Plus size people: how to cope with the flow of criticism and even make money from it

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Fat woman, fat woman, sow. You can listen to this and finally lose faith in yourself. Or you can wipe everyone's nose and turn your appearance into a source of income.

We live in an amazing time when the personal life of each of us is constantly in public space. The opportunities offered by modern technology are fraught with a great temptation to share with the world the alternative reality of our life. Everything in it is glossy and positive, brought almost to perfection, without a dull life and boring everyday life.

We seemed to be transported to the covers of imaginary magazines, where everyone seeks to show himself and others how beautiful and interesting he is: the right angles, smart phrases, filters, Photoshop that can already be installed even on a smartphone. As a result, the picture turns out to be of high quality, but the sediment remains.

Having eaten a deliberately artificial life, the public has spawned a whole movement that has risen to the defense of everyday life and urges to accept oneself and one's body (and as a result, one's life) as it is. So, for example, bots appeared in Telegram, removing makeup from a photo.

Like any action, a wave of struggle against hypocrisy turned into opposition: armies of haters and shamers set out to defend the ideals of lost beauty.

In fact, nothing new is happening. Shaming, despite its newfangled name, is absolutely traditional, especially for a Russian person, a reaction to someone's behavior that is different from the behavior of the majority.

Think of the crowds of shamer grandmothers on the benches at the entrances or the ubiquitous hater aunts in the queues. They are true fighters against universal injustice and defenders of world harmony. The aunts took up physical education, the grandmothers did a lift and Botox injections, but the essence of the phenomenon did not change.

Let's take a look at the different cases of shaming and three steps to help you deal with it.

The first story: "What did I say?"

Not so long ago, two respected publications at once published articles on corpulent girls. The goal was very noble - to maintain a body-positive mood. But something went wrong. The fat women did not stand in line with gratitude, did not call for an encore.

Why, after all, they are really fat? What is offensive here is not clear. But the thing is that loud school nicknames like "bespectacled", "nerd", "drysh" remained in puberty. You can also give some free tips on how to dress and what length skirts to wear, because anyone wants to teach a fat man how to live, eat, and play sports.

The second article is excellent in content, but the build editors have completed it with deliberately holivar photographs depicting all the deadly sins: laziness, gluttony, cellulite. At the same time, without malicious intent, light cheerful portraits of the peeping journalist Natalia Kiseleva were placed in the article.

Natalia was indignant, fat traffic poured out, and the editors wondered what the problem was, because the article was positive … However, few people would like to become the personification of domestic fat, associate themselves with all the vices of which you are not at all guilty.

Step one: you are not a dollar to please everyone

In general, the latest tendencies in body positivity are for some reason perceived by the majority (as, incidentally, by some adherents) as a call for completeness and an unhealthy lifestyle. And this is fundamentally wrong, which is evident from the name body positive. It is about the right of every person to be happy.

It's so simple: on paper it sounds undeniable, in life - people just start bombing if some girl or woman, not being a standard of beauty, declares to everyone verbally or non-verbally that she is completely satisfied with her body, her life and she has everything OK.

- How dare she? I cannot achieve the ideal - so I sit and do not shine!

- I achieved the ideal with sweat and blood, and some cow just took it and said that everything was OK with her.

And the truth is that there is no ideal and that most diets and workouts are about the pursuit of happiness, which, to the surprise of many, does not lie in centimeters. It is in the brain, or the heart, or the soul - we do not know where, but not in the size of the clothes and the shape of the belly.

Someone wants to find or keep loved ones with their beautiful figure, someone wants to declare themselves to other people so that they will finally be noticed. And someone does not try to solve their psychological problems through physical fitness, but simply enjoys life. And the latter are doing well, whether they are skinny or fat, and it pisses off everyone else!

And an attempt to impose any standards on someone obviously means losing the dispute. This also applies to puffy ladies who flaunt their size, because they realized that there was no strength left to fight for a dream figure. Any attempt to prove your innocence to others is only a way to prove to yourself that you are not wasting your time and energy, you are not living your life in vain.

Story two: SSBass rule

The number of haters, as a rule, directly depends on the media presence and popularity of the person posting a photo of his contented personality. But even one unpleasant comment from a familiar person can ruin the mood for the whole day.

Plus size models hear not only from outsiders, but also from their mothers and "girlfriends" expressions like: "Where are you on the catwalk?", "Fashion for the thin!" If you have a minimum audience - the holivars in the comments are guaranteed! One camp will talk about the beauty of any shape and size, the other will appeal to the BMI standards and the arguments of doctors and fitons.

Step two: haters gonna hate, potytos gonna pottet

None of the participants in the show began to sprinkle ashes on their heads. It's pointless and destructive. And you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You were already born with the right to be yourself and love yourself for who you are!

Aerobatics is simply not to read malicious comments, so as not to darken your existence even for a split second with the negativity of notorious personalities. Without receiving any reaction, the enemy will inevitably retreat, spending all the resources of the internal bile, leaving you a winner without any effort on your part.

Story three: the sow

But do not think that a good figure is a panacea for Internet shamers. For every pretty girl, there will be at least a dozen others who will see her existence as a personal challenge, and as many men who at one time did not fall in love and now itch to raise their self-esteem at the expense of the object of envy.

Take Evgenia Podberezkina, the first plus size model, which was approved for the cover of Maxim magazine (many thanks to Alexander Malenkov, editor-in-chief of the publication). Prior to this, photos of such models were sent to the basket at the stage of approval.

So, neither his young age (19 years old), nor the titles of world champion in synchronized swimming, nor his coaching career, nor the body mass index within the normal range (23) saved Zhenya from being labeled as a sow, fat. What did Zhenya do?

Step three: fat = $

The model did not become clogged and hide its rounded shapes. On the contrary, Zhenya took part in countless debates, agreed to be interviewed. Now Podberezkina has about 30 thousand followers on Instagram, coverage - 50 thousand unique users per week. The champion proved that a plump tummy and steep hips are by no means an object of shame, but a source of income.

Do you think you have something to say? Join modeling agencies, plus size communities, gain followers and monetize your popularity. Now is the time for that.

Instead of a conclusion

The main thing is not to take the comments of others to heart. Whatever you do, whatever size you wear, there will always be those who want to throw mud at you. There is no need to look for a logical explanation for this, try to make excuses or debate, because this has nothing to do with you. This is simply a reflection of the fears and worries of the commentators.

If there is enough inner harmony, be glad that you are noticed. You did not leave people indifferent, which means that you do not merge with the gray mass.

If, instead of joy, you feel resentment, do not read. The easiest way out.

In order to get out of any situation with your head proudly raised, you need to believe in yourself, show with all your appearance that if you are interested in the opinion of others, then you will ask about it, and believe that being you is already cool, right now without any improvements! Then the most impressionable will choke on their own poison, and the rest will simply get bored of breaking through the wall of self-confidence, and they will leave.

Remember, shamers are always unhappy people with a lack of attention who try to solve their inner problems at your expense. No, this is not about “they just envy”, this is about the fact that there can be many motives for public shaming, but the reason is always the same: dissatisfaction with one's own life. And the most effective way to defeat them is to be happy. Then, up to someone else's opinion, you will be like before the Moon, and happiness is inside and does not require proof!

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