How to keep a long-distance relationship?

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

We think that among our readers there are many people who are open to communication, who travel a lot, which means that there are probably those who once had the love of their life, which was overshadowed by only one problem - you were separated by thousands of kilometers with your loved one. Sometimes it seems that such a relationship is doomed to failure, but we think differently and found a selection of tips on how to maintain and develop harmonious relationships at a distance.

1. Try to communicate as often as possible (preferably every day) using SMS-messages, calls, Skype and e-mail. It is important to maintain constant contact and to take an important place in each other's daily life.

2. At the very beginning of a relationship, ask each other important questions to make sure you both expect the same things from them. Decide who you are to each other: you are dating, or you are just acquaintances who are happy to meet when they find themselves in the same city, or you are engaged. Perhaps one of you thinks that you are already ready for the wedding, while the other is not ready to announce such a serious relationship. Yes, these questions are awkward and difficult to ask, but they are necessary in order to avoid misunderstandings and resentment. You can discuss if any of you are willing to move to another city for the sake of wedding and living together, as well as discuss what each of you is looking for in a relationship. By declaring your goal at the very beginning, you will help both yourself and your loved one to act in accordance with personal wishes and dreams.

3. Challenge distance and do things together. Think, after all, lovers who live next to each other spend most of their time not talking, but spending some time together. And from a distance, this is also possible, for example, watch the same program or movie at the same time, play a game over the network, cook dinner while talking on Skype, sing the same song in karaoke, or read the same book.

4. Communicate in all possible ways. Since you cannot see each other on a daily basis, it is important to maintain an emotional connection. This does not mean that you need to chat on the phone for a very long time in the evenings. Exchange short messages using instant messengers. Write about your small victories, joys and problems. Ask each other for advice. But it is better to write emails that are more thoughtful and lengthy, so that your loved one can see what you think about him, and take some time to write this letter. Write love romantic messages. Send small gifts, flowers, and cards for no reason. Quantity in this case is no less important than quality. And, of course, try not to forget important and not even very important, but your general dates. It is better to immediately set yourself reminders of each of them.

5. Remember the advantages that long-distance relationships give: you can spend a lot of time with friends and family, you do not quarrel over everyday trifles (like closing a shampoo bottle), every meeting you have is full of emotions, you don’t break your anger at a loved one, even if it seemed to you that he was rude in a letter to you, you can think a little before writing rude in response. Perhaps, after reading the letter a few more times and analyzing it, you will understand that there is nothing offensive in it. And most importantly, by staying far from each other, you will retain your individuality, unlike couples who live together and spend almost all their free time together.

6. You must have common interests and you need to constantly discuss them. Do you like collecting stamps? Discuss the appearance of a new unique piece in your collection. Do you both love to ride a bike? Synchronize and ride at the same time, and then call and share your emotions. As you devote time to your shared hobby, you will be reminded of your loved one.

7. Don't try to control your partner. As long as both of you are interested in the relationship, you will maintain it. But as soon as one of you decides that his relationship does not suit, or just another person appears in his life, the relationship will end, and it does not matter if you live 3000 km away from a friend, in the same city or in the same room.

8. Do something for each other. This does not mean that you have to throw everything on the altar of relationships. But maybe there are things that you have wanted to do for a long time, but you lacked the motivation. If so, you can start doing it for your partner's sake. For example, tighten your figure a little or improve your culinary skills. When you meet, it will be pleasant for you to boast of your achievements to each other and it will be possible to discuss how difficult some moments were given to you.

9. Discuss your joint plans for the future, so that you know where you are moving, so that you understand what you are trying for now and are experiencing difficulties and problems in long-distance relationships.

10. Remember, many things get better over time, and relationships get better and warmer. Hopefully.

11. Meet more often. Relationships cannot develop harmoniously if you only communicate on the phone. Take every opportunity to see you. Plan regular visits and stick to the plan. Only a clear schedule will help you maintain a relationship.

12. One of the easiest ways to destroy even the finest relationships is to poison them with mistrust and jealousy. When you start a long-distance relationship, you need to be prepared for the hardships that come with it. You need to be a priori confident in the honesty and innocence of your partner. If your loved one went to a party with friends, there is no need to arrange interrogations afterwards, why he didn’t call when he arrived home, didn’t drop an SMS, why he stayed so late and why didn’t pick up the phone in the morning. You shouldn't think that relationships are paused. Do not give up entertainment, meet friends, enjoy life. However, keep a balance, you should not be completely naive and close your eyes to the obvious facts that speak of your partner's betrayal, but you should not spoil yourself and his nerves with excessive suspicion.

13. Maintain a positive attitude, do not allow yourself to focus for a moment on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship. Yes, you are far from your "candy", but you can pay more attention to work, hobbies, and your interests. Plus, these relationships force you to constantly invent new ways to communicate, they reveal your creative side, which will positively affect all aspects of life. Your positive will be passed on to your loved one, you will feel each other's support.

14. Present your loved one with some personal trinket that he can carry with him and touch it in difficult times, and feel your warmth. Such cute things make you feel happy and think about you.

15. A harmonious relationship is hard work. And it is important that both partners understand this and try for the good of the relationship, which must necessarily be built on a solid foundation of trust, mutual understanding and determination. Don't forget that your expectations are reasonable. What we talked about in the second paragraph. And from time to time, ask each other questions again to understand what has changed, and if you still have lost interest in each other.

16. Make your own list of the foundations of the relationship and subscribe to it. This will be a common goal that you will work towards together. What could be on the list? Well, for example: to accept each other as they are; try to be honest and trust each other; strive for a compromise; seek spiritual unity; talk openly about their problems and dissatisfaction in the relationship.

17. Remember that you are still in a relationship. And you have to support your loved one. If he is in trouble, if he has problems, you should do everything to be there at this moment, at least you should always be in touch. After all, if you will overcome all your adversities alone, then why do you need a relationship?

18. Since you rarely see each other, you need to extract as much benefit and pleasure as possible from the opportunity to be alone together. It is also very important to remain attractive to each other, the feeling of arousal fades over time if you do not maintain it.

Any relationship is a difficult job. Long-distance relationships are work that is several times more difficult. However, surely each of you will be able to tell at least one story about a couple who have been happy for a long time, despite the fact that the lovers are separated by thousands of kilometers. We hope that our article will help those who may have begun to get a little tired and despair. Think positively and be happy!