10 most important things we can do for loved ones

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Become a reliable support for those who are dear to you.

The author of these tips, personal effectiveness trainer Laurie Deschene, believes that life is primarily about the people around us. There must necessarily be several people nearby who saw us in unpleasant, awkward situations and still continue to support us. It gives a sense of security and hope for the best. At the same time, in her opinion, in a relationship it is important not only to accept support, but also to provide it.

Laurie Deschene Personal Development Coach, Founder of the Tiny Buddha Community

The person who follows these rules is the friend I want to be and whom I want to have. Because all people need a little love.

How to show concern for those you care about

1. Being close for real

Put your phone aside and put it on silent mode. Unless you are a super agent who can be summoned every minute to save the world, messages and mail can hardly be more important than the person who is next to you. Concentrate fully on it.

2. Listen carefully

Sometimes in a conversation we pay more attention to our reactions, thinking about what and how we will say in response to the interlocutor's remarks, waiting for our turn to speak. Instead, try listening carefully and understanding the person you care about.

3. Tell the truth

Even if it makes the person feel uncomfortable, talk about what's right for you. Resist the temptation to hide unpleasant things to make the situation look better than it really is.

4. Accept the person completely

Everyone has flaws, and you need to be truly blinded by love in order not to notice them. However, a person becomes who he is, thanks to a cocktail of merits and demerits. And it is worth taking its qualities as a kit.

5. To interpret the situation in favor of the interlocutor

Instead of thinking the worst of the person, give them the opportunity to clarify the situation. Maybe he didn't mean to be rude or hurt your feelings. Or you may have reacted incorrectly to his words or actions because you were having a bad day. Or he touched on a topic that is painful for you. Stop guessing and ask again what he meant.

6. Forgive

There is no need to transform all grievances into stones that you will hide in your bosom. When it comes to little things, just eliminate the chagrin that the person has inflicted in the mental shredder and forget. If the resentment is great, discuss it, tell us what makes you sad and how you can fix the situation together.

7. Admire out loud

Tell the person why you value him, even if these actions are given to him without any difficulty. Praise him because he is amazing and needs to know about it.

8. Give without looking back

Give love, support, understanding. Give things back if they can be useful to him. Sometimes it is better to overdo it with concern than not show it.

9. Remain impartial

Don't judge a person by how they appear and what impression they have made on you. Let him prove himself, show what he believes in, what he is worth.

10. Love in spite of everything

Even if a friend, partner or family member is stubborn, capricious, love him. Behind the broad generalizations and small thoughts, it is important not to lose sight of the fact that your loved one is a good person who does everything possible to exist in this imperfect world.

Everyone has stress and breakdowns, situations when everything is enough. In these moments, we feel lost. But the feeling that someone believes in us helps to remember that we are not alone.