5 times when lying is really necessary

From childhood, we are taught that lying is not good, but life shows a different example. The ability to lie on time will not only save your nerves, but also strengthen friendship, relationships with your beloved and your status in society. The main thing is to know exactly when the time for sweet lies comes.

1. First pancake

The intern got out with questions for a whole week, but everything turned out to be lumpy, and now you have to redo it. Beloved first cooked breakfast in bed, from the very sight of which you want to hide under the covers and never crawl out. A colleague decided to speak at a corporate event, stuttered and forgot every second word.

Of course, you can fire the trainee, invite your loved one to have a meal alone, and show your colleague a video on your mobile of his failure. But will there be any benefit from such a truth?

Control yourself and lie elegantly. Tell the trainee that he did everything much better than his predecessors, only needs to be fixed here and there. Lie to your loved one that he is the god of cooking, but the gods also need help in the kitchen. Convince a colleague that it was good - for the first time. You, too, once did not know how to do anything, and who knows, maybe the criticism of the first steps killed the great creator in you.

2. Appearance

We promise our friends that we will never lie to them in this matter. Always honestly, in all honesty, we will inform you that the hairstyle turned out to be unsuccessful, the makeup ages 15 years, and the new dress will come off only for the funeral of the dog. By and large, this is very, very correct.

But it is not always necessary to cut from the shoulder. If a trendy goatee makes your loved one look more like Homer Simpson than Justin Timberlake, don't hide it. But if he is going to an important interview and already at the door you tell him that it was worth washing his head after all, this will not give him confidence.

It is a well-known fact that self-confidence compensates for a bunch of external deficiencies. So hold your horses and do not talk about the flaws in the appearance of your neighbor, if nothing can be fixed. Better lie, what is so fashionable now.

3. Gifts

The gentleman has brought you a perfume that exudes the scent of a new toilet freshener. Colleagues chipped in and presented you with a tea set, which is a shame even to take to the country. Grandma has taken out all her stash, and now you, a member of the Komsomol, are looking at the amber cufflinks with horror. Familiar situations?

Receiving gifts is a pleasure if you like them. But desperate donors, alas, often go wrong. As a result, we feel an irresistible desire to immediately ask a generous friend how he even thought of giving such a gift.

But don't say everything you think about your next set of homemade soap. Smile, lie and thank the giver from the bottom of your heart. Agree, choosing something worthwhile is so difficult, especially now, when the counters are full of useless things. And then, someone may like all these senseless presents: look for an owner for them, make your soul easier.

4. Sex

The bed is the holy of holies of any relationship. Here you need to be extremely honest, discuss problems immediately, hide nothing and not tolerate. After all, it is in this love zone that the most shameful failures often occur.

If you are a reasonable person, then you have long understood that ideal sex without effort is only in the movies. Everything in life looks much more ridiculous. Here all the time someone is in a hurry, slows down, imagines himself an acrobat or a stripper, but in vain, in vain. Should I tell my partner directly about the futility of his efforts?

The truth about sex is the truth that can hurt a person very painfully, especially if they try very hard. Be condescending and embellish reality - let your half have an incentive to try further. But if you come across a self-confident hero-lover, without a twinge of conscience, lower him from heaven to earth.

5. Brilliant thoughts

Every time there is an attack of Mendeleev's syndrome. Sometimes it finds insight on your loved ones: suddenly they realize that it's time to write a novel, study to be a psychologist, move to China, devote themselves to plant growing and you never know what else.

And everything would be fine if all your friends were really purposeful and talented. But you know that this is not the case. Chances are, your visionary friend will be wasting time and money, receiving frustration and debt instead of fame.

You can tell him right away that his idea is meaningless and merciless bullshit. But it is better not to offend a person in vain, but to lie delicately. Say that he is great, and go to the practical side of the question. Most likely, your friend will reject his idea already at the stage of calculating labor costs. Discuss everything with him in as much detail as possible, show that you care. And who knows, what if his thought turns out to be not so bad?