How Friends Affect Our Performance

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Friends directly affect our ability to be productive and achieve meaningful results. Let's figure out why this is happening, and tell you how to form a circle of close communication.

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In this article, we are going to talk about people. Namely about those who are included in the circle of our closest communication.

There is a good African proverb: "If you want to go fast, go alone, if you want to go far, go together." It has become an important rule for me. I understand that high results are achievable only when surrounded by worthy people.

Each of us has people in our immediate environment who contribute to our growth. At the same time, there are those who slow down this growth and pull us down. The only question is how to preserve the former and reduce the influence of the latter.

Who prevents us from moving forward

There is a very good rule of the arithmetic mean in dealing with people: you are a cross between ten of your closest friends. Therefore, for example, if most of your friends are convinced that beer in the middle of the working day on Wednesday is the norm, then most likely it will become the norm for you as well.

You can choose any criterion and check it in a simple way: write down your personal beliefs, make a list of your closest friends, mark those who will support you in it. You may find that some of these beliefs were once imposed by “caring” friends who surrounded you with a solid wall.

At the moment when I began to realize that not all friends have a positive influence on me, I decided to reconsider my inner circle.

How to determine with whom to continue a relationship

1. A friend has a purpose in life

It is vitally important for me that a person strives for something. This applies not only to the life goal, but also to the principles by which a person lives, his relationship to family, work, success.

There are people who are used to things that are unacceptable to me, for example, hatred of their work. And if there are too many such discrepancies, I speak frankly with the person.

2. Heart-to-heart conversation

You definitely shouldn't leave by slamming the door and telling your friend, "You are a loser, I am a winner, so we will not succeed in friendship."

You should always be honest with someone you consider to be a close friend. Tell about what you are striving for and what is important to you. And after that, it is better to directly explain what is difficult for you to come to terms with.

Further, two scenarios are possible: a friend understands everything, and we support each other in achieving personal goals, or we silently, and sometimes even with accusations, disagree. The second option was never pleasant to me, but once again reminded me of the main reason why this happened.

Don't get me wrong, I also do not meet all the requirements of the people with whom I communicate. But I am always ready to listen to my friend and try to change something. If this is too contrary to my beliefs, this separation will be as difficult for me as it was for him.

In the film “Vysotsky. Thank you for being alive”was a good phrase:“They turn away, it means they did not love”. If this is true friendship, then you will always respect each other's values, while not betraying your own.

Who is ready to lend a shoulder

Undoubtedly, we value those people who are ready to support us for the fact that we have them. Sometimes you don't need more, but sometimes you need to put in a little more effort.

There are enough such people in my environment, but I do not always manage to maintain stable relations with them. Largely because I did not understand what such a relationship was.

Today I define them by just one metric - communication frequency.

In friendship, we very often take a passive position. We are waiting for someone to write to us, call us or offer to meet. But personally, I try to always be active.

It is important to keep in touch with your closest friends. Write once a week, meet once a month. Let you have your own schedule, but agree that it is not at all difficult to devote personal time to a person whom we value. After all, it is he who will come to the rescue in difficult times and lend his shoulder. Why not give it credit now?

Don't wait for the right moment, but write, call, or make an appointment with someone you consider to be a good friend. Remember the Little Prince's warning: “People don't have enough time to learn anything. They buy clothes ready-made in stores. But there are no shops where they trade with friends, and therefore people no longer have friends."

Finally

I do not urge you to hastily clean your VKontakte friends list and add unwanted numbers to the black list. I just want to remind you that the people around us directly affect our ability to be happy, achieve significant results and live a fulfilling life.

And only you choose what kind of people they will be.

I wish you success!