Quitting even before smoking

Everyone is constantly talking about the dangers of smoking, okay, this is all known for a long time, no one argues that it is necessary to quit. But in every person's life there are a few more things that harm him every day. They poison life, and we do not even notice how it happens, believing that everything is in order. We go to fitness, eat salads, refuse alcohol and cigarettes, but continue to envy, hide resentment and constantly complain about our lives. Maybe it's time to give it up?

Each of us has at least once encountered these sensations. It would be nice once, but we experience them much more often and somehow do not worry too much, as if this does not affect the quality of life in any way. But in fact it does, and how!

Almost everything we do is aimed at achieving the same thing - happiness.

But if you are poisoned by stupid habits, no matter what you do, there will be no happiness, and not because there is not enough money and friends, there is no loved one or favorite pastime, but because, no matter what excellent conditions life gives you, you will still be unhappy.

These are the four poisonous habits that prevent you from taking the coveted prize.

1. Envy

This is another dirty trick that does not allow you to rejoice either in your own successes or in the successes of others. Social media is a great tool for developing envy.

Sociologists from the University of Utah conducted a survey of 435 students and found that the time that a person spends on social networks directly depends on his attitude towards his life. The more people looked at other people's lives (or rather, their edited reflection), the more they believed that others were having a happier and more fulfilling time than they were.

In reality, there is also enough envy, which makes you sad about your failure, thinking that this is really so.

What to do about it

If you swapped places with another person (the one you envy) even for one day, you would not like it very much. All have their own sufferings and rewards, and strangers are no better than their own.

You cannot compare yourself with anyone, everyone had a special past, they have their own talents and opportunities, problems and misfortunes. Just do not compare, there are no criteria by which it would be possible to do this.

2. Resentment

If you analyze the very feeling of resentment, it turns out that this is a mismatch of reality with your expectations.

Imagine, for example, that you stumbled on the street, fell, hurt yourself and spilled food. Not far from this unfortunate incident was a blind beggar who begged for alms. You do not expect that he will rush to help you, so there can be no resentment towards him. But if your acquaintance from work stood next to you and just watched you crawl on the asphalt, picking up scattered oranges, the offense would be serious and for life.

If you do not take into account the reasons for the resentment, then it is a strong negative emotion that haunts you for a long time. At any mention of this person, a whole fireworks of negative emotions will flare up inside, and old grievances are generally dangerous to health, like untreated injuries.

How to get rid of it

In order not to get upset, you just have to expect nothing from people. They don't owe you anything: they shouldn't be polite, pleasant, caring, understanding, friendly. Take it as it is.

Of course, this does not mean that you have to put up with even rude people, people who do not value you, and other unpleasant types. Just draw conclusions with whom you want to continue to communicate, and with whom you need to say goodbye. Life will become much easier without offense.

3. Complaints

Being pathetic is easy, being happy is harder and cooler.

Thom Yorke

Complaining becomes a habit, and if a person gets used to complaining, it doesn't matter at all how his life goes, he will still find something to whine about. If a person constantly complains, it means that he sees only negative sides in his life, notices only problems, and he is in a hurry to tell everyone around him.

There is no objective assessment of your life, there is only how you see it. If you see only the negative, only it is. And all for what? For sympathetic looks from the outside?

4. Condemnation

Well, the last bad habit is the creed of grannies on a bench in a world filled with drug addicts and prostitutes. We take such pleasure in judging others personally and collectively. Everyone, regardless of gender and age, gossips.

What's interesting about this is that you can't judge other people without applying the same evaluation criteria to yourself. How many times have I noticed how people who explode and yell at others for some kind of shortcomings scold themselves in the same way for mistakes, if not harsher.

So, condemnation has two sides. One of them is the condemnation of others, and the second - of the loved one (only in this case, not at all loved at all).

What to do

In this world, everyone has the right to make a mistake and everyone is so different that, again, there can be no objective assessment of actions. You have never been in another person's shoes, you do not know how he lives, how he lived before, what thoughts are spinning in his head. It would be like commenting on a football game blindly based only on the screams from the stands.

As for judging yourself - a person you know very well - just remember that it won't get you anywhere. Never. Perhaps this habit remained from the parents as a copied model of behavior, but it certainly does not motivate anyone. On the contrary, it makes you feel like a failure, come to terms with it and suffer. Well and complain, maybe.

All bad habits

I saw such a practice for a long time, probably many have heard about it, since it was very popular on the Web for some time. The practice is called "purple bracelet", and I remembered about it, because it just offers to get rid of all poisonous thoughts at once.

This practice was proposed back in 2006 by the priest Will Bowen. The bottom line is that you need to put on a purple bracelet and live for 21 days without complaints, criticism of others and yourself, gossip and expressions of discontent (there is no envy, instead of it - an expression of discontent). You can think, the main thing is not to speak. If a person does not cope, he puts a bracelet on his other hand and 21 days starts over.

When I heard about this practice, I decided to try it. I thought it was very easy, because I don't like to complain at all, I prefer not to gossip and all that.

It turned out to be incredibly difficult. The very next day, I transferred the bracelet to my other hand at work, for some reason expressing my dissatisfaction. Then again and again. I had to change his clothes two or three times a day, although I would never call myself a whiner and an eternally dissatisfied type.

Now they even sell such bracelets: if there was an idea, there would be people who would make money on it. Maybe the money spent does not make it so easy to give up, but that is not the point.

You can make yourself a bracelet, tie a simple thread of any color on your hand, or use a ring for this purpose, which you will throw from hand to hand.

After all, the main thing here is to finally give up poisonous thoughts.