Table of contents:
- 1. Choice of food
- 2. Ability to defend boundaries
- 3. Lack of fear of failure
- 4. Emotionality
- 5. Sincere interest in everything
- 6. Correct attitude to things
- 7. Fearlessness
- 8. The ability to dream
- 9. Ability to distract and get carried away
- 10. Activity
- 11. Ability to acknowledge your successes
2023 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-28 10:38
Previously, you definitely owned them, you just need to refresh your memory.
1. Choice of food
As a child, you could easily answer your favorite food security question when you change your password. Then you knew exactly what you could eat every day, and what would not get into your mouth even after threats, blackmail and sad standing in the corner. Because they were confident that they were right when it comes to tasty and tasteless.
The years have shaken your adherence to principles, and now you eat out of politeness, so as not to offend the hostess. Or because they have already paid for this unintelligible contents of a plate in a cafe. Or because you are too lazy to cook, and you take what is closer from the shelf in the refrigerator.
Food is one of the few basic pleasures, and it’s a shame to deprive yourself of it just because you’ve become an adult.
Your picky food was unlikely to please your parents, because they had to adapt to the little gourmet. But now you can afford to eat what you want.
2. Ability to defend boundaries
Previously, you definitely knew how to say a resolute "no" when the unpleasant aunt Klava wanted to hug and kiss you. Moreover, they did not hesitate to explain why, when she still crawled with hugs, despite your refusal.
You, of course, have been told that this is impolite, and you have learned to ignore your own desires, choosing a circle of friends. But this is not an option when it comes to violating personal boundaries. And someone's unpleasant hugs are definitely breaking boundaries. So it would be nice to regain the skill of dealing with such things, politeness has nothing to do with it.
3. Lack of fear of failure
Children know little, but they learn with interest and without fear. They also don't pay attention to failure if they suddenly run into obstacles.
When babies learn to walk, they fall constantly. But they get up and walk, not thinking that this occupation simply does not suit them. For adults, in order to abandon their plans, sometimes it is enough to forget something at home and remember that coming back is a bad omen.
For children, everything is simple: when it hurts, they cry, when they have fun, they laugh, when bad people around them, they get angry. Adults come up with a million reasons to hide and suppress emotions. In some cases, this can be useful: it is clearly a bad idea to tell the boss what you think of him if you plan to continue working in the company.
But experiencing different events, expressing emotions, is the norm. Laughter and crying help to cope with stress and relieve psychological stress. Therefore, forbidding yourself to use this natural mechanism is simply stupid.
5. Sincere interest in everything
Children ask a million questions and do not divide information into useful information and information that will never be useful. They are just interested.
Over the years, many stop asking questions to others and even to search engines, but not at all because they know everything.
Something becomes unimportant, somewhere it is scary to show your ignorance, some questions seem uncomfortable.
It is really better to leave tactless questions to yourself, but otherwise it is very useful not to lose interest in life. The more you are open to everything new, the more opportunities appear.
6. Correct attitude to things
The child will not have to choose between the integrity of the new trousers and the ability to climb onto the roof. Because pants are just pants, and the stairs at the neighbor's garage are not forgotten every day.
Things around are created solely to fulfill their functions, but adults are trying hard to turn them into the main value. For example, they put on the child white tights for a walk, and then they are forbidden to climb into the sandbox.
And then we become adults and we ourselves forbid ourselves to climb into the "sandbox", because we attach too much importance to things.
Children with "factory settings" are not afraid of anything. Experience and parents warn them about the danger. He touched the hot frying pan and realized that it hurt, next time he will be careful. I listened to my mother, did not stick my fingers into the socket and did not receive an electric shock.
Fear should save, but sometimes it can destroy, albeit not literally.
There are many wonderful things waiting for each of us outside the door of the apartment. But we stubbornly imagine a maniac with a chainsaw behind this door and, of course, do not go out anywhere.
8. The ability to dream
Adults are not very good at dreaming. As a child, we believed in our wildest expectations, even if they were unrealizable: to pet a unicorn or fly to Mars.
Growing up, we replace dreams with achievable goals, and quite modest ones. After all, it is a shame to understand that the main wish of a lifetime will never come true.
But these are absolutely not mutually exclusive things. You can achieve goals and dream uncontrollably at the same time. And there, who knows, maybe a place in the expedition to Mars will be vacated.
9. Ability to distract and get carried away
The child knows how to completely immerse himself in what he is doing. Even if he just picks the sand with a spatula, he does it with all his zeal and tongue sticking out from pleasure. And at this moment he is unlikely to be occupied with any extraneous things.
An adult is able to think about a quarterly report or other problem in any situation, and even a favorite pastime rarely engulfs it entirely. This does not indicate a high level of responsibility at all. If you’re not doing your quarterly report right now, thinking about it doesn’t make you more effective. But they interfere with rest and enjoyment.
Children walk, run, jump, and there is no question for them whether to catch up with the departing bus or wait for the next one. Adults complain of a sedentary lifestyle and go to the gym three times a week, which is reached by car, or take the elevator to the third floor.
If you have the opportunity to walk or give your body another exercise, use it while you can. Years will not add energy to you.
11. Ability to acknowledge your successes
Impostor syndrome does not occur in children. They know when they are doing well, are proud of their success, and are not shy about asking to be praised. The child believes that he has earned admiration, even if he just learned to crawl off the couch, because yesterday he did not know how and this is already an achievement.
Adults also get to beg for praise and encouragement, for example through Instagram likes. But first, it would be nice to believe yourself that you are great.
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