How to feel confident at any event

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Parties in the club or corporate events for many shy people become a burdensome, but necessary burden. However, everyone can express themselves vividly at any event.

A large proportion of people are introverts, for whom communication is a psychologically painful procedure. They experience discomfort from multiple views, the need to speak out publicly, the “informality” of behavior demanded of them.

Others, on the other hand, easily tell jokes, naturally smile, and radiate confidence.

"I was not born with charm!", "What should I do?" - confess, do you know this train of thought? An unconditional willingness to admit a loser? Thus, to relinquish all responsibility and all the heavy burden of risk and the possibility of failure.

Politeness, etiquette, morality - these things perfectly describe how the average person should behave at a public event. They pave a path for him, along which he will happily run a gray, unnoticed mouse. But while running, he will greedily look around at the supermen of charisma and charm that surround him, to which, unfortunately, he is not destined to join.

Politeness, etiquette, morality - these are exactly the things that you must forget about if you want to prove yourself.

The first and only thing that matters is self-confidence.

Exude Confidence

No, we don't mean to say that you should spit in the face of public opinion, climb naked on the bar, sing a song and crack a disgruntled bartender in the head with a bottle of whiskey. It's just that these concepts should not be restraining barriers that make you doubt your actions and show indecision.

They are the ones that make you fear failure, which is what makes you feel insecure. People are most often afraid to cross the threshold of what is permissible, therefore they do not dare to do anything. Believe me, these boundaries exist only in your head.

Self-confidence is extremely important at events. This is the magic cloak that makes a man out of superman. She works wonders and is almost entirely responsible for the formation of such concepts as "individual style", "image" and "charisma".

But confidence is not something that can be developed overnight. It takes time to create the inner core. However, most people do not take any steps to achieve this long-term goal. Why? Because everyone is sure that his character is given to him by nature, and he cannot be changed. However, many psychologists argue. that a person's character changes throughout life.

Where to start

1. Play a successful person. Imagine that you are an actor and your role is a confident person. You just have to start acting as if you are in no doubt about your actions.

Feeling confident and imitating it perfectly are two things in the eyes of outsiders.

As for you, as you begin to play the role of a determined person, you will gradually begin to feel accordingly. Of course, it won't work out right away, but with practice the skill will come.

Don't be afraid that your role may become comedic - that's commendable too.

2. Always make eye contact. Even with people you don't know. Do not walk with your head down, look people directly in the eyes, do not be shy about it. Unconscious eye contact creates either a sense of closeness or a sense of competition. In any case, this technique is the easiest way to stand out without saying a word.

3. Communicate constantly. Even if you don't know anyone. Forget about your smartphone - the lifesaver of shy people (better leave it at home). Grab yourself by the scruff, drag yourself to the first person you meet, put a smile on your face and cheerfully start a conversation. Then the conversation will start by itself. And if it doesn't work, just walk up to the other person.

4. Don't be afraid to make a mistake.“And if I say something wrong?”, “If I joke unsuccessfully?”, “If they don’t understand me?” - forget about these thoughts. Even if you do something wrong, the real consequences will be much less dire than you imagine. Treat what is happening as a test. Over time, you will feel that you need less and less effort. The naturalness that you have always dreamed of will appear in your actions.

5. Smile and have fun. At all meetings there are people who are the gravitational centers of communication. Around them, enthusiastic interlocutors constantly crowd, they themselves laugh and cheerfully chat about everything in the world. Do you know what makes them different? Ability to enjoy what is happening. This is your main task and ultimate goal.

Once you can play the role of a confident person, you will become confident. When you become confident, you will calm down and stop being afraid of mistakes. And after that, a sincere smile will appear on your face, and an aura of benevolence and sociability will shine around you.

Take care of your appearance

You must look good. But remember, the point of visually preparing yourself for a meeting is not to please others. All of this is needed to increase self-esteem and maintain the necessary determination.

Dress style should be appropriate for the type of event you are attending. But that's not all: choose clothes that are in trend. Even if you have ignored fashion all your life, try wearing something atypical for yourself. Clothes you would never dare to wear. It shouldn't be too bright, but it should make you stand out from the crowd.

You will immediately notice the psychological effect: mild uncertainty will soon be replaced by self-satisfaction thanks to the interested glances thrown in your direction.

Shower, deodorant, decent clothes - these things are implied by default. However, there are some nuances that are extremely important to consider. They may seem obvious to you, but a huge number of people forget about these little things.

Tips for men

1. Get a decent haircut.

2. Get rid of accrete eyebrows.

3. Don't forget your nose hair.

4. Tidy up your beard and mustache, if you have one.

5. Trim your nails.

Tips for women

1. Do not go to a party without a bra, as the flashes of light can make the fabric transparent.

2. If you don't know what to wear, remember: skinny jeans paired with a nice blouse are always a good option.

3. Never wear clothing that is uncomfortable for you.

4. Remember that the line between "sexy" and "vulgar" is very thin.

Leave in time

Whatever vivid impression you leave about yourself, you can completely give up on it without leaving the party in time. If you are visiting, never be the last to leave, but also do not rush to take a leave.

Try to read the signs of fatigue in the eyes and gestures of the owners. If you realize that they are no longer averse to ending the meeting, your public announcement of resignation will encourage others to follow your example. The owners will only be grateful to you.

Regardless of whether the event was formal or friendly, be sure to talk to the hosts or organizers before leaving. Even if the latter are busy entertaining other guests, intervene politely, thank them, and say goodbye.

"Introvert", "social phobia", "misanthrope" - all these are labels that exist only in the minds of people. Do not limit yourself to artificially created concepts. There is nothing and no one more unpredictable, absurd and capable of change than a person. The main thing is to constantly expand your comfort zone. Over time, you will succeed.