8 unforgivable mistakes when communicating with colleagues

1. Do not remember who is who and what they do

Start a regular meeting with a colleague with the question "What is your name?" or "What are you doing?" is the worst way to build relationships. The person will clearly be upset that someone finds him and his work not important enough, or at least considers the other person arrogant and arrogant.

Obviously, in a large company, even remembering everyone by sight is very difficult, not to mention additional details. But you can do it gradually. For example, find out who will be at meetings with you, or search on the company's website for photos of those with whom you have just exchanged a couple of phrases at the cooler. Thus, sooner or later, you will remember most of the employees.

2. Discuss colleagues and management

Gossip is considered one of the evolutionary mechanisms that made modern people exactly what they are. To discuss someone in his absence is characteristic of literally everyone. It is pleasant, helps to discharge and to learn something new. However, not all gossip is created equal, especially at work.

It is definitely not worth discussing the appearance of colleagues and their personal life; lie and embellish in order to make the conversation more interesting; labeling and sharing questionable findings. This can turn away from the gossip not only the victim of discussions, but also listeners who have a high bar for what is permissible. And then, there is no guarantee that tomorrow the gossip will not discuss his current interlocutors with other colleagues. It's safer to stay away from him.

3. Do not recognize other people's merits

In Russia, such a strategy of upbringing is quite popular: if you are a good fellow, have turned mountains and achieved incredible success, no one will say a good word to you - suddenly you become proud and stop working. And if you brought an A with a minus, when the whole class got bad, then you failed and will be severely punished.

Many people carry this unhealthy strategy into adulthood - to relationships with their own children, partners, colleagues. Now imagine what a person looks like who is generous to you with criticism, but stingy with kind words. Unpleasant, isn't he?

In general, at work, adults communicate with each other, who are not obliged to maintain a normal emotional background among colleagues. But it is easy and pleasant to celebrate other people's merits - and to all parties. And certainly the well-deserved praise improves the climate in the team, without turning it into a serpentarium, where everyone is only forced to wait for a catch.

4. Form coalitions

It is convenient to be friends “against”, because the voice of the crowd is always louder than one. But this is hardly appropriate at work. First, by adhering to a grouping, a person, as it were, automatically adopts all its values. And if he stops liking something, it will be very difficult to oppose this.

Secondly, the factions consume a lot of forces that could be directed to the fulfillment of duties. Third, building coalitions within a company distracts from what people come to work for: to work and get paid for it, and in an ideal situation, also to create something cool. Therefore, it is worth remembering that a bad world is better than a good quarrel, and conflict situations are best resolved openly and immediately.

5. Try too hard to make friends

Making friends is not easy as an adult. In the same educational institutions, the conditions themselves make it possible to meet dozens of new people every day, and the life of an office worker does not imply that many contacts. Therefore, it seems logical to establish a slightly closer relationship with colleagues.

But friendship comes naturally as you get to know each other more and more, and it doesn't have to be. And for a good atmosphere in the team, friendly relations are enough.

6. Use flirting to achieve goals

You probably know a lot of stories about how a local Don Juan goes to the HR department and, with the help of compliments, knocks out a vacation for the desired dates. Or a fatal office beauty asks a male colleague to do some of the work for her. In films, these rather popular plots are taken for granted. Naturally, similar behavioral strategies are found in life.

Good looks and charm are definitely privileges, but not ones to be enjoyed at work. It is enough to abuse it once - and it will be impossible to prove that you are not only handsome, but also a professional. Not to mention, flirting can easily turn into harassment.

7. Arrange bullying

A new employee in a team is usually faced with the fact that everyone is eyeing him. This is normal, because no one knows him yet and does not understand what he is capable of. But sometimes it develops into unhealthy things like stupid and supposedly ridiculous checks or special dodges.

For example, a beginner must perform some calculations, but they are given the wrong numbers and are waiting for him to get out. Such "checks" can pass off as tests that are designed to make him stronger, to make him show better qualities. But such hazing is started solely in order to mock.

However, positive discrimination, when a newcomer is considered insufficiently smart and experienced by default and helps him even where it is not required, is also not the best way out. Suffice it to say that a person can turn to colleagues if something is not clear to him.

8. Call and write at inappropriate times

Sometimes there are difficult tasks that need to be solved right now. In this case, it is logical to write, call, send carrier pigeons and try to contact a colleague in any way.

But often the situation does not require immediate intervention. It’s just that someone comes up with a brilliant idea: “I’ll write now, otherwise I’ll have to keep everything in my head. And suddenly I will forget until morning. So a person relieves himself of responsibility and shifts it to the interlocutor, who now needs to think about it and not forget. So it's best not to send messages with work tasks outside of business hours unless they need a line solution.