10 signs you are dating a psychopath

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

If you recognize your soul mate in this article, we have bad news for you.

One percent of the world's population is psychopaths. A psychopath is not the person who is waiting for you with a sharpener in a dark entrance. This is not a serial killer or an inmate of a mental hospital. This could be your coworker who can get away with all sorts of tricks at work. Someone's “perfect” ex who once ran off with another. Or a completely ordinary guy who made coffee for you in the morning.

There is only one difference between a normal person and a psychopath - psychopaths have no conscience. They hurt and don't feel the slightest feeling of remorse or guilt. They are able to imitate normal human emotions, but do not actually experience them. Compassion, love, trust, forgiveness - these emotions make you vulnerable, and psychopaths only use them to influence you.

Any outside observer cannot figure out a psychopath. They are often nice, friendly and charming people. But if you get closer to such a person, then life turns into a nightmare. Fabulous relationships mutate into a mess of violent intellectual games. Does this sound familiar to you? Here are 10 alarm bells that warn you that you are dating a psychopath. Data collected based on real stories and surveys on the site.

1. He surrounds you with declarations of love and compliments. It seems to you that this is the perfect partner for you

When you first meet a psychopath, things move fast. He inspires you that you have a lot in common, that you are perfect for each other. Like a chameleon, he reflects your hopes, dreams, and fears to form trusting and exciting relationships. He constantly wants to communicate with you and seems to be completely fascinated by you. Your Facebook or VKontakte wall will be littered with songs, compliments, poems and cute jokes that only you two can understand.

2. He hunts for your emotions by telling pitiful stories

You will quickly find a place in your heart for pity. After all, he is so sweet and innocent. Completely different from the cinematic images of psychopaths - cruel men with a contemptuous smile in an expensive car. Surely he will mention his ex, who is still in love with him. But all he wants is peace and quiet, he hates dramas. However, you will soon notice that dramatic stories constantly surround him and those close to him.

3. He draws you into a love triangle

Once you are hooked, you will find yourself in a love triangle and even a polygon. The psychopath will surround himself with former and potential lovers and anyone who pays attention to him. There will also be exes about whom he told you earlier and assured you that you are superior to them in everything. You will feel embarrassed, and you will get the impression that he is always in demand from the opposite sex.

4. He constantly distorts reality and behaves abnormally

The psychopath always denies that he is manipulating you, and ignores even the factual evidence of this. He reacts critically and dismissively if you try to refute his stories with facts. He will shift the blame for the situation onto you: you are too impressionable and do not adequately perceive the situation. He will convince you that he is not the problem, but your wrong reaction to normal events.

5. He blames you for emotions, which he himself provokes

The psychopath will say that you are too jealous, although you have openly flirted with your ex, often even on social networks, for everyone to see it. He will say that you are too clingy, although he deliberately ignored you for several days. He provokes your reactions to show his other targets how hysterical you are and to create empathy for himself. Did you think you were a calm person? Meeting a psychopath will change you beyond recognition. Fortunately, temporarily.

6. You notice pathological lies and excuses

He always has an excuse, even in situations where one is not required. He comes up with another lie faster than you can ask a question. He constantly blames others, but he himself always has nothing to do with it. He spends time coming up with explanations for his behavior, not improving it. Even caught in an outright lie, he does not express remorse or embarrassment. Sometimes it seems like he wanted you to catch him.

7. He provokes jealousy and rivalry, while maintaining a mask of innocence

At first, all the psychopath's attention is focused on you. And you don't understand what happens when he suddenly switches to another person. He constantly does things that make you doubt that you mean anything to him. If he is active on social networks, he lures the ex with songs, photos, jokes that were meaningful to their couple. He seems to be actively looking for a partner and at the same time ignores you.

8. It keeps your attention and undermines your self-esteem

First, he brings down a stream of admiration on you, and then you become uninteresting to him. You are offended, because you are already on fire with this passionate relationship. And now you feel like a housekeeper with him and no more.

9. The psychopath is selfish and requires relentless attention

He sucked all the energy out of you and filled your whole life. He demands constant worship of himself. You thought that you were the only person who could make him happy, but now you realize that anyone with a beating pulse will do the job. But the truth is, no one can fill the void in the psychopath's soul.

10. You don't recognize yourself

Your love and compassion have turned into overwhelming panic and anxiety. You apologize and cry more than you have ever done in your life. You don't sleep well and wake up in a bad and anxious mood. You cannot understand what happened to you, where is this cheerful, easy-going, calm person now? After communicating with a psychopath, you feel that you are exhausted, devastated and deprived of an adequate perception of the world. Life is going head-to-head: you spend money, cut ties with friends and family, and constantly look for the reason for these actions.

A relationship with a psychopath is a black hole. No matter how painful it may be, you will always be to blame for everything. He ignores your best qualities, and self-doubt grows in you, you change beyond recognition. You will heal the trauma from this relationship for a long time, it will seem to you that you will never be all right.

But you can get your nerves in order. First of all, exclude all contacts with the psychopath: correspondence, letters and even "spying" on him in social networks. It will be unbearably difficult at first, but relief will come over time. You will feel that sanity is returning to you and chaos is leaving your life. This experience may even be beneficial in the end. You will learn to value yourself and set boundaries for psychopaths so they never disturb your peace of mind again.