How to communicate with an attractive girl: 5 simple tips

It's no surprise that the prospect of talking to an attractive stranger scares shy guys so much. They know that in order to please a girl, they have to show their best side. Scrolling through the situation in their heads, young people can get so excited that they will start to spoil everything, as soon as they approach the poor girl. Fortunately, this stage is temporary, and the following guidelines will help you to skip it as soon as possible.

1. Make eye contact

The most important rule is to look the girl in the eyes. The fact that you shouldn't stare at your chest is perhaps obvious, but a long glance past your interlocutor or a delay in looking at the clothes can also spoil the impression.

Eye contact is an incredibly powerful tool for building rapport between people. More than 20 years ago, psychologist Arthur Aron experimentally proved that people are able to fall in love in a few minutes, just looking into each other's eyes.

By avoiding eye contact, you betray self-doubt.

If you don't believe in yourself, then why on earth should a stranger believe in you? It is even worse if the distracted gaze is interpreted as a sign of disinterest and boredom.

An eye-to-eye look is like saying to the girl: "I give you all my attention." This is really important. Charismatic men use eye contact as a way to make a girl feel like the most interesting person in the world.

The way you look at the girl when you talk is equally important. Squint your eyes when talking about something serious, and raise your eyebrows when talking about something surprising or scary.

2. Don't try to impress. Just chat

Some believe that women love men exclusively with high status and income. This statement is partially justified, but this does not mean that during the first interview you need to talk about your professional and financial success.

Many guys believe that the more attractive a girl is, the higher her request bar for the opposite sex. As a result of this erroneous opinion, light flirting turns into reading a resume.

The more people talk about their accomplishments, the more they show their need for approval. A penchant for conceit betrays a poor fellow in a person who is desperately trying to fill the void in his life.

It's important to understand that being impressed is not the same as being carried away.

Even a girl's sincere approval of your accomplishments does not mean that she enjoys spending time with you. A prestigious foreign car and a substantial amount in the bank is, of course, good, but such material things have nothing to do with the chemistry of human relations and will not cause romantic feelings in a girl.

Can you give the girl the impression that you have known each other for a long time? Can you make her laugh? This is what will set you apart from the rest and help to please.

3. Don't get hung up on yourself

Unlucky ladies' men often talk too much about themselves. The problem is that this is not the best way to connect with other people. This attitude can turn a conversation into a competition. Who will say first? How can you translate the topic to yourself? This is all like intellectual masturbation. It is unlikely that after such a contact people will have a pleasant impression of communicating with each other.

We rarely meet people who are interested in our opinion. Even less often, such individuals are found among attractive young ladies. Focusing on the girl will make her feel special.

Use every opportunity to get to know the girl better. The more aware you are of her interests and emotions, the more she likes you.

Do not focus on general questions like "what do you do" and "where are you from". It's boring. Try to get to know something more personal, try to translate the topic of conversation into a discussion about a movie you recently watched, or a book you love. You can afford to argue with the girl a little, but don't overdo it. A fascinating and natural conversation will win over a girl who seemed out of reach a couple of hours ago.

Examples of good questions

What places and countries would you like to visit?
What are you most proud of in your life?
Do you want to be famous? What exactly would you like to be famous for?
What would you do if you had absolute freedom and a potion of luck?
What superpower would you like to acquire?
What do you like best about your job? What is less?

Just remember that the conversation should not be like filling out a questionnaire. Don't ask questions in a row, but weave them organically into the conversation. Imagine the conversation is a ball game. The girl serves, you accept and pass back to her through a new question that fits the context.

4. Look for common interests

The way to a pleasant and easy conversation is through research and discussion of common interests. Remember all the tortured conversations that began to take shape only after one of the interlocutors mentioned a movie, book or TV series. A couple of things that you both love very much are enough and you are on your way to becoming best friends.

We instinctively sympathize with those who are like us. The presence of one interest makes us think that we can converge on other things. The more you have in common with the person, the more comfortable they are with you. The level of sympathy grows with the level of comfort.

Finding out that you love the same cocktail or went to the same high school will give you much more than knowing that you both just love to eat.

When talking to a girl, don't miss the opportunity to emphasize that your interests are similar. If specific coincidences do not come up in the conversation, then try to work with what is. Is she interested in caving? Say that you are also a fan of history, are passionate about exploring new things and confess your love for "The Adventures of Tom Sawyer". Try to organically weave a quote from a popular movie into your conversation. Grasp the topic, develop it by asking additional questions and accompanying the girl's answers with your own comments.

5. In order not to get nervous, do not get hung up on the end of the conversation

Stress in the first minutes of a conversation with a girl is difficult to completely eliminate or hide. There is nothing terrible in this, because there is a certain charm in light excitement. An easy way to keep emotional stress to a minimum is to not focus on the outcome of the conversation.

It is the expectation of the result and the fear that it will not come true that is the main cause of stress when talking with a girl. We focus on our goal in such a way that we cannot think about anything else. This thought comes from us like a bad smell that leaves an imprint on everything we do and say. We do not participate in the conversation, but only analyze every word or gesture.

Giving up any expectation frees you from anxiety. Yes, it would be great to get the girl's number, but what if she says no? Nothing wrong with that. The very fact that you have taken the first step is already progress. Now you can enjoy communication, study, try and not be afraid of attractive girls. Experience is a result in itself. And that result could be the start of something really interesting.