What to do if a teacher bullies a child

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Quick tips for kids and parents to help them cope with bullying.

Recently, more and more often we hear about the fact that it has become difficult to call Russian schools a place of psychological comfort. And if bullying by classmates has long been a surprise to anyone, now the danger lies in wait on the part of teachers as well: bullying for pink hair, refusal of excursions and other reasons. We tell you what to do for children and parents in such a situation.

Children's checklist

• Do not be afraid. If the situation gets worse day by day, you don't need to panic or get depressed. Try not to succumb to provocations and resort to the support of friends and help from adults.
• Do not be silent. Sometimes it seems that it is better to remain silent so that the problem will dissolve by itself. But this is not the case. If you feel that the teacher is unfair and cruel, be sure to tell your parents and ask them for advice.
• Fix it. It may happen that adults will object: they say, you are exaggerating or it seemed to you, but there is no bullying. If you are sure that you are right, you can record a conversation with a teacher on a dictaphone or video camera in a gadget. Perhaps this will clarify the situation.
• Be polite. Sometimes children themselves provoke conflicts, communicating with adults in a rude and defiant manner. In no case should this be done, especially if there are roughnesses in the relationship with the teacher. Try not to have a reason to quarrel with you once again.
• Get ready for a change. Any problem will be solved sooner or later. And there can be many of these solutions, including those that will change life. You may need to change class or school. You should not be afraid of this: any changes are for the better.

Adult checklist

• Be on the side of your child. Is always. Even if you want to be cowardly and agree with all the claims of the school. Remember: the child's trust is the most important thing. Support your child.
• Answer the question "Why?" What's your ultimate goal? Maybe a peaceful resolution of the conflict or an apology from the teacher will be enough for you. You might want to publicize the situation. Think in advance on what you are ready to go: just insist on replacing the teacher or decide to transfer your child to another school.
• Talk to your child. Keep him informed. You can limit yourself to only the main facts, without going into details, but in any case, try to use the most correct expressions.
• Make appointments. Communication in messengers and social networks is important and sometimes even useful (correspondence is saved, which can be presented as evidence). However, the Internet does not always help solving problems: suddenly you or the interlocutor misinterpret each other's intonation or mood. And in times of conflict, this can be a defining moment. Therefore, make appointments: with the teachers, the head teacher, the director, and if necessary, go to higher levels, contacting the local department of education or the ministry of education. And do not forget to record (record on a voice recorder) conversations.
• Ask for help. Anyone can find themselves in a difficult situation, and asking for help does not mean showing weakness. Contact professionals (teachers, lawyers, psychologists), write posts on social networks. The advice here is the same as in the children's checklist: don't be silent.
• Be sure to win. Regardless of how the situation ends, remember that in any case, you remain the winner: you have your child, relations with whom will improve during the conflict (paradoxically, but grief brings you closer). In addition, your way of solving the problem may become an occasion for inspiration to those who after you will encounter something similar. And you will also teach your child to come out of conflicts in a civilized manner and protect himself. And this is already a victory!

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