What you shouldn't talk about with a man

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

What topics do young people themselves prefer not to touch upon in conversation with girls? The article lists simple rules for communicating with a man.

Women love to talk very much. Especially with men. But, to be completely honest, sometimes it is better to stop us girls in this wonderful occupation. How to understand when it is better for beautiful ladies to just smile and remain silent? What topics are better not to touch upon in a conversation with the stronger sex? I decided to talk about this with men. Below are some thoughts on the sore point.

Lovely ladies, follow a few simple rules, and you will have every chance of becoming ideal companions.

Rule # 1. The former are not a topic for discussion

Dear girls, just believe that it will be much better for your family well-being if the topic of the ex remains unsolved. And please, let's go without intimate details.

If you speak disrespectfully about your ex, then the current man may have several reasonable questions at once: “Why did you even meet with him if he is so bad? Are you going to talk about me like that if we part? " Or even worse: "What if the ex was right that he left you?"

If you start singing praises to your ex-boyfriend, it may raise the suspicion that you are still thinking about him. Think about how you feel when your boyfriend mentions his ex-girlfriend again. Remember the old adage: about the dead, is it either good or nothing? So, let's introduce a new truth into circulation: nothing about the former is better at all.

Rule number 2. Don't be smart, especially if you don't understand the topic

There is no need to behave arrogantly and turn up your nose when dealing with men. In general, you should not consider yourself better or more interesting than others, regardless of their gender. It looks especially comical when a girl does not really understand something, but argues about it with foam at the mouth and with the look of Anatoly Wasserman. A deliberately failed tactic.

Young people also do not really like it when a girl insistently tries to discuss with them some topic in which the man himself is not very strong. Especially when the man made it clear that it was not worth discussing this further, and the girl did not stop and push. A young man should feel like a good fellow, and girls, without really realizing it, can sometimes embarrass the boyfriend.

By the way, to the question of the awkward situation: do not ask a man how much he earns. Especially if a woman earns more and wants to emphasize it in every possible way. This additional knowledge will not help anyone, you will not be praised again for it, it will only bring confusion into your already fragile relationship. Attention, the question: why do you need extra problems?

Rule number 3. Do not talk enthusiastically about other men in the presence of your

No, it is quite natural to admire other, not yours, men and their talents, but you do not need to do this demonstratively in communication with your own. In an admiring compliment to another, your man will immediately see a catch, even if he, in general, is not, and you speak positively about a successful companion of your grandfather's age.

You should not tell with puppy delight or a note of everyday regret what a fine fellow your friend's husband is. The young man will immediately feel that you admire someone more than him, and may even think that you are not comparing him to someone in his favor. Nobody likes comparisons. Such an alignment contradicts the understanding of your partner's world, where he is the Sun, and you are the Earth revolving around him.

Rule # 4. His family is his fortress

In no case do not speak negatively about your man's friends and loved ones, especially about his mother. Even if she has an objectively awful sense of tact, style and tasteless borscht. Don't tell your man that all his programmer friends are awful bores. Please keep your opinion to yourself. They lived somehow before and without you, here, too, they will cope without your participation.

It is extremely delicate to comment on your partner's appearance, especially if you think you need to make some adjustments. Remember how painful you take criticism. And a separate item is your companion's hobby. If your boyfriend loves to solder or artistically cut with a jigsaw in his free time, you need not say that his hobby is useless. Believe me, he himself knows. Don't piss off the guy in vain.

Rule number 5. Don't use hints

My favorite point, since I myself often sin with this. I love halftones and have always considered using them as my strength. I will disappoint: men do not understand the hints and do not catch these semitones. Moreover, young people are unnerved by the lack of logic and expediency in the conversation. Ask specific questions, rather than endlessly hinting that it would be nice if the Moon was in conjunction with retrograde Saturn that night.

Often, girls want to be a mystery and are so successful at it that no one ever solves them at all. What the girl wanted to say, what she meant - a mystery covered in darkness. It is also important to talk about what you want, and not about what you don’t want. Build your speech on creation, not on denial. Peace for everyone.

Rule # 6. Set aside details

You don't need to tell your boyfriend how often you epilate, do Botox injections, or consult a beautician. Let's leave health and hygiene issues for very private conversations. The less you know the better you sleep.

And please remember the rule: less unnecessary information. Don't torture your man with unnecessary details. Leave the stories of your cousin's long road to marriage to your friends and don't overwhelm the unfortunate boyfriend with stories of your uncle's best friend's college wanderings. Gossip, hours-long stories about the fate of friends and distant relatives - this is not what your man wants to listen to. He is interested in his woman, and not hundreds of thousands of friends in her environment. Take it for granted.

Rule # 7. Public humiliation is bad

Men do not like to be laughed at or made fun of by their girls in public space. Under no circumstances at all. Men like girls who in public represent them as kings, and not henpecked without their own opinion.

Men are very fragile and vulnerable creatures. They need to be handled extremely carefully, in front of you is a piece goods. Omnipotence, sarcasm, disdain for others will erase the dignity of a lady of any appearance. Even if her jokes are extremely witty and, as they say, on the topic of the day. Everyone will run away from such a girl, and she will enjoy communication only with herself.

Rule number 8. Silence is golden

A diplomat is a person who thinks twice before saying nothing.

Winston Churchill

Remember this always. Smile.