Why people live together for decades: 10 reasons we forgot about

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Have you ever met an elderly couple who looks like a couple of young lovers? In this article, we will tell you about the secrets that help them keep their relationship for years to come.

When I see two 70-year-old people walking holding hands, my heart fills with warmth.

Do they have some kind of secret formula thanks to which their love was able to withstand so much?

Most happy couples have reasons why they've been together all these years. Too many of us have forgotten these reasons today.

Well, let's remember.

1. They have common interests, and they are in constant search of things that can interest both of them

Common interests are what brings people together. And happy couples aim to find even more things to do and talk about that will be of interest to both.

Common interests and activities should not be something out of the realm of fantasy. Sometimes it's enough that you both love to watch a movie in the evening with your arms around.

Remember, after all, common interests, the feeling that you are with a person who understands you - this is what once attracted you to your partner. Now what? Now, you're too busy looking for something that you two might like.

If you continue your relationship not as a couple of like-minded people who constantly want to learn together and from each other, share your interests and look for something in common, but as two different people who, for some unknown reason and why, were next to each other, then hardly through a certain amount years, someone will see your couple and think that you have a formula for a happy relationship.

2. They go to bed together every night

The time before bed is the most precious time, because it is then that you can share your feelings with your loved one and get support from him. It is then that you can feel that next to you is the same person who is able to support you.

Many couples today live on their own schedule and forget about how important it is to spend time with each other. Even in the evening, instead of being next to your loved one, you sit with your nose buried in the TV and watch another unfunny comedy. Better watch this one with your wife / husband, hugging under the covers, of course. Do not forget how we all need human warmth and affection.

3. They never go to bed holding a grudge against each other

Happy couples say that this is one of the main rules.

Interviews with people who have been married for 50-60 years prove that this is not just a boring cliché - the moral is much deeper.

If you quarreled, argued, pissed off each other and at the same time go to bed without finding out the relationship and not understanding the causes and consequences, then in one evening you can destroy what you have been building for years.

Talk to each other frankly, express yourself and listen to your partner. Find a compromise and do not forget to tell your soul mate that you love and respect her, despite all the disagreements, quarrels, resentments and omissions that you have to go through.

Today, many couples ignore this simple rule and go to bed without finding out the relationship and harboring resentment in their hearts. If this happens all the time, then this is the first signal that you are destroying your happiness with your own hands.

4. They hug and kiss each other at the beginning and end of the day

Happy couples celebrate starting their day with hugs and kisses and ending the same way. Psychologists suggest that thanks to this, both partners develop a sense of attachment to each other, their mood improves, they begin to trust each other and feel safe.

Very often modern couples forget about the importance of hugs. Everyone is so busy with their own affairs, problems, worries that they will not even remember that today they have never kissed their loved one. Lack of intimacy will ultimately lead the relationship to ruin.

5. They trust each other

Trust is the foundation of any lasting relationship. When you are confident in your partner, you can rely on him, you know that he will always come to your aid when you need it most.

Today, by all accounts, mistrust and constant suspicion are an invariable part of any modern relationship. If this continues, then such a relationship will not only not bring you happiness, but will also make you anxiously paranoid.

6. They say "thank you" instead of "I'm sorry"

Happy couples always focus on the positive, not the negative.

They have no regrets. They give thanks.

Today, many people like to point out to another about his shortcomings, while forgetting that they themselves are also far from ideal. And people who really love each other are willing to put up with their shortcomings. Instead of thinking about the cons, focus on your partner's pros, because they certainly have them.

7. They rejoice at each other's successes

In happy couples there is no concept of "yours is mine", they have everything in common - both joys and sorrows. They help each other constantly move forward, inspire each other to new achievements.

Relationships are not a one-sided game, but a process in which you need to constantly support your partner.

8. They keep doing nice little things for each other

Sometimes in a relationship, even the little things mean a lot. Even after many years, happy couples continue to do these little things for each other: they leave notes with the simplest and most pleasant phrase "I love you" or they can walk the dog if they see that their loved one is too tired for this.

Today we have forgotten how important the little things in a relationship. But it is these little things that very often help us feel that we are loved and cared for.

9. They respect each other's feelings

This does not mean that they always and in everything agree with each other, but in any situation they respect the feelings of the other.

The seemingly ordinary phrase "I understand how you feel" can become magical and nip at the root many misunderstandings and disagreements.

For many couples, the relationship resembles a tug-of-war: everyone wants to defend their opinion at any cost and does not want to listen to the other at all. What do you think will come out of such an alliance? That's right, nothing.

10. They don't forget the importance of a sense of humor

A sense of humor helps happy couples get out of awkward situations and find the world easier to see.

Many people have already thought about how important humor is in relationships, and even annual conferences are held on this topic.

But today, many modern couples confuse humor with sarcasm. Going to extremes, you can offend your partner, even if you don't want to.