29 phrases that stop you from living

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Even what is written in smart books should be viewed with skepticism.

1. Be here and now

For some reason, after reading Osho, people are convinced that they need to "stay in the moment", and thinking about the past or the future is bad. Damn it, think as much as you want about whatever you want. Just stop feeling nostalgic and fantasizing for a few days. This meant spiritual practices, they did not forbid thinking about something other than what is happening at that second.

2. Set ambitious goals for yourself

Once I was interviewing for a project manager position. When I asked the applicant how much she wants to earn in six months, she replied: "A million dollars a year." I was a little surprised why a person who decided to make a million dollars a year should go to my company, where the project manager is unlikely to have such an opportunity. Nevertheless, I clarified how much she earned over the past year. “Almost nothing,” she said. It turned out that the amount was less than $ 10,000. "What about the last two months?" I asked. In response, I heard: "Nothing too."

Ambitious goals that you cannot achieve harm you much more than their absence!

3. Never give up

If you dig a tunnel with a spoon, it is unlikely that anything good will come of it. Excessive persistence occasionally really makes a person successful, but usually only hurts him. Stop persisting, just assess the facts soberly and change your strategy.

4. Believe in your dream

When I see reposts from a business quote book, my body shivers. What's the point in believing in your dream if you don't do anything with it? Seriously! You have imagined a dream, visualized it in full. Has she come even a meter closer to you? Of course not. Believing in your dream and moving towards its realization are two different things.

5. Finish what you started

I don’t know if I’m the only one or there are many of us, but I never liked to finish what I started. I suffer a lot if, after I have cooled down (and I cool down on average every other day), I continue to do what I started. Rape of your brain and body has never worked well. Find a person who will bring what you started to the end, and quit your business halfway and be happy!

6. Use correct affirmations

"I am successful." "The universe is abundant." "I am a money magnet." Few have seen people who utter such phrases on the street. But trainings on successful success and secret secrets are simply overflowing with such unique ones. Damn it, do you really think that the phrase "I am a money magnet" will add money to you? Especially after you open your wallet, and the last 1,000-ruble bill crunches there? Where is your magnet, huh?

7. Stop thinking, do it

Anyone who was at tear-off parties knows that many interesting events began with this phrase, which were subsequently written about in the newspapers. “A refrigerator full of two hundred eggs was thrown from the 12th floor”, “In the absence of their parents, teenagers made a 50-inch hole in the plasma and raced through it”, “A 12-year-old boy jumped from a cliff with his stomach down and hurt his penis . Of course, I'm exaggerating, but did your actions lead to what you really wanted? No? So maybe it's time to stop and think?

8. You are the master of your destiny, take control of your life

Don't get me wrong, I don't mind being in control of my life. But it is foolish to deny that many phenomenal results, including scientific discoveries (I think everyone remembers the story about), were the result of ordinary chance. In the same way that you meet an old acquaintance on the street without expecting it, many things happen in life that you could not predict. They do not need to be controlled; moreover, you cannot control them. All that remains for us is to use these events to our advantage.

9. It takes hard work to be successful

I've always been a lazy person. Seriously. Until now, I can sabotage my workflow in every possible way and put important things on the back burner for weeks. But at the same time, I noticed that after I hired highly qualified specialists and began to work less, things went uphill. If I continued to work as before, it is unlikely that I would ever have achieved interesting results. Bill Gates also said:

If I need to entrust some serious work to an excellent student or a C grade student, I will always assign it to a C grade student, because he will find a way to get out of it. An excellent student will gouge this problem himself until he gives up.

Conclusion: the lazy rule the world!

10. Love your neighbor

If someone in your environment is a complete idiot, do not deceive yourself. If your boss pisses you off, you don't need to love him for it. If your husband hits you, just walk away from him. And that's all. Instead of putting up with the things you don't like about other people, surround yourself with those you are interested in and don't need to tolerate.

11. Be Happy With What You Have

Probably, I will seem cynical to many, but I believe that most people in the CIS have nothing to rejoice at. Seriously, how can you be happy that you have a wife who composts your brains. How can you rejoice at a boss who obscenities you and realizes himself in this way? Before you rejoice at something, arrange your life so that there is something to rejoice at. After that, you can already work on getting more pleasure from what you have. But heck, pretending that everything is fine while you are suffering is definitely not worth it. It's just self-deception.

12. Alcohol is evil

Of course, I also read Allen Carr. Yes, I stopped drinking and was proud of it for a long time. I looked at drinking people as mere mortals and began to notice that other non-drinkers behaved the same way. There is little good in alcohol, but if you drink in moderation and not in order to meet friends (because it’s boring with them without alcohol) or to meet a beautiful girl and take her to a rented apartment (because it’s stupidly scary without alcohol), nothing bad in this no. Drink in moderation for your pleasure, understanding why you are doing it and what you get, and you will be happy.

13. Need to have a hobby

You don't need to have a hobby, but make money on it. There is no need to distinguish between work and hobbies: "From morning till night I am engaged in work, on weekends I have a few hours for hobbies." Work should become your hobby!

14. Expand your comfort zone

The popular belief is that you need to test yourself in all dire situations. After all, as "successologists" say, energy is where fear is. A huge cockroach ran through my house last night. Maybe I should have hugged him, wrapped him in a blanket and put him to sleep on the next pillow? Expanding your comfort zone means overcoming obstacles on the way to your goal, and not just looking for adventures on your head.

15. Think and Grow Rich

Yes, really, sit, think and feel your pockets fill with air. Nobody has become richer from "thinking" yet. The human brain clings to loopholes and always wants to use them. The movie "" stopped working even before it was released.

To get rich, you just have to work. Thinking is the privilege of the rich.

16. Don't watch TV

Not watching TV means not watching the brainwashed news. But watching the National Geographic Channel is much better than sitting on VKontakte, imitating hectic work.

17. Stop plowing for your uncle, start your own business

For some reason, 98% of businesses are closed in the first year. And their founders run to business coaches, hoping that they will teach them. This is a fashion trend, but in fact it would be much better if, instead of a business, you worked for a startup for several years, raised it and then, if you would like to continue, open your project. Our office plankton runs off to make online stores, and it is really very rare that something useful comes out of this. Not everyone needs to be an entrepreneur. Understand what you like and everything will be fine.

18. Urgently find your purpose

Yes, there is no purpose. A favorite thing is called a destination. Why doesn't the phrase “Find what you love” motivate anyone? They want to convince you that it is difficult, but in fact it is done in 10 minutes. You can do what energizes you today. Don't put it off for the next life.

19. Don't eat meat

Set it up again. Eat what you want - you want meat, you want shit, just watch your feelings. If the meat sucks, you don't need to eat it. If you don’t feel the difference, don’t beat your brain. Everyone has their own physiological characteristics, so there is no one type of nutrition that would suit everyone.

20. The ideal spiritual life is the life of a monk

Monks are ordinary cowards who are afraid to engage in their development in society and therefore retire to some quiet place, so long as they are not touched. Read Gurdjieff, The Fool's Experience, Norbekov, Kundalini. Evolutionary energy in man”,“The monk who sold his Ferrari”, in the end. Monks themselves are well aware that they are not strong enough to be in society. Only here they are considered the pinnacle of evolution.

21. Set goals on paper

Because British scientists have proven … Throw your notebooks in the trash bin if you don't like handwriting and use Evernote.

22. Being a sales representative for a company is better than being an employee

Hell, an atomic bomb explodes inside me when I hear networkers refer to themselves as businessmen. What kind of businessmen are they? You've been hired to sell someone else's product! Moreover, they don't pay wages, you only work for a percentage. What business? Business is what you manage! Can you change the company's strategy tomorrow if you see a new opportunity? Take it easy! This is not a business. You are just a sales manager.

23. Down with office slavery, experience life on a journey

I've been traveling around the world for eight months now, and I know what I'm talking about. Travel life doesn't change. The situation is changing. But if you have shit instead of happiness and you think that travel will change everything, haha. Nothing will change, you will only change the environment.

You don't need a trip to be happy.

24. Family comes first

The family is a relic of the tribal system. There is no need to start a family now. You can survive on your own, have sex - with anyone, anytime. Forget about your family if you need it to keep your home cozy. Hire a housekeeper!

25. Use your time effectively

I am sick of people who are guided by the commandments of Gleb Arkhangelsky and the principles of GTD. If I don't want to work today and this thought came to my mind only when I opened my laptop, I silently close it and go to hang out to the ocean or read books at home. If I’m tired of this too, I just sit down at my computer and start surfing the Internet in search of what interests me. This is how many brilliant ideas for my company were born. Learn to be ineffective for your pleasure.

26. Don't use social media

Use them as much as you want. Social networks are good and convenient. Sometimes, even with very business people, you can correspond in social networks. I recently had a Facebook conversation with the CEO of a company that had $ 25 million in revenue last year. And I also talked with three directors, whose companies turnover from 5 to 10 million dollars, on the VKontakte social network. If you manage your time and not social media, use them to your advantage. This is a really effective tool.

27. Invest in your education

I am not against learning. Over the past year, I have invested more than half a million rubles in my education. But sometimes it is much better to take and buy something for yourself, instead of purchasing another information product or going to a mega-seminar. For some reason, people think that the very fact that they gave money for their studies will make them successful. It’s not learning that makes you successful, but action, damn it.

28. Save 10% of your income

I prefer to reinvest most of the money in my business, because there they pay off faster than under a pillow or on a bank deposit. That doesn't mean it's bad to have some kind of savings for a rainy day, but regular savings will make you Ebenezer Scrooge, not Warren Buffett. I know a lot of fairly wealthy people who have no savings at all. They live in the swagger and create great corporations. Read the book Losing Innocence by Richard Branson. The story of Branson and his friends playing shoppers and exploring different islands to have fun proves once again that life without savings is often more fun.

29. Learn From Practitioners Only

Once I was asked a cool question, and now I will ask it to you. Would you learn to invest for $ 10,000 an hour from someone who has never invested in anything in their life? 99% of the respondents answered “no”. And if this person helped all investors to earn a million dollars, what would they turn to? The important thing is not whether a person is a practitioner or not, but how well he teaches.