12 stupid virginity myths

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

There are many ridiculous myths and unnecessary traditions associated with virginity, which make it difficult to get to the truthful information.

1. Virginity is only for girls

No. Although in fact, people have not yet agreed on what to consider as virginity, therefore they understand this word in different ways. In a broad sense, virginity is a state when a person has not yet had sexual experience (recall that sex is not only vaginal, and it is still sex). This is the case with both sexes.

What is called virginity in women is the hymen, scientifically - hymen.

2. The hymen is a film with a small hole

A hymen is a small fold of connective tissue that partially covers the lumen of the vagina. Someone has a denser and more hymen, someone is hardly noticeable, so much as if it is not there. The hymen can look differently. This is how the hymen is illustrated by the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education.

In rare cases, the film does cover the entire vagina, but this is a pathology that requires surgical treatment.

Why a hymen is needed, no one knows. There is a hypothesis that the film protects the microflora of a woman before puberty.

By the way, the hymen does not disappear anywhere and does not dissolve immediately after sex. The remains remain on the mucous membrane after the onset of sexual activity, but women do not notice what is there with this fold.

3. Virginity can be lost during sports

No. Sport is sport, sex is sex. You can combine, but it's not for everybody.

Some sports can stretch the hymen so that there will be no discomfort or blood on the first sexual encounter, but this is purely anatomical.

In addition, there is no guarantee that if a girl did a lot of, say, gymnastics or horseback riding, she actually does not feel unpleasant sensations during the first sex.

4. Guys also have something to tell you about virginity

No, men don't have anything like that. You will have to determine, relying on the words of the man himself.

5. After the first sex, you can not get pregnant

It is a myth. Hymen is not a contraceptive. It doesn't matter how many times you have sex. Conception does not depend on this, but on the presence of a mature egg and sperm. We wrote about this in more detail in the article on myths associated with protection.

If you are not planning a child, then you need to protect yourself at any time.

6. First sex affects the rest of your life

Someone really influenced, but this is not necessary.

Everything happens for the first time, including sex. Of course, if the experience was traumatic, then it can negatively affect the entire intimate life. If there were no injuries and troubles, then you can recall with pleasure the first sex. Or not remember at all, if it's not worth it.

7. It hurts terribly and there will be a lot of blood

Not always. As we have already found out, women have a hymen. This is an elastic film, but if you overstretch it, it will tear. The pain depends on the structure of the film, and on the personal perception of pain, and on the general readiness for sex.

Arousal and sufficient lubrication is what helps to relieve soreness.

After the first sex, not everyone bleeds. It depends on the structure of the hymen, its elasticity, again lubrication and excitement. Perhaps there will be so little blood that it will not even be noticeable.

Heavy bleeding is not the norm. If it does not stop within 24 hours, you should see a doctor.

8. When having sex for the first time, do not use a condom

The virginity of one of the partners has nothing to do with the need to use contraception. A condom is an affordable and reliable tool if used correctly. Even if both partners have not had sex before.

9. Virgins are not allowed to visit the gynecologist

Can. If you have complaints, you must go to the doctor. The doctor will conduct an examination with special instruments and will not harm anything.

The hymen is not a guarantee of protection from disease. Those that are sexually transmitted will not appear, of course. But there are a lot of gynecological problems that are not related to sex, ranging from banal thrush or painful periods and ending with neoplasms of internal organs.

Even if there are no complaints, it is necessary to go for a regular examination after the onset of menstruation, and before the onset of sexual activity, it would be nice to consult about contraception.

10. Virgins shouldn't use tampons

In most cases, the hymen does not overlap the vagina so much that a tampon cannot be used. For menstruation, you can choose small hygiene products, and if in doubt, visit a gynecologist and clarify the question about tampons.

But using a tampon can help stretch the hymen so that the first sex can be less painful.

11. After the first sex, the person looks different

They also say that the gait changes and a special light appears (or disappears) in the eyes.

If a person is in love and at the same time began to have sex, he can change outwardly, right down to his gait. This is due to the general emotional state, and not to the fact that there was sex at all.

It is impossible to determine externally how a virgin or a virgin differs from everyone else, you can only guess (but there are only two options).

12. Virginity must be lost before some age (or after)

This is a common setting and has no foundation. Age and virginity are linked only in the sense that too early onset of sexual activity negatively affects health.

Otherwise, what and when to do with their sex life is up to the person himself. If it is more comfortable for him to remain a virgin or a virgin, then let him stay until he decides that he is ready to change his status.

You yourself determine when, how and under what conditions it will happen. Any statements that “it is impossible for so long” is utter nonsense. Moreover, you cannot listen to ultimatums like “you have two weeks to make a decision or I’m leaving”. This is a compulsion to have sex, such pressure is unacceptable.