How to part beautifully

These days, parting, even after many years of marriage, is far from uncommon. In Europe, the UK is the leading country in terms of the number of divorces. There, about 34% of couples get divorced before the 20th anniversary of marriage. British lawyers even dubbed the first working day of January "divorce day", as their fellow citizens often postpone family problems until the end of the holidays.

During holidays or holidays, couples decide to reconsider their relationship and reflect on their need. A difficult period is the New Year holidays, especially for those who do not get along with the relatives of their second half.

Regardless of the reason, any breakup is a difficult situation that leaves its mark on a person. If you do decide to end your relationship, listen to advice that will help you both get through this event.

Choose the right moment

In general, there is no right time for such a radical change. There will always be a feeling of loss, regret about the past and present, and numerous accusations. If the partner is unaware of the other's decision to leave, then the sudden news will deal a big blow to his psyche and self-esteem.

Try to choose the best time to communicate your desire to disperse so that the other has time to reflect on what happened.

Make sure that there are no anniversaries, family gatherings, holidays or, if you have children, important school events during this period. Think ahead and write down what you want to say.

Talk to a specialist

Even at such a late stage in the relationship, you can seek help from an experienced qualified psychologist. He can tell you how to end the relationship on a friendly note, without harboring anger and resentment at each other.

And by going to a specialist together, you can hear the point of view of each of you. You may find it easier to do this in the presence of a third party. The psychologist will help you look at the situation from the outside, as well as accept the future without this relationship.

Try to be generous

Surely you will have a lot of disputes about the division of joint property. Sometimes the sentimental meaning of certain things outweighs their actual value. If something is really dear to you, because, for example, it belongs to your family, then tell your partner about it right away, before it's too late.

Make a list of what you would like to take for yourself, and ask the other person to do the same.

If you have a common pet, calmly discuss with whom he will stay. Joint custody of an animal is not a good idea, especially when it has to travel from one house to another and get used to new faces. The animal must have one home.

Think about the future

Some couples decide to stay friends after breaking up. Someone succeeds without problems, while others are eaten by jealousy and anger. Consider in advance if you can maintain friendships without regretting the past.

If you have small children, you will have to contact each other for at least several more years until they grow up. Deciding who the kids will be left with can become a stumbling block in a divorce, further complicating matters. Therefore, try to resolve this issue peacefully.

Take time to heal your wounds

It's impossible to say exactly how long it will take a person to get over a breakup. For some, a few months are enough, and for some it is difficult to recover even after a few years. And the protracted divorce proceedings only exacerbate the situation. After all, this procedure can take a very long time, leading to both financial and emotional losses.

Give yourself and the other person time to grieve over the failed relationship and calm down before you start dating someone else.

A breakup is a very difficult experience, but understanding the cause of this event can ease the pain of loss and avoid future mistakes. See a counselor if you are having trouble getting through the breakup on your own.