What to do if you are jealous of a colleague

Step 1. Recognize the feeling and embrace it

Start by honestly telling yourself, "I'm jealous." Don't try to suppress your emotions. Suppressed jealousy can be expressed through anger, criticism, or prejudice, and this can harm relationships with colleagues.

Tell yourself that there is nothing wrong with envy. This feeling was labeled a vice and even a mortal sin. But after all, it has been with us since childhood and hardly at least one person is able to boast that he never envied anyone.

Envy is one of the usual human experiences that should not be considered something terrible.

Step 2. Congratulate your colleague from the bottom of your heart

Now that you have realized envy and admitted it to yourself, it's time to brighten it up with positive emotions. Try to heartily congratulate a colleague, approach him at work, or write a congratulatory letter. Do not be hypocritical, set yourself up for a sincere congratulation.

It is important to awaken warm feelings in yourself. Think about the fact that this person has gone to success for a long time, worked hard and now deserves kind words. If there is no reason for congratulatory speeches, just celebrate the achievements of a colleague, praise him.

Step 3. Analyze someone else's success

Think about what your coworker has done to get what they want, and what you can change in your work to be successful as well.

Of course, this is not about imitating or copying the behavior of another person. We know that it is worth comparing ourselves today only with ourselves yesterday, and with no one else. But something useful can be learned from the victories of other people that will help to act more effectively in the future.

If, as a result of the analysis, you extract at least one useful thought, once again mentally thank the person whom you envied.

Gratitude, as well as sincere congratulations, neutralizes envy.

And finally, one more piece of advice. If you are on friendly terms with the object of envy, just think - is it really not profitable for you to have a successful friend? This also has its advantages.:)