What is bodyshaming and why is it bad

In an ideal world, no one violates other people's boundaries and does not climb with their valuable opinion about your appearance. We are all different, so we look different too. But every person at least once in his life has come across condemnation: for someone you are too fat, for others you are too brightly made up, he believes that at the age of over 20 you cannot walk with lilac hair, and this does not like tattoos.

All these are manifestations of body shaming, and speaking in Russian - discrimination against those who do not fit into generally accepted standards of appearance. Very often people with overweight are poisoned, although too (in someone's opinion) thin people also regularly get it.

Are you doing this too? Stop immediately. And that's why.

1. It is imposed by stereotypes

At different times, different types of appearance were considered attractive. Back in the middle of the 19th century, women wore crinolines to appear more voluminous, and chubby cheeks were considered a sign of wealth. The thin were mostly poor or consumptive (tuberculosis patients). In the 90s of the XX century, the standard 90-60-90 was the standard of a model female figure. 15–20 years passed, and flat narrow-hip androgynous people began to be released on the catwalks. And today it is no longer enough to be just thin, it is imperative to be athletic.

Everything that you consider beautiful is imposed from the outside.

Imagine that you were born and raised on a desert island, never watched TV or read glossy magazines. How do you know how fat or thin you are? No way.

2. It's none of your business

More often than not, no one asked your valuable opinion about your appearance. People just live in the body that they have, without interfering with you. So why do you think you know what they should look like? Who gave you this right? No one. Even if this other person is your loved one.

3. It's cruel

There is nothing more destructive than self-loathing. But it is precisely this that is felt by someone who is regularly spanked for not meeting standards. Do you judge the appearance of another person because you are sure that you are already handsome, slim and look great? Look for other ways to assert yourself, they are.

4. It's subjective

Just think about the fact that someone may likewise dislike you. Well, because you have blonde hair and gray eyes, and a person likes brown-eyed brunettes.

5. It Doesn't Help Change

"If the fat ones are teased, they will pull themselves together and lose weight." “If we repeat that men don’t throw themselves on dice, she will eat more and gain weight.” No, no and NO! If you constantly remind another that he looks like something wrong, you will only achieve dislike and unwillingness to do business with you. Some of the features of appearance are indeed genetically determined. But even if the one whom you condemn is simply lazy or does not want to change in order to please you, that is his right.

It will be better for everyone if everyone takes care of themselves, and leaves the rest with the right to be as they are - different. It is unlikely that you will be interested in living in a world where everyone looks and thinks the same. This is a real dystopia! Let others be different from you. To be no better and no worse, just different! And let everyone who loves himself and is in harmony with his own body be considered beautiful.