7 signs that you've found the perfect soul mate

1. When you are together, you do not think about others

Dating site A Little Nudge founder Erika Ettin suggests doing this test. Pay attention to how you behave with your partner in a bar or restaurant. Do you look around to see who else is around? Wondering who can see you together? Or are you just happy that the two of you, and vice versa, want to be noticed with him or her? If the latter is true, your partner passed the test.

2. Your partner is happy about your success

According to psychotherapist Shannon Thomas, one person often harms the interests of another. Sincere joy for your achievements is a sign that this will not happen. For this, the partner must be satisfied with his own life. Then he will rejoice at your success with you.

“Couples who value each other’s needs and interests find it easier to compromise than couples in which everyone’s only thinking about themselves,” says Laura VanderDrift, a psychologist at Syracuse University.

3. The partner is not trying to change you

If your partner behaves the same with you in public and in private, treats you with patience, you are on the right track. Tracy Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support, advises you to listen to your gut. She often sends us signals when something goes wrong, but we ignore them.

For example, if a partner is trying to change you or not accepting who you are, this is a sign that the person loves others. He will never treat you with respect.

4. The partner fits into your life

Consider whether your partner's life intersects with yours outside of the relationship. Does he get along with other people in your life? Do you get along with his friends and family? Do you have common interests and activities? If so, that's a good sign.

5. Your partner is listening to you

According to psychologist Elinor Greenberg, it's good if your partner is genuinely interested in your life and listens carefully when you speak. It also remembers what you said about yourself. If he almost always talks only about himself, does not ask about you, does not listen to your words, it is unlikely that he is interested in you. He just needs to speak up.

6. Your partner comforts you when you are sad

Think about how your partner behaves when you are sad or having a tough day. He may be empathetic and not distracted when you talk about your feelings. Knows when to just hug.

But if you are for the fact that you are sad, or are told that you are overreacting, this is an alarming sign. This behavior can be a sign of narcissism. Maybe later it will seem to you that you really reacted harshly. It is still necessary that at a difficult moment you are heard.

7. The partner does not hide his emotions

In a healthy relationship, partners express their feelings and resolve conflicts. If discontent is hushed up, irritation will only grow.

“Fighting, then, is not a way to hurt another, but an opportunity to learn,” said psychotherapist Jonathan Marshall. “In essence, you are saying to your partner: 'This is how your brain works, this is how I feel, we can learn from this and move on.'