6 things you really shouldn't be ashamed of

1. Appearance

People that stylists, makeup artists and photographers haven't worked on can be pretty far from modern beauty standards. And it also happens that no manipulation helps a person to comply with the average canon. For example, he is too big or small, overweight or underweight, non-standard facial features, skin features, and so on.

In a world where perfect people are watching from every screen - slim, fit, with clean skin and symmetrical faces - such a person will feel at least uncomfortable. Especially if it's a teenager or just a vulnerable person.

Yes, the situation is changing, people with non-standard appearance make themselves known, and brands and movie makers are starting to listen to them. But change is happening too slowly, and someone who is not like the rest can easily be offended, persecuted, not hired, or simply rewarded with an unkind look.

Only the appearance is what is given to us from birth.

Taking care of ourselves helps us look our best, but without surgery, we cannot change the shape of our face or the size of our eyes. Even the excess weight, which everyone is used to shaming fat people, is often inherited by us - in the form of endocrine diseases, the composition of the intestinal microflora, dietary habits and eating disorders.

Therefore, if you do not fit into the canons, this is not a reason to shame and scold yourself. The main thing is to take care of your health and observe personal hygiene, and it is not your duty to please someone's eyes.

2. Financial situation and income

For people with low incomes, they came up with a whole set of offensive words. In society, there is an attitude that earnings and the level of well-being are completely dependent on a person, that it is enough to work hard and try hard - and over time this will bring success and money. And if there is neither one nor the other, and a person lives modestly, it means that he is just a lazy, uninitiated loser and is to blame for everything.

Meanwhile, the level of income is made up of a huge number of factors, and not all of them depend on us.

Physical and mental health, upbringing, character traits, financial situation of parents, place of residence, education, the environment in which a person grew and rotated, luck, in the end. Why, even the willpower, which everyone around is urging to develop, is due to genetics: someone was lucky, and someone was not very lucky.

A couple of years ago, a social video appeared on the Web, which perfectly illustrates how much we really are not equal. In the video, a group of young people is going to participate in the race, but the presenter asks those who grew up in a complete family, had the opportunity to study in a good school, and did not suffer from poverty to take a step forward. And in the end it turned out that the path to the finish line - to success - is much shorter for those who pulled out a lucky ticket at birth.

This does not mean that you need to fold your paws and stop trying. But if you earn a little now, live very modestly and cannot afford expensive gadgets, travel, clothes, you should not be ashamed of it at all.

In the opposite direction, it also works. If you didn’t deceive anyone, didn’t take bribes, didn’t steal, but at the same time you make very good money - it does not matter, yourself or thanks to your parents - you have nothing to feel ashamed, guilty or awkward for.

3. Family

Someone gets a sensitive and loving mom and dad, and someone's parents show cruelty, drink, commit crimes, destroy both their own lives and the lives of their own children.

Those unfortunate enough to grow up in such an environment often feel ashamed of their parents' behavior. But being in a difficult family is not a shame. We do not choose parents, and the one who made the mistake should feel guilty, and not the one who became the hostage of the situation.

4. Work

In 2018, the DailyMail published a photo of sitcom actor Jeffrey Owens at the checkout in a supermarket. His artistic career did not work out, and he was forced to go to work as a cashier in order to feed himself and his family. The tone of the publication was somewhat mocking: "From memorizing roles to serving queues." At first, ridicule fell on Owens, but then newspaper readers, fellow actors and just caring people began to write massive posts in support of him.

A similar story later happened to former actress Katie Jarvis: she was photographed while working as a security guard at a clothing store. These situations have been talked about as egregious cases of job-shaming - when a person is tried to be shamed for who he works.

As a rule, those who are engaged in low-skilled labor are subjected to such harassment: sales assistants, cashiers, security guards, porters, waiters, and so on.

And this problem concerns not only Western society: on the Runet one can easily hear dismissive jokes about janitors, a free cash register or work at Pyaterochka.

Of course, a person, if he does not do anything illegal, does not deserve such an attitude: everyone has different starting positions. In addition, we do not always choose how our life will turn out. And there is absolutely no need to be ashamed of honest work. Whatever it is.

5. Loneliness

Single women are called blue stockings and are reminded of the ticking clock and the prospect of meeting old age in the company of 40 cats. Society is more condescending to single men, but they are also teased by making jokes about bachelorhood and the inability to cook soup or wash socks on their own.

If a loner is in the company of married couples, she (or him) will definitely begin to give advice on how to build a relationship, or even try to marry a friend or girlfriend altogether.

Unsurprisingly, a lonely person often feels uncomfortable.

Especially if it's a woman. Especially if she is over 35. But the absence of a couple is not a flaw and not a reason to be ashamed. It means that you just haven't met the right person yet. Or maybe they deliberately chose to remain alone - as did 7% of Russians surveyed.

6. Character traits

For example, isolation. Or shyness. And also sensitivity and vulnerability. In a word, any traits that do not harm anyone, but often cause confusion and condemnation: “Well, why are you always sitting in a corner and not talking to anyone! Don't fight back from society! "," Are you crying? But this is just a children's cartoon, why roar ?!"

As a result, an unsociable or impressionable person begins to worry that something is wrong with him, and is ashamed of his qualities or interests. But it should be not him who should be ashamed, but those who make claims.