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Clitoris myths to forget
Clitoris myths to forget
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Six misconceptions about the most unusual female organ.

Clitoris myths to forget
Clitoris myths to forget

A bit of history

Already in the 13th century, the scientist and father of the church of St. Albertus Magnus voiced that the clitoris and penis are organs that have a common origin and a similar structure. And he even suggested calling them in one word. But this discovery was somehow ignored - in the Middle Ages there was no time.

Urologist Helen O'Connell of Royal Melbourne Hospital had an MRI of the clitoris in 1998, but the American Urological Association published her report Anatomy of the clitoris. only in 2005. In 2009, French researcher Odile Buisson and Dr. Pierre Foldès unveiled the Sonography of the clitoris. the first results of ultrasound of the stimulated clitoris and revealed the connection between the corpora cavernosa and vaginal sensitivity, ending the debate about clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

What is the clitoris

It is a fairly large sensory organ with the head located at the top of the vulva. The function of the clitoris is so striking in the context of the history of female sexuality and society's attitudes towards it that it has been denied for an incredibly long time.

How can an organ be for pleasure only? Let's cut it off with a razor without anesthesia - just in case. According to UNICEF, more than 200 million girls and women have undergone the procedure to remove the clitoris (sometimes along with the labia), according to WHO - 130 million. And this practice is still valid in some countries.

Nevertheless, it is: the function of the clitoris is sexual pleasure.

On its head alone there are 8 thousand nerve endings. For comparison: it is believed that there are half the number of nerve endings on the male clitoris (head of the penis).

Now let's look at the most enduring myths about this organ.

Misconceptions about the clitoris

1. The clitoris is small

For a very long time, it was believed that the head of the clitoris, about 5 mm in size, is the entire clitoris. But it is much more. The head is only the visible part of it, the rest is inside the pelvis. Under the head, the clitoris divides into two cavernous bodies located on the sides of the vagina. They are also responsible for pleasant sensations during penetration - in an excited state, the cavernous bodies are filled with blood and tightly clasp the vagina.

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But that's not all: the clitoris, more precisely the clitoral bulbs, is also responsible for expanding the vagina and increasing sensitivity. They are located deep in the tissues of the labia minora and, when excited, swell, also filling with blood. Orgasm removes blood from the follicles, but if there is no orgasm, the process of releasing the blood can take several hours.

2. The clitoris cannot be found

This is a myth from the series "a woman is a mysterious, mystical creature with magical processes." In an ideal world, every girl knows where her clitoris is, so a partner can simply ask. But we do not live in this (not in a world without a taboo on masturbation, not in a world of open conversations between partners before sex), so here are the simple rules for finding the clitoris from Dr. Lindsay Lowe for those who have never seen a vulva.

  1. Google images of the vulva, better drawn. The vulva can look very different from woman to woman.
  2. Then start marking where the different parts are, such as the labia minora. From them, go higher - where they connect, and there should be a clitoris.
  3. It is better to look for the clitoris on a girl when she is not aroused. Because when aroused, the clitoris is pulled under the foreskin (clitoral hood).

Sometimes the clitoris is completely hidden by the clitoral hood and stimulation does not bring any sensations: in this case, medical removal of the foreskin (as in men) will help to "free" the clitoris. When the clitoris is fully open, its direct stimulation can cause pain, since, recall, it has 8 thousand nerve endings. In this case, it is better to stimulate a place higher than the clitoris - its inner part just begins there.

3. Clitoral orgasm is not real, it is a side effect of vaginal (real)

40,300 - The number of links Google gave for a request for training on vaginal orgasm. It is no longer possible to assert that this function is built into a woman.

The fears surrounding the assumption that vaginal orgasm does not exist seem to be logical. Doesn't a woman need a penis for sex? Will she end up without a man?

I would like to believe that we are in captivity of such reasoning only because of the fear of the degeneration of the population. Because it is easy to deal with it: neither a man nor a woman needs an orgasm for reproduction. Ejaculation will occur without it, the egg will let the sperm in, too, without orgasm.

Let's try to assume that sex is still more than fertilization. And while the scientists have stopped. Does the Vaginal Orgasm Exist? Experts Debate. on the fact that vaginal is a kind of clitoral orgasm, but it is better not to classify them at all: each one achieves orgasm in its own way, with the help of different points of stimulation. Moreover, vaginal orgasm depends on Female Sexual Arousal: Genital Anatomy and Orgasm in Intercourse. from the location of the clitoris. The further away he is from the vagina, the less likely it is to orgasm from penetration alone.

4. It is enough to memorize the theory, and you won't have to talk to your partner

"If I read all the texts and watch all the videos about the cunnilingus technique, I will know what to do with each partner." No. This also applies to girls: if one partner guessed correctly, do not expect that everyone else will also be in the know.

First, see point 2, or better, the vulva gallery. Everyone is different from each other. Secondly, an orgasm begins in the brain, and what, how and when exactly the nerve endings decide to transmit pleasant sensations to it - this is a purely individual matter and depends on a huge number of reasons, in addition to anatomical (mood, posture, success at work, taking medications, the presence or absence of desire, and so on).

Yes, nerve endings are located throughout the body in varying amounts. Where there are more of them, the touch is felt more strongly. But someone gets goosebumps from stroking his back, and someone starts laughing frantically if you try to kiss his neck. So why do we expect one crotch point to work the same for everyone? In addition, if you once found this point with a woman, this does not mean that in a week she will be pleased there too.

The clitoris is not a button that you press to guarantee an orgasm. You need to be in the mood and talk to each other - even if it entails a couple of awkward teaching approaches.

5. Even with a clitoris, female orgasm is too difficult

There is only one difference between male and female orgasms - its maximum duration. But the statement that women always reach orgasm much more slowly is a lie.

Dr. Alfred Kinsey in his works proved that 45% of women reach orgasm during masturbation in an average of 3 minutes. So at least 45% of women know where and how to touch them, so half the problem is solved by talking (see point 4). The second half is consent, desire, attentiveness, patience, awareness and psychological comfort.

6. I would be glad to do kuni, but the girls themselves do not want to

It is difficult to imagine that a man would refuse a quick orgasm in a comfortable environment. So women would not refuse if Cooney would definitely guarantee an orgasm. Many factors can hinder a girl from letting her partner down, one of the most serious is pornography.

Pornography imposes "beauty standards" on genitals not only on men: the same shape of the vagina and the bleached anus are so-so ground for confidence in their own bodies.

Requests for labiaplasty (plastic surgery to change the shape of the folds of the vulva, the size of the labia minora or labia majora) are growing: in 2015, compared to 2014, their number increased by 49%. And 37% of women underwent this operation for aesthetic reasons.

Another important factor may be the inability to talk about her preferences: if a girl decided that it is easier to refuse than to explain what she wants right now, then she will refuse. The inability of a partner to perceive her preferences is also a good reason for refusal - it is better not to have sex than an offended man at the bedside, experiencing an existential crisis from the fact that his macho skills were questioned.

It's time to abandon the myths about the clitoris, remember that it is an amazing, unique, delicate and sensitive organ, and go looking for it. Girls need to find it in themselves and fall in love first of all, and men should be ready to ask questions, hear answers and patiently experiment, because it is more and more difficult to ignore the clitoris.

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