Look as the strongest tool of suggestion

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

You can charm, dominate, subjugate with just one glance. Lifehacker tells how it works and whether it is possible to learn it.

A look at the relationship of the sexes

The look is of great importance in inter-sex communication. Many women claim that they fall in love with a man after the first eye contact. If a man can withstand a woman's persistent gaze, expressing his determination in it, in further communication she will unconsciously show more respect for him.

A woman's look at a man is the primary test of his masculine qualities.

To quickly look away in such a situation, to be embarrassed is to admit defeat. However, a woman must also be confident enough in her abilities to decide on such a test.

If the person you like looks away, keep looking at him. If after that he looks at you again, this is a sure sign of sympathy. If at the same time a smile appears on his face, you can start a conversation without a doubt.

Which look is considered accidental, and which is a conscious challenge? The normal time for eye contact, after which both people naturally abduct their eyes, does not exceed 2-3 seconds. If the person stares at you for longer, they probably have an interest in you.

A glimpse in the struggle for leadership

Glance is the most powerful non-verbal mode of influence. He can subdue a person and set the nature of your further communication. However, can it be called a tool - something that we can consciously use for our own purposes? Can a person's will break the instinctive desire to look away under a persistent and unbending gaze?

In nature, the strongest male will have the most persistent gaze. It is often possible to see how an animal of large size, meeting the gaze with a smaller representative of its own species, turns away, as if yielding and obeying that. Body size, muscle mass, jaw size, and other traits will certainly influence the necrovascular definition of a dominant male. However, this is not enough.

A glance is a sure sign of real strength, vital energy, the ability to fight to the end, the readiness to die in battle.

Man is a social being, therefore, not only natural factors affect him. This is morality, ethics, and social position. Thus, a long look in culture can simply be regarded as incorrect behavior, and that is why a shy desire to avert our eyes will arise in us. However, the main factor influencing the persistence of a gaze is will. This is what can make the gaze your strongest psychological weapon.

The importance of eye contact

How else does our view affect communication? In psychology, the following facts are known:

• People who make eye contact during a conversation are perceived to be more honest and open.
• Lack of eye contact in dialogue is read by us as lack of interest.
• When speaking in public, a good speaker always looks around the audience in order to make eye contact with everyone. This makes his speech more convincing.
• Eye contact is essential when meeting someone. An open and good-natured look at 30% forms the primary attitude of a person.
• A quick look away during an acquaintance is read as an unsteadiness of character and a willingness to obey.

One thing follows from these facts: the strong-willed ability to keep a gaze in front of another person makes the image of the beholder more powerful, domineering and influential.

However, these rules cannot be called universal. Much depends both on the nature of the look and on the person. Someone will consider a long look a manifestation of impoliteness, someone will start to get angry, someone will be frightened.

It is necessary to maintain a balance of modesty and perseverance in the look, corresponding to the specific situation of communication with a person.

The main thing is not to provoke a defensive or negative reaction. You can subdue a person to your will with a glance by instilling respect and demonstrating a strong character, and not aggression. The gaze should be calm, intent, without a shadow of pretense and shamelessness.

Gaze training

So can you develop a strong gaze? The one that subdues and inspires respect? There are many dubious exercises on the web, like looking at a candle flame and circles on paper. But a look is a continuation of your inner state, and it will probably be different in sparring with a piece of paper and with a real person.

All gaze enhancement exercises will be meaningless if you cannot focus your mind on one subject while doing them. How do you want to influence others if you cannot even influence yourself?

Japanese shogun Yoritomo Tashi with exceptional influence on people

Fortitude is an indicator of the strength of your will and thoughts. To get your thoughts under control and increase your concentration, there is one proven exercise. Count slowly from one to ten, pausing between words. If even one thought distracts you from the process, start over. Try to increase the counting time by a couple of units every day. Various meditation techniques contribute to the same.

After you've made some progress in controlling your thoughts, try practicing in public. Pick faces from the crowd that show a less faint character than yours. Try to hold their gaze, keeping only one thought in your mind that blocks your desire to turn away. “I’m uncomfortable”, “what an awkward situation”, “this is so stupid” - all these ideas just should not reach your mind.

Once you have mastered this too, begin to selectively approach the thought that you hold during the competition. It should not only hide your psychological weaknesses, but also give strength to your gaze.

Concentrate on the desire to subdue, show strength, authority.

Developing a confident look is not an easy task, but once you do it, you will see how quickly the attitude of others towards you will change.