Why our dreams don't come true and how to fix it

1. The dream has not turned into a goal

Start with a clear goal setting: articulate it accurately and clearly, and, if possible, indicate a deadline. The difference between “I want to be rich” and “I want to make twice as much by the end of this year” is significant.

You should not turn something that is not dependent on you into a goal - it will save you time and nerves. For example, wanting your partner to quit smoking. You can only try to motivate him so that the desire to get rid of the bad habit becomes his goal.

Most people in the world don't achieve their goals because they never really put them first.

Dennis Whateley psychologist

By setting a goal, you take responsibility for achieving it. This is the main ingredient for success. The goal should always be a priority. Ideally, you should do a little bit every day to make it happen.

2. No idea about the result - no result

Alas, often we vaguely or at all do not represent the result of our desires. If you want to earn more, you must clearly understand how you will spend this money. If you want to find a life partner, imagine what he should be.

Visualization plays a very important role in this process. The more detailed you present the desired result, the easier it will be for you to think about ways to achieve it.

3. The path of implementation is not mapped out

This is one of the main reasons why the goal may not be achieved. Answer the question: "What can I do to achieve my goal?" It is important not to think about the possible risks at this stage.

You should abstract as much as possible from fear of failure and write an extensive list of possible actions. Re-read it and make a logical sequence of all the points. This will help you structure your thoughts and believe that you are ways to achieve what you want.

4. Lack of motivation and support

Even if all the previous points are completed, lack of motivation and weak support from loved ones can become an obstacle on the intended path. If the goal requires the help of other people, look for like-minded people.

If you can achieve it on your own, surround yourself with people who believe in you. This will help maintain a morale and a positive attitude. Remember why you started it, more often visualize the result, imagine the emotions that you will receive when you achieve what you want. You have come this way, this is not the time to retreat!

5. Not all dreams have to come true

Remember the famous phrase: "Be afraid of your desires"? Sometimes our dreams are not the best path for us. Often the universe itself is against their implementation. It is important not to confuse inevitable obstacles and trials with real signs that it is worth retreating.

If in doubt, it is better to wait a little and comprehend the situation. But if the goal is still not achieved for reasons beyond your control, look at it philosophically. Perhaps you are not ready now, or this is a sign that a completely different goal is needed. Take a look around and you will probably understand which one.