10 standard phrases that indicate hidden aggression

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

We have all heard these remarks more than once and seethed with indignation. And they even pronounced them themselves. Do not do like this.

People have bad control over negative emotions. Anger looks for a way out. And he finds it. The person seems to have said a simple phrase in a calm tone, and you are angry. Sound familiar? This is your reaction to latent aggression.

The essence of this behavior of the opponent is to suppress anger. Irritation is still there, but in a socially acceptable form. This is a conflict, albeit a latent one. At the same time, the interlocutor cannot answer on the merits and feels stupid.

1. "I'm not angry"

Instead of honestly admitting and explaining their feelings, the person will claim that they are not angry at all. Although everything is bubbling inside, and this will be expressed in relation.

2. "As you say"

Sulking and avoiding a direct answer is a classic. The interlocutor does not explain what he does not like, does not give arguments. He closes in and pretends to agree. Thus, the door to dialogue is closed.

3. "Yes, I'm already going!"

For example, try calling your child to clean the room, do homework, or do the dishes. How many times will you need to call him? And in what tone will he say this "I am going" for the tenth time? However, not only children do this, but also adults if they do not want to do something.

4. "I didn't know"

This is a procrastinator's favorite phrase. If you ask him if he completed the task, the excuse will be standard: "I didn't know what was needed now." It becomes clear: the person does not like the request. But he does not talk about it, but prefers to postpone it. And it definitely makes him angry.

5. "You want everything to be perfect"

When the constant postponement is no longer rolling, the person finds another option - to blame the one who gave the task. The student did not have time to do his homework - the teacher is to blame for asking too much. The employee has exceeded the limit of the project's funds - the employer is to blame, who demands great results for that kind of money.

6. "I thought you knew"

With the help of this phrase, a person expresses latent aggression, relieving himself of responsibility. Usually petty dirty tricksters or schemers are engaged in this. Not showing the letter, not talking about the call - all of this series. There was a conflict, but it turns out that you should have known about that annoying little thing that became the reason. Didn't you know? I thought you knew …

7. "Of course, I would be happy to help, but"

Meet the motto of service personnel, telephone operators and government officials. They can smile at you as much as they like. The more you insist on urgency, the further the issue will be postponed. Up to the point that your papers may end up in the trash can marked "Refuse". Surely those people who have applied for a visa or at the passport office at least once will understand what this is about.

8. "You did everything so well for a person of your level."

Such phrases can be classified as dubious compliments. It's like saying to a fat lady something like, “Don't worry, you're still getting married. Some men like chubby ones. Typically, these sayings relate to age, education, and weight. They are said by those who want to offend or do not think about your feelings. And bribes from them are smooth, this is actually a compliment!

9. "I was just kidding."

Sarcasm is another way to covertly express your aggression. You can say something nasty, and then immediately back down: "Well, I was just joking!" Any harsh answer is easy to turn against again, they say, the interlocutor simply does not have a sense of humor. Don't you understand the jokes?

10. "Why are you so upset?"

After a ridiculous joke, your opponent may ask, with mock bewilderment, why you are so upset. Thus, he gets an implicit pleasure in the fact that again throws you off balance.

If you feel that they are trying to make you angry with such phrases, do not react to them, this is a provocation. There is no need to feed the trolls.