Why neurotics are good

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

It is generally accepted that being a psycho neurotic is bad. They say that your comrade is not very reliable if you cannot control yourself in a life situation usual for many. But wait: let's understand the concepts and find out how disastrous it is - a life dedicated to the continuous struggle with your emotions.

In general, neurotics have a bad reputation. I wouldn't be surprised if you take my word for it without questioning this statement in the slightest. The adjectives that apply to these people will make anyone frown for no apparent reason.

See for yourself. Neurotics, they:

• inflated,
• tense (or "tense", as it is now fashionable to say),
• mood people.

Don't feed them with bread - just let me get hung up on something, and then just hold on: actions of unprecedented scale will unfold before your eyes, comparable to a special operation to save the Earth from space invaders. Remember, neurotics don't just happen.

Whichever definitions you turn to, everyone makes it clear that being neurotic is not good. In general, purely logically, the fears are understandable. In the end, according to the US National Center for Biotechnology Information, such unstable (this is the main characteristic of most of the definitions known to the world related to the topic) behavior can pose a threat to human health.

Nevertheless, not all scientific minds are inclined to interpret this phenomenon in a purely negative way. People who are able to cope with their neurasthenia without much effort and tangible losses can derive many benefits from this disorder, unlike other mortals who are "normal".

As promised, let's deal with the terms, because in this case it is essential. So, let us compare the difference between neurosis and neuroticism.

(psychoneurosis, neurotic disorder). Collective name for a group of functional psychogenic reversible disorders that tend to protracted. The clinical picture is characterized by asthenic, obsessive and / or hysterical manifestations, as well as a temporary decrease in mental and physical performance.

(neuroticism). A personality trait characterized by emotional instability, anxiety, low self-esteem, and sometimes autonomic disorders. Neuroticism should not be equated with neurosis, since a healthy person can also display neurotic symptoms.

Isn't that so, the difference between these concepts is obvious?

Many aesculapians believe that the main negative factor that poisons neurotics' lives is suspiciousness. As I was writing this article, I gradually became convinced that I appear to be neurotic. The Internet echoed the information I already had at that time: the life of a neurotic is intricate, its events are ambiguous. Such a person simply cannot be calm, everything is always bad with him. Nevertheless, I continued to delve into the available information and returned a smile to my face.

Next, I suggest that you familiarize yourself with several theses that may refute the myths about the fragility of the foundations of the neurotic universe. Yes, and the devil himself will break his leg if he tries to understand the motives of actions and the winding paths of thinking of those about whom we are now talking. But it turns out that the life of a neurotic is not necessarily constant anxiety accompanied by a permanently stressful state. She can be quite positive to herself.

By the way, as for me, the expression “live a long, happy life” sounds unbearably depressing.

I don't want to get too close to anyone. I don’t want anyone to know how I feel and what I think. And if you are not able to understand what I am like listening to my music, well, alas …

Kurt Cobain

So, here are 10 facts about the real life of neurotics …

1. They think that going with the flow is not cool

Taking the blows of fate with dignity is a real test for the emotionally unstable part of the population. This is why neurotics try to plan their every step: surprises are not always pleasant, and they tend to happen out of place. Perhaps not sweating more than necessary is an extremely useful skill for everyone. But, on the other hand, the habit of being ready for everything all the time is not always a bad habit. Neurotics are used to dealing with anxiety in their own way and even to benefit from it. And in general, the presence of a coherent plan of action in the head has never harmed anyone.

2. Neurotics are loyal and attentive friends

Neurotics are distinguished by the desire to understand everything and pay special attention to how others treat them. Such a person will never forget to congratulate you on your birthday or promotion. This type of behavior was named "" by researchers at the University of Rochester Medical Center.

3. Being neurotic is not only harmful, but also beneficial

A high level of responsibility, combined with a tendency towards neurasthenia, gives its owner several pleasant bonuses. Here's what Dr. (Nicholas Turiano), Research Fellow, Department of Psychology, University of Rochester thinks about it:

People who are prone to neurasthenia tend to be prone to increased anxiety and emotional reactivity. At the same time, it is not at all necessary that these factors will lead to negative consequences, for example, high blood pressure or hormonal disruption. Excessive conscientiousness allows neurotics to protect themselves from the body's reactions that are harmful to health: of course, this will not relieve them of all experiences, but will force them to pay special attention to their health.

4. Experiences are good for neurotics

The tendency to worry about and without is not the best trait of a human character, however, "healthy neurasthenics" can make it work for themselves. “Simply put,” explains Dr. Turiano, “excitement is an additional source of motivation to cope with the very excitement.”

5. Neurotics calm down next to loved ones

It is believed that those who are prone to stress calm down by being close to loved ones and people close to them. And this is not at all accidental. Recently, loving romantic relationships between partners have a calming effect on a person who is prone to bouts of neurasthenia.

6. Every decision of a neurotic is fateful

Take the following position for granted and keep in mind that no matter how difficult the choice a neurotic faces, it will not be an easy decision. Cheesecake or Viennese waffles for dessert? To work in an old team or take advantage of an offer from a new potential employer? No matter. There are no small things in life, and everything has its consequences.

7. Neurotic conditions can increase the speed of the thought process

This is the opinion of a group of researchers from Downstate Medical Center at the State University of New York. Scientists conducted a short study and found that people who are overwhelmed by doubts and fears, in some cases, are able to perform better on IQ tests than those who are less anxious.

And the point here is that neurotics tend to better adapt to life, because they try to avoid ambiguous situations. And they are constantly busy with this, which loads their brain with additional tasks and makes them think faster.

However, this opinion still seemed to us controversial. After all, there are a lot of people who are simply lost when they find themselves in a stressful situation.

8. Think not change your mind

Speaking of neurotics, you can safely use the words of the classic. The grief of neurotics is from the mind. These people are constantly thinking about something, subjecting each thought or event to a thorough analysis. Many are annoyed by this, and as a result, the phrase sounds: "You take too much on yourself." It's a shame, the man only wanted to help.

9. About the inevitability of a sad ending

People susceptible to neurotic behavior are convinced that the glass is always half empty. During my student years, I traveled on an exchange to the United States, where, out of musical predilections, I met Danny, a boy of my age who lived next door. He was a thoughtful and suspicious person, which, however, did not prevent him from being an excellent friend and companion. In short, he was a classic neurotic.

So, his favorite saying was: "That would be nothing my friend" ("Nothing will come of it, my friend"). This phrase was always pronounced somewhat theatrically and sounded so doomed that one day I asked him again: “Nothing, really? Why so Danny? " ("Really nothing? Why, Danny?"). I immediately liked Danny's answer: "C'mon man … If it would be nothing, you won't be disappointed"

And what, a very convenient approach to fate and all its unexpected twists and turns!

According to published in the journal American Psychologist, neurotics tend to exhibit negative emotions in response to a threat, stalemate, or serious loss. But despite the obvious unproductiveness of such behavior in a difficult situation, a little pessimism can be useful: life is still difficult and unfair, so you need to treat it more realistically.

10. Everything that does not kill …

… makes us stronger. This is also true for the heroes of my today's publication. Neurotics are hypersensitive to their own thoughts, words, and actions. Their immersion in themselves is so strong that it can even be useful both personally and professionally, if you do not get too carried away with self-digging.

Summing up, I want to say the following: each type of personality has its own strengths and weaknesses, which, of course, should be taken into account. Neurotics are distinguished by one thing: they know themselves as flaky, because they are busy with self-reflection almost constantly, in the background (this allows them to be in a kind of tone).

So it’s not so bad to be neurotic! As they say, forewarned is forearmed.