What you need to learn to be successful in your career

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

We often try to avoid situations in which we feel uncomfortable, such as refusing to speak in public or putting off unpleasant work until later. But only by learning how to cope with such situations can you become better and succeed.

1. Accept compliments

If you mumble something slurred in response to your praise, joke awkwardly, or simply fall out of reality, use the following tips.

1. Listen to the interlocutor to the end.
2. Seriously, don't interrupt.
3. Take a breath.
4. Smile and say, “Thank you. I am very pleased to hear that".
5. That's all. Do not praise yourself, but do not try to underestimate your merits. Just continue the conversation, for example ask about something.

2. Speaking in public

The fear of public speaking is so widespread that it even has its own name - glossophobia. To overcome it, try these tips.

Remember key points

Do not try to memorize all of your speech: it will be enough to memorize the key points and supporting phrases. They will help you move from one semantic part of the speech to the next.

Remember, listeners are on your side

They are interested in you performing well, and many of them are probably worried themselves during the performances. So stop mistaking them for enemies and talk to them like ordinary people.

Pretend to be confident

A confident posture and upright posture can help you calm down and feel stronger at the same time.

3. Work with data

Working with large amounts of data can seem daunting, especially if you don't get along with math. Try to train on the data related to your direct activity.

Start by learning about the basic metrics that reflect your work. At the end of the month, create some tables. Modify some data to see how it affects the rest. The more you exercise, the easier it will be for you later.

4. Get up early

First, do not leave the alarm clock next to your bed, or you will most likely decide to take another nap. Also, try to make it easier to get up early. If you find it difficult to shower or go for a run right away, don't do it. First, sit in a comfortable chair with a cup of coffee and tune in for the day ahead, and then move on to business.

5. Accept criticism

Treat criticism like a cheat sheet. After all, by criticizing you, your boss is actually telling you how to get better.

Of course, our first desire is to protect ourselves, we start making excuses and stop listening to the interlocutor. Try to suppress this impulse. Take a deep breath. Listen without interrupting. If possible, write down the important points. And be sure to ask a few questions to make sure you get it right.

6. Criticize others

Don't try to soften the blow or use hints. This will only confuse the interlocutor. Start, for example, like this: “Your actions are not working. Let's discuss why."

Be sure to provide specific examples and explain how a particular action affected the overall result. And do not forget: the person who is criticized should want to change after the conversation, and not feel overwhelmed and humiliated.

7. Resolve conflicts

Negotiations in conflict situations usually fail in two cases: either one side gives up too quickly, or both sides are too stubborn and cannot come to any solution.

The best way to resolve a conflict is to understand the motivation of the other party. Rarely will anyone argue for no reason. Having discovered this reason, you will also find a way out of the conflict situation. Therefore, during negotiations, it is so important to ask questions and listen to the answers of the interlocutor.

8. Go in for sports

It happens that we seem to want to go in for sports, but we just can't bring ourselves to do it. Here are some tips to help you get into the sport.

Decide on the reason

Understand what you want from sports. Lose weight? Relax and get rid of unnecessary thoughts? Or maybe family and work constantly require your attention and training - the only time when you can be alone with yourself? When you know for sure your own reason, it is much easier to practice.

Take the time

Treat exercise the same way you do showering. This is not an obligation, but simply something that you do on a daily basis.

Find what you like

If you are uncomfortable in the gym, exercise at home or in the park where no one will bother you. If you're dying of boredom while running, do something else. Sport should be fun.

9. Disconnect

Now we almost never part with phones, although it has already been proven that this harms both our relationships and health. Try an experiment. For two weeks each day, set aside time free from all devices (at least an hour). Do not turn on your computer, watch TV, or pick up your phone. At the end of the experiment, assess whether your well-being and ability to concentrate has changed.

10. Make connections

Small talk at corporate events is usually boring and uncomfortable for many. But to have a casual conversation, you just need to be genuinely interested in her and in the interlocutor.

If you are asked how you are doing at work, do not just say “good”. Add something like, "There is just one project that might interest you."

And when you ask one question, immediately cast the bait for the next. As a result, an interesting conversation is bound to be struck up.

11. Admit your mistakes

Everyone is wrong. In order not to worry in vain, but to sensibly assess the situation and take the necessary actions, ask yourself a few questions.

• Can everything be fixed immediately? If so, just correct your mistake.
• Who should know about this? Think about who your mistake will affect and who can help you fix it. Let these people know what happened and what you have already done.
• What is the action plan? Immediately start making a plan to remedy the situation: this will help not to panic and switch to work mode.

12. Do not be afraid of difficulties

Nothing makes you tense and creatively approach a problem like a situation in which you don't know what to do. How to get there? Raise your hand. When discussing a project that no one wants to take on, take the initiative. If there is a problem that no one else can handle, try to find a solution. Yes, it is difficult and not always interesting, but you will definitely learn something new.