5 rules of life that most people only dream of

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

If you don’t want to live the way most do, do what others don’t do.

Many people do not live the way they want, but the way they are expected to. Their main motivation is to keep up with others. More often than not, their own dreams are lost in the process.

As a result, health deteriorates, because such pretense is very tiring. Relationships suffer, emotional state is disturbed. Even those who, at first glance, have everything for happiness, often just pretend.

However, you are able to build your life so that it is truly happy. While the definitions of success are different for everyone, the five points generally overlap:

• strong relationships with friends and family;
• work that gives a sense of satisfaction;
• self confidence;
• Financial independence;
• a lasting legacy.

You can achieve this by changing the way you approach life. To do this, follow five rules.

1. Take the first step and tell people that you value them

If you can do something to strengthen the relationship, do it. Don't wait for the other person to do something.

If you want to have a truly deep relationship with family, friends, and in general any people in your life, take the first step. Be the first to:

• starts a conversation;
• sends a message;
• says she is bored;
• says he loves;
• asks for forgiveness;
• organizes a meeting;
• makes compliments;
• thanks.

Most cannot say a few simple words that would kickstart a relationship and truly touch another. Don't make this mistake again. Let every person important to you - partner, friend, mentor, relative, colleague - know that you appreciate him.

2. Invest free time in your development

Too many do not get joy and satisfaction from what they do. Even those who have achieved great success are not always happy with their work. This is not necessary. It’s impossible to love every little thing in your job, so don’t quit right away if you don’t like something. Don't turn your life upside down to finally start writing a book or starting an online business.

Develop your talents. Do what you love after work. Over time, you can change it to something that pleases you.

Successful people don't have "free" time. For them, this is the only time when you can do what you want. And they appreciate every minute.

You may have to stay in your current job for a long time for financial stability. But don't waste your free time, invest it in your future. Create an outlet for ideas and hobbies that can then be turned into full-fledged work.

3. Get rid of the burden of the past

Few can say that they are proud of themselves. The reason is often unresolved problems from childhood. Usually they try to just forget about them, but sooner or later they come out and ruin our lives: they destroy our relationships and undermine opportunities.

Deal with these long-standing problems. If you let things go, you will never feel confident.

Emotional baggage by itself is not going anywhere. Time does not heal all wounds; it often takes some effort to heal.

4. Strive for financial independence

You won't save enough money to be free to control your life if your only income is what your boss pays you. As long as you are completely dependent on it, you will not achieve financial independence. Start looking for other sources of income.

It seems to us that if we work harder and longer, we will make our financial dreams come true. But salary alone, no matter how high it may be, will not give it.

Tony Robbins writer, entrepreneur, coach

Many people spend money on unnecessary things. They buy the latest gadgets and expensive cars to impress and keep up with others. Don't fall into this trap. If you want to live differently in the future, live differently from others now.

5. Do something for others

Most do not think about what mark they will leave behind. Remember how The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy described the entire human civilization? "Mostly harmless." So we lead such a "mostly harmless" life without doing anything important.

Many people mistakenly think they have nothing to share with the world. But you have experienced something, learned something. What seems obvious to you may be new and surprising to others. You can help, warn. Tell you how to avoid the mistakes that you made.

Share something. If you were helped, and you help another person. This will leave your own legacy.

To live this way, you need to make a conscious choice. Tell people that you love them. Don't waste your free time. Let go of the emotional baggage that keeps you from moving forward. Learn to provide for yourself and help others.

This is the kind of life most people desperately dream of.