8 Myths About True Friendship You Should Break Up With

1. A true friend - for life

Not at all necessary. There are times when you met someone in kindergarten and carried a wonderful relationship throughout your life. But it happens that a person is next to you at some stage in life, and then you stop needing each other.

Let's say you talked a lot with a classmate at the university. We exchanged lectures, went to parties and concerts together, discussed common events for you. You were in a single context. But then you graduated, went to different cities, and the context changed. For some time you communicated from old memory, but the points of contact became less and less. And in the end, the friendship came to naught. But was it less real for that? You've spent several years together - excellent, I suppose. Good doesn't stop being good just because it ends.

True friendship doesn't have to last a lifetime

2. An old friend is better than two new ones

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. There is logic in this statement: since you have been communicating for many years, then, most likely, you know each other well, you have been through a lot. But there are two points here.

First, old friendships often continue out of inertia precisely because of the belief that old comrades are real, and new ones are just passing. But remember how childhood bonds are formed. Most likely, you lived somewhere nearby, or went to the same school, or your parents talked. In general, you were brought together by circumstances, not spiritual kinship. Adult bonds are formed more consciously. Therefore, if the horse of the old friendship is dead, it's time to get off it.

Secondly, if you are lucky enough to maintain a childhood friendship, this does not mean that there is no place for new contacts in your life. Why rank people by time of arrival? There are much more rational criteria, for example, how comfortable and fun you are together.

3. A friend is known in need

Indeed, you expect support from a comrade, moreover, both in difficult and in joyful moments. If he systematically ignores you, constantly asks you for help, but does not reciprocate, it may be time to think about ending such a relationship.

But if someone once did not come to the rescue or reacted in the wrong way to your problems, this does not automatically make him a bad friend. Because he is only human, and people are imperfect. He could underestimate the seriousness of the situation and not rush in at the right moment. Or not to be with you at the moment of triumph, because against his background he realized his own failure and was upset.

If roughness has arisen in a relationship, this is not a reason to end it. But it is definitely worth discussing doubts so that from now on everything will be clearer.

4. Get lost yourself, and help your friend out of trouble

There are many sayings in the Russian language that prescribe that a real friend is ready to give his last shirt to a friend. It sounds beautiful, but in practice, such sacrifice looks questionable even in a critical situation, not to mention the background.

Still, the willingness to help must be rational. Getting up early in the morning for a friend is possible. It is unlikely to donate both kidneys for transplantation. However, many take the idea of the last shirt so literally that they are seriously offended when a person is not ready to take serious personal risks for the sake of friendship. Although, in any relationship, everyone contributes exactly as much as they are ready to give.

5. There should only be one true friend

There is no time limit for how many friends there should be. Someone needs one close person, someone needs a lot of them in order to receive the required amount of social support.

6. Bros are more important than chicks

Often at a young age, it seems that friends (regardless of gender) are the only truly close people. And all romantic hobbies are just passing characters. Sometimes people grow up and continue to think so and expect that a friend or girlfriend will easily neglect the interests of a partner for their sake.

In fact, if a person develops a full-fledged relationship, they will inevitably affect his other connections. The modern nuclear family consists of two adults and their children. Even the parents of each of the partners in this relationship are secondary characters. Of course, important, loved ones, but they no longer have the first roles. Like friends.

Therefore, it is not at all necessary to oppose a friend and his soul mate, you can be friends with both of them.

True friendship is no more important than romantic relationships

7. True friendship doesn't rust

The ship of your partnership is supposed to sail the right course without a captain and survive any storm just like that, because this is a true friendship. This is not true. See for yourself: the myth of true love will be stronger, but romantic feelings also fade away if no coal is thrown into them.

Friendship, like any relationship, needs work. Seek compromises, endure inconveniences, forgive. And also discuss disagreements so that they do not snowball and dare everything in their path.

8. True friendship should be …

There are many concepts of true friendship. And you might get upset when you see that your relationship doesn't quite fit that frame. But here things are the same as with any abstract category: if you consider them friendship, then it is real.

In dictionaries, these are just "close relationships based on mutual trust, affection, community of interests." There are no laws and no partnership inspection that comes with a checklist and checks the quality of your friendship. It is only important that she makes you happier.