confidence is an important factor when choosing a partner.

Helen Fisher: "People who are insecure are often characterized by anxiety and low psychological stability."

7. You have bad teeth

Also, the respondents to this survey reported that they pay attention to the teeth of a potential partner. If they are not all right, then he is on a poor diet or has health problems.

Helen Fisher: “We evolved to look for educated, mentally and physically healthy partners - people with good genes and good upbringing who will help pass our DNA into the future. Potential partners who lack the listed traits are likely to be unimportant candidates for this. So we reject them instinctively."

8. You are too self-centered

People who only think of themselves are bad partners because they don't care about the other's feelings. In addition, they are often careless and selfish in bed.

Joseph Burgo is a psychotherapist and author of Beware, Narcissist! How to deal with these narcissistic types."

A healthy relationship is about reciprocity, where the needs of each partner are important. Nobody wants to be just another person's viewer all the time.

9. You are a pessimist

Of course, relationships should be a safe place where partners can share their concerns. But some get too zealous about it, focus on the negative and end up being a burden to others.

Joseph Burgo: “Especially in the early stages of a relationship, we must share positive, mutually reinforcing experiences that strengthen the bond and prepare us to face future challenges. If one person uses the relationship as a dump for bad emotions, then the other has no reason to continue."

10. You are contemptuous

Contempt is expressed in the fact that one of the partners feels superior to the other and begins to behave simply disgusting. He harshly points out the flaws of the other or throws expressive glances, ridicule and passive-aggressive remarks - by and large demonstrates toxic behavior.